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Can't physically deal with something that happened to me earlier. Help.

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Ok.. so I stayed at a friends last night and he drove me home this morning. When I got out the car there was period blood on his car seat. (His car seats are leather so it can be removed easily). I got my period over a week early and I had no idea. When I got out he goes wait, what's this? I knew exactly what it was but made out I didn't. I apologised and quickly said goodbye. I am so embarrassed I keep replaying it over and over and over in my mind and what he must think of me. I sent him a text saying I don't know if you knew what that was in your car but I'm really sorry and am so embarrassed. He replied with I wouldn't worry about it, I'm none the wiser. I haven't known him or his friends for that long and while he is a nice guy I just can't stop thinking 1. What he must think of me and 2. If he will tell his friends.

I probably won't see him until next weekend.. should I bring it up then and just say I'm really sorry and I'm so embarrassed I didn't realise I was on my period it came early?!

or should I not say anything?!

Guys.. if this happened to you what would you think?

I just feel like he thinks it's absolutely disgusting and I know he sort of likes me and I just feel like this will put him completely off. And I feel so bad that he would have had to clean it when he got home.

I can't believe I'm even writing this here I couldn't be any more embarrassed and it's not the kind of embarrassment you can genuinely laugh off.. this is just another level. I feel so bad, I can't stop thinking about it and what he must think of me. I know people reading this will think it's gross but I can't not write about it somewhere and vent what I feel about it cause I feel like I almost want to throw up or self harm over how embarrassed and disgusting I feel. :blush
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Wow, that IS pretty embarrassing.... I'm a guy, so I've got no idea how that must feel. Sorry that happened to you, I guess the only advice I got is, it's a natural bodily function, something you didn't have control over, so don't stress too much ok?

Just tough through it, don't let the embarrassment stop you from your friendships please!

If this happened to me (as the guy), I honestly wouldn't think much of it... I'd be more worried about cleaning up! lol....
With some quick thinking, you could have keeled over and told him you'd just been shot, but had not noticed.

Nah don't worry about it. Us guys have our inappropriately timed erections.. I'm sure he understands it was out of your control.
If he's actually disgusted by it, then he's not a real man and another pansy boy. It's something you can't control, same goes for man and his untimely erections. Just one of those things that you brush off and move on.
Us guys have our inappropriately timed erections.. I'm sure he understands it was out of your control.
It's something you can't control, same goes for man and his untimely erections. Just one of those things that you brush off and move on.
Is the whole inappropriately timed erections thing all that popular?! Nothing like that's happened to me in my life, I guess I don't really get "random" ones though... It doesn't seem that common of a thing to me... :b
If he likes you he wont give a ****. Its not like you could control it.
Hopefully it turns into a casually laughable situation quickly even if it's that slightly nervous laughter.

If that happened to me, being the guy that is, I see myself defusing the embarrassment with some well placed stories riddled with hyperbole. I would start, "That's nothing!, I once was the only guy on the color guard and we toured for 3 months straight and all lived on a single greyhound bus, needless to say...."

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Oh, I have no practical advise really, but he did text 'I wouldn't worry about it', right? That's what you should do... not worry about it.
You've already apologized, don't say anything more about it. Stuff happens. We're human.
Aw, don't feel bad. :squeeze You have nothing to feel ashamed of. It was beyond your control. Sometimes those things happen. I have my share of embarrassing period-related stories, believe me.

It was only a little bit of blood. If he's a decent person then he won't make you feel bad about it or judge you.
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