[La_Resistance]

I'll try to make a long story short. I have a friend I've known for about 7 years. Back when we were teenagers we used to hang out together almost on a daily basis. Then he started doing what normal people do, go to bars, clubs, party's, pick up chicks ect... He's basically the outgoing type. We used to have like a group and we'd always hang out together. All the guys from the group eventually had girlfriends, and did things in couples...I felt like a loser, the odd man out and a little jealous or envious of him/them so I started avoiding them and slowly completely stopped hanging out with them.

This friend however I still kept in touch with and saw him every now and then because we play hockey together. But didn't hang out much for other things.

About a month ago he talked me into going to Cancun for a week vacation. I've turned down so many invitations and occasions in my life that I finally accepted and got thrilled about the whole experience. My idea of going to the south was more of relaxing on the beach, drinking and having a good time.

But I later found out that the idea of my friend going there was to go to clubs, pick up chicks and bang as many as many chicks he could. His girlfriend his not coming along, and she told me yesterday that the only reason she's letting her boyfriend go there without her is because I'll be there, and I guess she considers me as a ''good boy'' :roll . And then I found out that my friend is also bringing along one of his other friend who is a real party outgoing type, and he doesn't want his girlfriend to know that this guy is coming because he kind of has a bad reputation. Maybe he had planned this all along with this other guy and used me as an excuse to his girlfriend, but I can't be sure of that.

I suddenly feel that I'm going to be out of place. And the excitement I had build up to go there is gone. We were supposed to leave in about a week, I had made all arrangements with my passport and everything but I've decided I'm not gonna go. :no

Thoughts?

 

[Brightpaperwarewolf]

Don't let them spoil a perhaps once in a life experience. Don't depend on other people for happiness. Instead, see it as a beach, a place to relax, a place to meet a lot of people and a lot of hot chicks tanning on the beach. If you don't feel you want to hang out with these kids, be free to roam around and make the most of the trip.

Why bother to cancel, it's Cancun baby! I traveled many places and I never been to Mexico.

 

[La_Resistance]

Don't let them spoil a perhaps once in a life experience. Don't depend on other people for happiness. Instead, see it as a beach, a place to relax, a place to meet a lot of people and a lot of hot chicks tanning on the beach. If you don't feel you want to hang out with these kids, be free to roam around and make the most of the trip.

Why bother to cancel, it's Cancun baby! I traveled many places and I never been to Mexico.

Thanks for the comment, but I'm not going on a trip alone, it wouldn't make any sense and I would feel like a total loser.

 

[Freedom2010]

Thanks for the comment, but I'm not going on a trip alone, it wouldn't make any sense and I would feel like a total loser.

Plenty of people go on trips alone. How would wanting to have fun on your own make you a loser? You should go and have a great time- with or without your friend.

 

[La_Resistance]

I think my original post was mis-understood.

Never mind.

 

[erdecis]

If I were in your shoes, I'd probably do the same (though it might depend a little on how much money I've already dropped on the trip) - and maybe even tell your "friend's" gf about his sleazy intentions. Hate to say it but he may not be much of a friend if he just wants to use you...

 

[La_Resistance]

If I were in your shoes, I'd probably do the same (though it might depend a little on how much money I've already dropped on the trip) - and maybe even tell your "friend's" gf about his sleazy intentions. Hate to say it but he may not be much of a friend if he just wants to use you...

Thanks for understanding my point of view.

To answer your question, so far I've spent 0$ on the trip except for 89$ I had to spend to get my passport ready, but that's no biggie. We actually planned on waiting and getting one of those cheap last minute deals when you book like 2 days in advance.

I would never tell about my friend's intentions to his girlfriend. I would never stab a friend in the back. NEVER! After all he is my friend and I've known this guy for a long time.

About him using me, I thought about this alot and still can't make up my mind if his real intention was to use me, or if he good willingly and genuinely wanted me to go with him. We do get along well and always have. I'm not sure... but would be more inclined to giving him the benefit of the doubt. I will never know for sure, but the possibility he did is still there.

 

[jaayhou]

You know, you could go and just abstain from the other stuff those guys do. Personally, I think "spring breakers" are ruining Mexico. IMO the entire point of leaving the country is to experience another culture in another land. You can bang chicks and suck down hard liquor in the U.S. too.

You have a perfectly legitimate reason for canceling, but if you decide to go you should plan your own activities centered around what you actually want to do. There's no shame in wanting to lay on the beach and drink Mai-Tais all day. I'd honestly lose a little respect for the person who tells me he went to Mexico just to drink and go clubbing.

 

[La_Resistance]

You know, you could go and just abstain from the other stuff those guys do. Personally, I think "spring breakers" are ruining Mexico. IMO the entire point of leaving the country is to experience another culture in another land. You can bang chicks and suck down hard liquor in the U.S. too.

You have a perfectly legitimate reason for canceling, but if you decide to go you should plan your own activities centered around what you actually want to do. There's no shame in wanting to lay on the beach and drink Mai-Tais all day. I'd honestly lose a little respect for the person who tells me he went to Mexico just to drink and go clubbing.

If we were a larger group, and if I knew some of them weren't into the clubbing/partying thing, I would've gone...but in this case we'll be 3 guys, 2 of them who are gonna be party freaks, I'll just feel left out I'm sure...

 

[Brightpaperwarewolf]

Yeah you might be alone, but why be afraid of being alone, having fun by yourself? What are you are going to at home that's so special that you'll need to stay behind?

You don't have to party with them, find a party more suited for you. Not all partying is treated equal. Everyone likes to have fun, mingle with people and have a good time. Some might like just a party of two, some might like a party of 1000. Some people like sex drugs and rock and roll. Other enjoys a gathering, eating food and getting high on life. Some people like posh and elegance, other like the grimy, dirty gritty underground and others who like something totally different. Some like sophisticated events, others like down-to-earth. But you wouldn't know unless you look at yourself and realize this is who you are. The other thing is to try it, because if you don't, how do you know if you wouldn't like it?

If they're leaving you out, they're cockfeathers to begin with. If it were me, I'd be milking them, then ditch them for attempting to do something like that. Find yourself and explore the world. Don't let these dudes hold you back.

 

[aviationboy]

ive seen the movie "the real cancun", and if there is any truth to that film, i suggest you high tail it to cancun!
considering how drunk all those girls will be, just drink a few beers yourself and you should be fine.

 

[erdecis]

To answer your question, so far I've spent 0$ on the trip except for 89$ I had to spend to get my passport ready, but that's no biggie. We actually planned on waiting and getting one of those cheap last minute deals when you book like 2 days in advance.

Oh, that's not bad at all then, and a passport's nice to have.

Not to be nosy and all up in your business or anything, but what was your friend's reaction to you not going? And by the way, sorry if I seemed to be implying that your friend may be some sort of jerk; it's just the impression I got from your original post...

 

[La_Resistance]

Oh, that's not bad at all then, and a passport's nice to have.

Not to be nosy and all up in your business or anything, but what was your friend's reaction to you not going? And by the way, sorry if I seemed to be implying that your friend may be some sort of jerk; it's just the impression I got from your original post...

I haven't told him yet. I was planning on giving him the news within the next couple of days. Reason why I'm waiting this long is because I still want to give myself time if ever I change my mind and decide to go. But so far, I don't think I'll go.