I'm in my 5th year of University (final semester).
Throughout all these years...
- Did not work or have a real paid job
- Did not make any long-term friend. And as a guy, not even a female friend. Most of people I knew were classmate acquiantaces.
- Never joined a club on campus (I'm actually trying to join one this semester).
- Commuted to school while still living with my parents.
- Still have trouble holding a conversation (English is not my parent native language). Thus, when you're islolated with no one to talk to, you have trouble forming verbal conservation.
- Avoided many opportunies for fear of social interaction.
- Thus, did not had the 'college experience' or develop a sense of independency nor social maturity in college.
However, there's more to which I can go into detailed on including cultural differences within my family and some family problems we're facing.
But believe it or not, I was accusstomed to being a loner throughout my life in school. I did not felt anything was wrong with me at ALL nor the thought of social anxiety came to mind. You could say I was introverted type. It wasn't until the end of junior year in college that I stumbled upon this messageboard, the feeling of not having any friends, I realized I need to make a change in my behavior and lifestyle.
I suppose it's not SA to many of us until we think you have some problems that need to be improve. In my case, I felt fine all these years - but the feeling of "having something wrong" with me prompted me to want to change. Anxiety working to me help, I guess. But I still think SA is nothing more than a label though.
Most of the posting in the student forums thus far I noticed are made mostly by freshmen/sophmore and issues about living in a dorm. Well, be glad you guys are not in position I am - you still have a few years ahead in college to improve your skills and plus you're not living in the dorm, which gives and force you to interact with other people.
My issue is not really as bad as it sounds, but is there anyone here who can relate?
Throughout all these years...
- Did not work or have a real paid job
- Did not make any long-term friend. And as a guy, not even a female friend. Most of people I knew were classmate acquiantaces.
- Never joined a club on campus (I'm actually trying to join one this semester).
- Commuted to school while still living with my parents.
- Still have trouble holding a conversation (English is not my parent native language). Thus, when you're islolated with no one to talk to, you have trouble forming verbal conservation.
- Avoided many opportunies for fear of social interaction.
- Thus, did not had the 'college experience' or develop a sense of independency nor social maturity in college.
However, there's more to which I can go into detailed on including cultural differences within my family and some family problems we're facing.
But believe it or not, I was accusstomed to being a loner throughout my life in school. I did not felt anything was wrong with me at ALL nor the thought of social anxiety came to mind. You could say I was introverted type. It wasn't until the end of junior year in college that I stumbled upon this messageboard, the feeling of not having any friends, I realized I need to make a change in my behavior and lifestyle.
I suppose it's not SA to many of us until we think you have some problems that need to be improve. In my case, I felt fine all these years - but the feeling of "having something wrong" with me prompted me to want to change. Anxiety working to me help, I guess. But I still think SA is nothing more than a label though.
Most of the posting in the student forums thus far I noticed are made mostly by freshmen/sophmore and issues about living in a dorm. Well, be glad you guys are not in position I am - you still have a few years ahead in college to improve your skills and plus you're not living in the dorm, which gives and force you to interact with other people.
My issue is not really as bad as it sounds, but is there anyone here who can relate?