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Is it possible for people with little or no friends due to social anxiety to become content? I've always wanted to be social cause I extroverted people having such a good time, but are they really having a good time on the inside? I hear people complaining about how miserable their lives are because of something, and I think "Well, at least you've got friends to listen to your problems" but then I think, would I be the same way if I didn't have SA?

I've talked to people online who have said they don't care that they have no real life friends, they're happy with being alone. Is such a thing really possible for us? I know extroverts have a good time, but if we tried, could we have a good time on our own? People always say life is better with friends, but most of those people are social butterflies, so how would they know?

Sorry if I've offended anybody with this post. Just thinking, probably a little too much.
 

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I've accepted that i'm probably going to be alone the rest
of my life so I guess that makes me content.
 

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Personally I'm terrified of being alone when I'm old. When your young it's O.K. cos you can look after yourself.
 

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I've said it before & I'll say it again, I've often felt lonely amongst people & rarely so when alone, so in that regard I can find contentment in solitude. That said everyone should probably have 2 or 3 friends minimum so as to not be completely alone
 

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Contentment comes from within you and your attitude and is not dependent from other people!

If you always want to be someone else than who you are and always want something other than what you can get, you will never be content.

Maybe it's an age thing, but lately I'm quite content. I know and accept who I am, and what I try to achieve is kind of in line with what I am capable of to manage despite my SA.
 

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I am content with my life. I've lived on my own for the last 21 years. I do things and go places because I want to. I know what my anxiety triggers are and how to avoid them.
 

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Content or maybe resigned that this is how it is? Maybe some SAers don't feel it's a choice for them to be alone but a burden they're powerless to shake.
 

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I know I'll never be content or happy as long as I have SA. When I'm alone for long periods of time and feel anxiety while around others, it makes me feel so damn depressed. Earlier this year, my anxiety and depression was the worst it has ever been and thought repeatedly of killing myself. Being alone for 3 years with no close friends or even friends to hang out with on weekends took a huge toll on my mental health. I HATE, HATE being alone and if I'm condemned to a life of loneliness, I KNOW I will commit suicide. No doubt in my mind.
I torture myself by constantly thinking of how great the lives of social butterflies must be. Especially this one outgoing, pretty girl that asked me to prom and I couldn't even look at her, and now, I find myself thinking of how much better her social life is than mine and all the parties she attends and all her f*ckin friends and her new f*cking boyfriend.

We're social creatures and if we can't be social, what's the point in living?? Though, I'm sure there really are people who enjoy living in seclusion and being antisocial. Afterall, we're all different.

I'm trying my best to overcome it and will do EVERYTHING in my power to beat it. My hope/optimism that I will improve is the only reason my depression has lessened recently. I hope I will make good enough progress once university starts in september because I can't imagine being a social outcast there also.....
 

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I don't know if I'll ever be content with my life but I am slowly working on making things better.
 

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I won't be content with the way things are now. I'm going to keep trying to improve. If I'm not successful, I hope that I'll at least be content in that I gave it my best.

I don't let SA completely prevent me from enjoying myself, though. I can now go out and do hobbies and other things that I enjoy. For that aspect of my life, I'm mostly content.
 

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I'm content, but I'm not happy. It's not like I can actually say that I don't wish for real-life friends, or activities to do outside of the house... because as it is, I have neither. At the same time, things could be ten times worse, because I could have no one at all to talk to and nothing to do, even if it is online or in the house. I certainly plan on being happy eventually (soon?), I just need to figure out how first.
 

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Is it possible for people with little or no friends due to social anxiety to become content? I've always wanted to be social cause I extroverted people having such a good time, but are they really having a good time on the inside? I hear people complaining about how miserable their lives are because of something, and I think "Well, at least you've got friends to listen to your problems" but then I think, would I be the same way if I didn't have SA?

I've talked to people online who have said they don't care that they have no real life friends, they're happy with being alone. Is such a thing really possible for us? I know extroverts have a good time, but if we tried, could we have a good time on our own? People always say life is better with friends, but most of those people are social butterflies, so how would they know?

Sorry if I've offended anybody with this post. Just thinking, probably a little too much.
This is good observation and a tough question to answer. I think it's certainly possible for SAers with no friends to become content. Some people even prefer to be loners. I think we SAers are somewhat biased in thinking that others who have friends or are SA free or whatever have no real problems but I mean there are a ton of other issues out there that people can and do have to deal with. It just seems those things would be much easier to deal with if you weren't going through them alone like a lot of SAers are forced to. Lonliness sucks but there are tons of pople out there with other issues we don't even consider or think about who I'm sure have things just as tough.
 

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It really depends. I believe that everyone has something that they aren't happy about. Most social people I know have other problems in their lives such as family issues, or even painful drama between them and their friends. I really do believe that one can live a good life even if they don't have a huge circle of friends. After all, friends are only a small part of so many other aspects of life.
 

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Currently, I am pretty happy. This past school year and the ones before, I've had bouts of depression and suicidal thoughts, but I'm optimistic about the future. Luckily, I do not hate myself. I believe I'm intelligent and will probably get a decent job, though I worry somewhat about getting stuck with a job I don't like. Since a job takes up a large chunk of the day, doing something I didn't like could send me into a depression. I think that the biggest reason why I don't do much now is that I don't have money. I look forward to having a real job, so that I can afford hobbies, and then I think I will take up some hobbies like skiing and rock climbing by myself. I am one of those people that actually does enjoy solitude. Some friends are always good, but I'm most comfortable by myself. There is probably some danger element to this, since I want to take up some dangerous hobbies, but do them alone. I don't want to pull an aron ralston and have to cut off my hand (or any other emergency brought about by being alone)...time will tell.
 

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I don't think anyone naturally wants to not have any friends at all, but I think some people like to have fewer friends. Some people aren't as social.

I am still working on this issue myself, and I tend to be a lot by myself. Although I also live with housemates. Partly for me I think it is bc of SA, I only feel truly comfortable when I'm by myself, or sometimes with just one other person, out socially, I can feel good. Group situations always feel stressful for me, not easy and good. So I push myself a bit to do that type of thing, and then mostly alone.

I also have the hope to build some more satisfying relationships with other people. I am working on that!

I do also think more time alone leads to more alienation and difficulty in being with other people. So I think it's always good to think about what your goals are, and take some actions to stretch yourself a little, put yourself out there a bit.
 

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Is it possible for people with little or no friends due to social anxiety to become content? I've always wanted to be social cause I extroverted people having such a good time, but are they really having a good time on the inside? I hear people complaining about how miserable their lives are because of something, and I think "Well, at least you've got friends to listen to your problems" but then I think, would I be the same way if I didn't have SA?

I've talked to people online who have said they don't care that they have no real life friends, they're happy with being alone. Is such a thing really possible for us? I know extroverts have a good time, but if we tried, could we have a good time on our own? People always say life is better with friends, but most of those people are social butterflies, so how would they know?

Sorry if I've offended anybody with this post. Just thinking, probably a little too much.
it depends on the person. some people can be content with being alone

more me im confy , not content, being alone. i like being alone cos its the only time that i dont feel anxious. if i didnt feel anxious around people then i would hate being alone. the only reason i like being alone is cos its the only time i can relax
 

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I reckon you could be content with a minimal level of socialising with a few friends and enjoy hobbies. You don't have to become an extrovert, it is up to you whether you need to learn to go out to parties and more social things or be content with a few small changes.
 

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Do you want to be content in your SA? If so then that's fine so long as you aren't kidding yourself. Otherwise you need to stop making out that you can be content in your SA and start doing something about it.
 

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Sometimes i feel content. but at the end of the day, or when i look at the big picture, i realize that, I want and deserve more out of life. There are so many things that i want to see and do. And some of them i cant, because sa holds me back....

I have frequent bouts with depression and suicidal thoughts(every week, just about) as well...but i always try to realize that there is more i want out of life..
 
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