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I have watched a load of video's recently on B.D.D. sufferers being interviewed. I couldn't help but notice the large amount of them who have girlfriends or boyfriends. While they were cleary distressed from having B.D.D., I just find it impossible to understand how they can be in a relationship with someone while they have B.D.D. Rachel Baughan, for eg, the worlds most famous (and perhaps most beautiful) B.D.D. sufferer mentioned in her videos how her long term boyfriend was one of the main people who helped her during her worst worst times. This is just one example among other video of B.D.D. sufferers who have mentioned boyfriends and girlfriends in their videos. It just doesn't make sense to me how if they have B.D.D., that they can maintain relationships.

Generally speaking , I can understand how someone with B.D.D. can have plenty of one night stands. The reality is, a lot of them are decent looking individuals, and if they were having a good day, as in a confident assertive mood, of course they have the potential to take that final step and make a move towards kissing a member of the opposite sex and possibly more. I just don't understand though how anyone with B.D.D. can go into a relationship.
 

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How can one tell the difference between BDD and just self-critical/perfectionist tendencies with respect to one's physical appearance? And I'm not talking about narcissism or vanity here. It just seems that with all the tv/modeling/porn/advertising almost everybody is made to feel a bit flawed. Especially people with SAD/introversion/AS/HSPs who may tend to be more sensitive and self-critical to begin with, I think. What I'm saying is that a lot of BDD might stem from societal factors. Every stupid show on tv talks about fashion, looks, physique, anti-aging, etc. It's hard to avoid it.
 

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How can one tell the difference between BDD and just self-critical/perfectionist tendencies with respect to one's physical appearance? And I'm not talking about narcissism or vanity here. It just seems that with all the tv/modeling/porn/advertising almost everybody is made to feel a bit flawed. Especially people with SAD/introversion/AS/HSPs who may tend to be more sensitive and self-critical to begin with, I think. What I'm saying is that a lot of BDD might stem from societal factors. Every stupid show on tv talks about fashion, looks, physique, anti-aging, etc. It's hard to avoid it.
This is exactly what the media is trying to do. The more insecure people feel, especially women, the more likely they are to get plastic surgery, botox, use make-up, and spend their money on beauty products. Sometimes when I am in line at the grocery store, I flip through celebrity magazine and see tons of images of air-brushed women. It's no surprise that those magazines are also full of ads for diet products and beauty products!

Those magazines show these airbrushed women who are made to look slimmer and younger and I see at least three weight loss ads and three anti-aging ads in every magazine. Plus, watching any TV channel that is mainly for women you will see tons of anti-aging commercials. Now they even make anti-aging body washes and anti-aging lip balms, etc. Every week they come up with some new look younger product! This is why B.D.D. exists!
 

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I have watched a load of video's recently on B.D.D. sufferers being interviewed. I couldn't help but notice the large amount of them who have girlfriends or boyfriends. While they were cleary distressed from having B.D.D., I just find it impossible to understand how they can be in a relationship with someone while they have B.D.D. Rachel Baughan, for eg, the worlds most famous (and perhaps most beautiful) B.D.D. sufferer mentioned in her videos how her long term boyfriend was one of the main people who helped her during her worst worst times. This is just one example among other video of B.D.D. sufferers who have mentioned boyfriends and girlfriends in their videos. It just doesn't make sense to me how if they have B.D.D., that they can maintain relationships.

Generally speaking , I can understand how someone with B.D.D. can have plenty of one night stands. The reality is, a lot of them are decent looking individuals, and if they were having a good day, as in a confident assertive mood, of course they have the potential to take that final step and make a move towards kissing a member of the opposite sex and possibly more. I just don't understand though how anyone with B.D.D. can go into a relationship.
They are decent-looking in your opinion, but that is the nature of B.D.D. People think of themselves as ugly even if others see them differently. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and in their eyes they are ugly.
 

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And they answer the same question back to you, "Why do you even have SA?" You can't subjectively allude how their mind works or how they perceive themselves. You can't put into your own words how they feel about their body cause you're not living in their shoes.
 
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