Has anyone thought of or tired to tell another person EXACTLY how they feel living with SA and how it affects your life, in all the gory details? I feel that every person I meet, I want to be able to tell them what I am going through and just share with another person just how bad I'm feeling on the inside. I know exactly what I'd say, describe in complete detail how SA impedes my life and how it manifests itself in absolutely everything I do.
Has anyone tried doing this, and what was the reaction? I know most people wont understand what Im going through, but I've met some really great people recently and I just want to tell them how I feel to have another person out there know what I am going through.
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im scared to over up to anyone but whn i meet a persn who is nice to me, and doe not judge me and i know 100% that they like meand would never criticise , ridicule , reject or embarrass me i have no problem opening up to them.
i spent many years being in denial about my SA but in 2004 i reached the point were i was completely out of denial and i had no problem what so ever admitted my weeknesses. i got to the point were i was actually pulling myhair out cos i had to tell someone what i was going through. i was 22 years old by then and id spent 22 years holding all of this
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so every night when i got home from work id go straight to my bedroom and just write for hours and hours . i was writing my life story - hwat happend when i was a kid, my parents , living with sa my whole life, being scared of girls etc....
i just wrote everything down and after a few weeks i had wrote about 100 pages of a4 paper front and back
it felt good to get it all out but i still needed someone else to read it. these 2 woman in work had been really nice to me. they didnt judge judge me, they liked me and i knew they wouldnt criticse me or anything. over the course of that year they had become like mother or sister figures to me .
so i asked them both to read wha i wrote. i brought it into work and gave it to hem. they took it home and read it. i didnt leave one stone unturned, it was warts and all. they both knew meinside out after that and they understood.
it felt great
also i ahd a newspaper article written on me in 2008 , it was about my sa. basically i told the reporter that i have no friends, no girlfriend , that im scared of girls , and that i used to saty in and watch tv all of the time. i had no probs with my neighboruhood reading about my problems int he local paper - if you google david mckenna - bootle (or bootle times ) you should find th article. i think its titled - putting his phobia int he shadows or something like that
my advise to you would be write down your problems on a piece of paper and then let somebody else read it . if you havent got anyone in life that you trust then just go and see a cunsellor and let them read i . one word of caution though - dont write 100 pages like i did. if someone gave me 100 pages to read of thr problems id be like '' eeerrr hello ive got a life yu know. i havent got time for this''. i wasn thinking like that at the time and i realise asking someone to read that much was a bit inaproprite
just make it short and sweet