My parents always cared about me, but I didn't feel like they really cared if I did anything with my life, I always felt like they didn't like me socializing or talking with anyone. I remember having severe social anxiety when I was 3. I was terrified of people, afraid they'd hurt me. I was terrified of communication and I never felt capable or worthy of talking to people. I deeply doubted myself and deeply doubted my abilities to socialize.Drella's_Rock_Follies said:I don't think that social anxiety leads to avoidant personality disorder. Like most disorders, anxiety is a likely byproduct.
Causes of AvPD:
1 of many explanations:
Being born with a difficult temperament or personality characteristics which makes their parents reject them or at least not provide them with enough early, uncritical love. This rejection may result in low self-esteem, social alienation.. conditions that persist into adulthood. People with AvPD are more likely to recall their parents as being more rejecting, more guilt engendering, and less affectionate than the control group. They are more likely to report childhood experiences of isolation, rejection, and conflict with others . . . . because the problems experienced by people with AvPD resemble those of social phobia, many of the same treatments are used.
This was from one of my psychology text books.
Another difference between the two is that AvPD is that it begins in early childhood and is lifelong. Social anxiety has a mean age of onset in mid-adolescence, I believe (I don't feel like checking.) People suffering from any personality disorder are less likely to benefit from treatment. Basically, AvPD is severe social anxiety; It begins earlier and lasts indefinitely. Anxiety has a high success rate of being lessened; that's not the case with a personality disorder.
Because insurance companies don't reimburse for treatment of personality disorders. So the diagnoses always magically cluster around Axis I conditions like social anxiety, depression, etc., and "somehow" ignore Axis II (personality) conditions. I think it's a joke. It's rooted in the idea (false) that people with personality disorders can't change.perfectlycalm said:Whenever I read about APD it sounds a lot like me. But how could 4 psychiatrists, a nurse practitioner, a therapist, and two autistic specialists miss it?
Kids bullied me in school, but I withdrew before I even got teased, I withdrew when I stepped on the bus the first day of school before I got to school. When I did get teased it just made me worse.breydonlee said:I have social anxiety as well as avoidance. The only time I have contact with people is when I go to work or to the supermarket. I dont know any people on a personal level, never get visitors or the phone never rings. I live by myself and if it wasnt for my job I wouldnt talk to anyone at all.
I started avoiding people when I was at school and being bullied which is where it all started. I have always been shy and sensitive and very self conscious. The way I coped with the bullying at the time was the worst thing I could do. I withdrew into myself, put the walls up and turned into a loner overnight, if anyone tried to be friendly I used to be rude to them so that they would keep their distance, I was sick of being hurt by people and that was over 20 years ago. I'm alot worse now.