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Ever since middle school, it's been a very uncomfortable experience for me to interact with girls (see guys? Girls have these problems as well.)

I don't know what to say to them. When they say stuff to me, this is my reaction: :eek: Its hard to keep eye contact, let alone be touched. And one thing that really, really bothers me when girls try to get physically touchy feely with me.

Girls usually kiss each other on the cheek, or hug, or get really close. The thought makes me squeamish. But, I am in no way shape or form homophobic. I find some women very attractive. It's just the common day girls that I don't understand.

I've only had a few girl friends, and we were pretty close. Not ever physically, but we loved to laugh and bring each other happiness. We never took pictures together, not with our heads together or anything. When I get in a group with girls, everything goes south and I get sooo awkward.

PS. I am definitely not insecure when it comes to other girls. I just don't know how to act around them.
 

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I totally feel you on this one. I feel like I'm so far from a typical girl sometimes. When I'm around them, I'm either rolling my eyes and saying, "ooOOoOkkaayyyy...." or I'm feeling like I'm being judged. I don't interact with them the same as they do with each other. I only have a couple girls I consider friends, and I hug them, but otherwise, I'm pretty unaffectionate.

I feel sometimes like I have the upper hand because I'm not a ****ty ditz, but that doesn't make me feel any more comfortable around them. I don't talk about clothes, guys, shopping, or whatever it is that girls talk about... I have nothing to bring to a conversation with normal broads. But, my life is pretty drama free as far as that goes, so I'm ok with it.
 

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I have problems interacting with everyone regardless of their sex. I guess around women I feel more pressure, though, because I'm expected to know how to act around them. With guys it's the pressure that they'll think I'm hitting on them when most of the time I just want to be their friend...

Anyways, I drifted away from the question a bit, but my point is that socializing with anyone is an issue for me, but their sex influences the reason for that anxiety. However, I get along particularly well with people ages 10-12. I have the sense of humor of a prepubescent kid, and in our world fart jokes and riding bikes are the ****.
 

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I have problems interacting with everyone regardless of their sex. I guess around women I feel more pressure, though, because I'm expected to know how to act around them. With guys it's the pressure that they'll think I'm hitting on them when most of the time I just want to be their friend...

Anyways, I drifted away from the question a bit, but my point is that socializing with anyone is an issue for me, but their sex influences the reason for that anxiety. However, I get along particularly well with people ages 10-12. I have the sense of humor of a prepubescent kid, and in our world fart jokes and riding bikes are the ****.
Likewise. My students (all girls) range from about 8-15 and they're all my best buddies. I'd hang out with them all the time if it wasn't weird. The oldest one has more in common with me than most people my age.
 

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I don't know what to say to them. When they say stuff to me, this is my reaction: :eek: Its hard to keep eye contact, let alone be touched. And one thing that really, really bothers me when girls try to get physically touchy feely with me.
YES. This is exactly my problem, I always come off like a cold ice queen haha. I used to have really close friends but I never hugged them much or touched them or cuddled with them. And ugh, when I meet someone new or an acquaintance, and they put their arms out to hug me, it feels forced and awkward.

And anything past that, like being intimate with girls, makes me a nervous wreck. Touching/being touched sends like, uncomfortable chills up my spine D:
 

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I don't know what to say to them. When they say stuff to me, this is my reaction: :eek:
Ah, me too! I find it weird what women my age usually talk about, and don't understand their behavior. :no

Nobody's ever touched me at all, as you described, which I am thankful for. (Though my boss did jokingly smack my knee with the back of his hand once, which really threw me. If it wasn't right before a lecture I had to give that I was really stressed about, I would have definitely said something to him. It was one of those "You, sir, have just crossed the line!" moments.)

Anyway, I am in a male-dominated field, so I rarely talk to women on a daily basis. Maybe that's my problem. Still, I don't appreciate what a lot of guys find it OK to talk about casually either. It's like I don't fit in anywhere. Haha
 

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I know what do you mean. Its hard for me to relate to most girls, I like being touchy feely, but just with some particular people, aside from that I don't know what to say when talking with them. Like someone else mentioned its the pressure that gets to my nerves.
 

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Yes, I totally agree with this post! Admittedly I am a little insecure with other girls, but overall I just don't feel like I have much to talk about with them. I'll get involved in a conversation and admit I don't know much about makeup/facials/celebrity gossip/real housewives of whatever city and they're just like, "Aw! How cute!" But 13-16 year olds usually think I'm pretty cool so there's that. :high5
 

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I don't seem to have more problems interacting with females than with males (I have trouble with both!), but your comment about how touchy-feely some girls are really hit home. When I was little my friend was always wanting to braid my long hair and it drove me crazy, I did not want her touching my hair!! :x But then again I've always had issues with being touched and having my "personal space" invaded, not sure why. (Plus I find things like playing with somebody's hair dreadfully boring.) URGH I hate touchy-feely behavior.

Unfortunately, being touchy-feely seems to be quite common in young girls. Braiding each other's hair, painting each other's nails, WTF! I never understood that, myself. Then again I don't understand adult women's (in general) fascination with collecting handbags and shoes, either. :no But I digress.
 

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I am fine on a one to one basis. If I meet another lady and there is nobody else around we usually get on great and make friends straight away. But I have always found if it's a group, it's always difficult.

When I went to university, I made this amazing friend and it was basically us two and a guy. There was also this group but the two of us had met each other before the group so she made sure I wasn't left out. When she left, I had a love/hate relationship with the two girls. Funnily enough, I got on so well with the guys and they always made me feel so welcome. In the second year, one of the girls invited me as class was cancelled on the first day. I thought we got on really well and was excited but then she just went strange on me and was alway hot and cold.

Later in the year I made a new female friend. We got on so well because there was no other girls and only one guy. My friend didn't get on with the group so it was a nice friendship as I didn't feel threatened.

So basically if I met a lady and we were stuck somewhere (eg waiting for bus), we would probably strike up conversation and get on well. The problem would only start if she was with her friends as women in groups always act quite strange with me.

Sorry for the long post.
 

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During primary and high school I always had a group of female friends. Granted, we weren't super close but our friendships were not that bad. And I had no trouble interacting with females back then.

Now I have trouble interacting with both sexes. It's because I'm in "mating" mode now and with attractive females all I think about is being with them rather then being their friend. And with guys I feel judged by them so I avoid them, although I've never had any really bad experiences with them as most of the guys I have interacted with have always been nice to me.

It's because I feel odd compared to other girls and wonder why would they want to talk to me when they could talk to a hot and bubbly girl.
 

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Ah, me too! I find it weird what women my age usually talk about, and don't understand their behavior. :no

Nobody's ever touched me at all, as you described, which I am thankful for. (Though my boss did jokingly smack my knee with the back of his hand once, which really threw me. If it wasn't right before a lecture I had to give that I was really stressed about, I would have definitely said something to him. It was one of those "You, sir, have just crossed the line!" moments.)

Anyway, I am in a male-dominated field, so I rarely talk to women on a daily basis. Maybe that's my problem. Still, I don't appreciate what a lot of guys find it OK to talk about casually either. It's like I don't fit in anywhere. Haha
i thought you were a boy this whole time :b
 

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I don't know what to say to them. When they say stuff to me, this is my reaction: :eek: Its hard to keep eye contact, let alone be touched. And one thing that really, really bothers me when girls try to get physically touchy feely with me.

Girls usually kiss each other on the cheek, or hug, or get really close. The thought makes me squeamish. But, I am in no way shape or form homophobic. I find some women very attractive. It's just the common day girls that I don't understand.

PS. I am definitely not insecure when it comes to other girls. I just don't know how to act around them.
Totally relate to the touching. for me, I get squeamish bc I usually don't know how to receive or reciprocate physical contact in regular friendly situations. It's weird cause I'm fine when I'm with someone I'm seeing.

When in a group situation, I act as if I've walked onto the set of mean girls.
Even if they're normal nice people, they terrify me.
 

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I seem to get lost in the midst of everything, and then they just decide I'm strange or uninterested in what they're doing and move on. The best I can hope for, is giving them support or advice, but...I can't say I'm the one they go to when they're happy or want to do something fun lol
 

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I think its easier to talk to guys.. they are less sensitive, judgemental, and ready to talk sh*t about you than girls. At least that's my experience.. girls are way more harsh on eachother and think everyone is competition. Of course this is a general statement. Not everyone is like that. It seems like the more outgoing the girl is, the more this is true though. But again, just generalizing.
 

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Yeah I have issues with getting close to girls (as friends). I just could never relate. When I was younger, I wanted to play dodgeball, not play dress-up or do nails. And guys are always so much cooler considering we can openly discuss zombies .. or even porn.

Also, I am sometimes intimidated by other girls. Like if they're prettier or more outgoing than me.
 

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Yeah, I dislike touching other women... also I never felt the draw or emotional benefit. Perhaps if I felt very emotionally close to a particular female I would find it natural to hug etc. Physically, I find the boob situation to be awkward: I don't like them pressed against me, especially if large (it feels like we're ignoring the elephant in the room). And I feel like they're feeling me and judging mine. Not really an issue though cause females don't associate with me.
 

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I will never understand this.. -facepalm-
 

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I could understand if they were dating, but if this were my bestfriend? Absolutely not.
 

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NNNOPE. Just too personal.
 
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