Not really. I find enjoyment in doing many of my hobbies. Usually, I'm not motvated enough to go out and do them though. Sometimes, I wonder if I would be happier if I tried to block my loneliness and focused more on the other things that make me happy. If I'm not willing to take the risks to end my loneliness, obsessing about my loneliness will only cause more pain/depression.
Sometimes. I also get enjoyment out of my hobbies, and they are mostly solitary activities (reading a book, doing art, writing, etc).
Being lonely is the hardest part, though. It doesn't just go away. I have one friend that I get together with (which I feel really lucky about), but it's still not really enough if that makes sense. It's like there's this constant tug of war... I have more 'fun' staying at home doing my own thing, but I feel more lonely at the same time. Going out means taking a risk. It's still something we should try to do though, because it's hard to feel happy if you don't have people to share your hopes and thoughts with. My hobbies become more like escapes and distractions if no one is around to, well, care about what I do, and so I guess it's kind of an empty happiness.
Ah, that was a little depresssing, I'm sorry. I hope you feel happier soon, however you can.
I think it's a bit of the human condition though to be dissatisfied, always seeking to fill the void. How many other people are truly happy all the time? Even people who look like they have it all aren't necessarily happy; sometimes they're even more unhappy than the rest of us. People who seem very sociable are sometimes very lonely because they don't have close relationships just tons of superficial ones. Some days I'm happy, and others I'm not, but not every aspect of my life is affected by SA every moment. It's more my frame of mind I think, whether I'm choosing to be grateful for what is good in my life, or choosing to dwell on what I don't have and can't do, etc. Loneliness is a common condition of the society we live in, not just for people with SA.
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