Agreed.
I'm black and also have SA. Nope, it doesn't discriminate lol. Anyway, I gave up trying to fit in with the typical urban black crowd. Even if I didn't have SA I wouldn't really fit in with that crowd. I was never that way, even when I was a kid and didn't have SA. When I was younger I had a lot of black friends, but we were just kids then. As we grew older, I saw them slowly start to transform into that typical "black stereotype" and that never happened for me. I've always been sort of a laid-back, somewhat geeky kind of guy and so my old friends started to drift away from me. Oddly enough, when their "transformation" had been completed, I was starting high school and that's pretty much when my SA began. There was also the fact that I went to a private school for two years for middle school, and so that drove us apart even more. When I met up with them when I went back to public high school, I felt like I didn't even know them anymore.
It's been really tough for me to find "my" crowd. It's just another reason I wish race wasn't such a big issue to people. I would be happy to find friends that I can identify with from any race. But many people tend to group with those similar to themselves, and race tends to play a big factor in that, so races tend to group together mostly. This makes me feel like even more of an outsider because I can't identify with most of my own race.
So I feel stuck in more ways than one.