I wonder if the reason why so few people are capable of empathizing with those of us with SA or problems with socializing is because most people at their core are really borderline narcissists. I spent a long time with a person who gave me the impression for the longest time (about 3 years) that he was a completely different person from who he turned out to be. During the time I spent actually getting to know him in person, it was clear that he perceived himself as being superior (although he seemed to be completely normal, and not really any better than most people out there). It seemed to me that he thought this way only because I was clearly inferior to him in most aspects, but I believe that the same can be said for 99% of people because most of them are much higher functioning than me. He clearly had no empathy for those of us who are at the bottom of the chain, and went out of his way to remind me of all the ways he was 'superior' (i.e., all of the friends he had and the ease with which he made new ones, his prospects for the future and how he planned to live abroad with a female friend, the fact that he had supposedly scored 127 on an IQ test etc.).
In spite of that, I know he wasn't really any smarter or better than the average person. In fact, he was probably the most 'average' person I'd ever seen and having gotten to know him made me realize that the average person must be a borderline narcissist (also judging by all of the other similarly unempathic people I encountered early in life). What does everyone else think of this?
In spite of that, I know he wasn't really any smarter or better than the average person. In fact, he was probably the most 'average' person I'd ever seen and having gotten to know him made me realize that the average person must be a borderline narcissist (also judging by all of the other similarly unempathic people I encountered early in life). What does everyone else think of this?