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If so, what were your reasons?
Are/Have you ever been a cutter?
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okay sorry for the very long post. here are a couple helpful sites on self-injury, on methods to stop, how to tell others about it, etc. :
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/fself.html
http://www.angelfire.com/bc3/secondchance/
http://www.depressionforums.org/forums (forum for depression, but there is a small section on self-injury too)
i've been doing self-injury since i was about 12 (i am 20 now).
my reasons have changed drastically over the years, i think. probably for several years since i first began it was because i was severely depressed and cutting was a distraction from general feeling emotional pain, it was done as a "punishment" i felt i deserved if i did something like binge eating, it was done to distract myself from certain negative thoughts like memories of some embarrassing situation i was trying to forget, i liked the look of it/after results and it was calming if i was depressed, etc.
i think in the past year it's changed a lot though, and i've just been doing it when i haven't exactly felt depressed, but more so just to get some cheap brief release of endorphins, to enhance a high i was already experiencing, or because i genuinely think it looks aesthetically pleasing, like a form of art.
lately it's been quite out of control though, and instead of keeping it to small hidden area of my body i end up doing way more damage than intended. it's just looking ridiculous, and probably also because it looks so messy, i don't find it as beautiful. i will also occaisonally do it if i am very angry and agitated, and there are few other ways i can effectively get that away.. at least none i have figured out, the others just being taking a benzo or drinking alcohol.
i find what also makes it such an easy habit to get dependant on is because there aren't as many negative aspects, compared to smoking cigarettes, or drinking for example. sometimes i lose control and cut too deep, and it freaks me out. that happened last time and i decided it was time to try to stop. (oh wait.. i did it yesterday lol. i guess i forget.)
i've definitely regretted starting in the past, at such a young age. i used to cut my arms mostly since i couldn't stand to look at my stomach or legs since i thought they looked fat at the time, although the torso/thighs are the only areas i cut now. that meant that i would have either my arms were covered in cuts, or scars once they healed, since i could never do just a few. i think i counted once them like a couple years ago and stopped at 100, but now there are more. :/
since i was so afraid of people noticing, i'd basically wear long sleeves every single day of the year, even in the humid 35degree weather. one day i realized it was stupid and i should just accept that they will always be there and started wearing short sleeves, which feels incredibly freeing (the very first day i did that, a friend commented in a patronizing tone that made me feel like a freak, and ironically it was while in was in the hospital and this friend also had the same mental illness as i).
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/fself.html
http://www.angelfire.com/bc3/secondchance/
http://www.depressionforums.org/forums (forum for depression, but there is a small section on self-injury too)
i've been doing self-injury since i was about 12 (i am 20 now).
my reasons have changed drastically over the years, i think. probably for several years since i first began it was because i was severely depressed and cutting was a distraction from general feeling emotional pain, it was done as a "punishment" i felt i deserved if i did something like binge eating, it was done to distract myself from certain negative thoughts like memories of some embarrassing situation i was trying to forget, i liked the look of it/after results and it was calming if i was depressed, etc.
i think in the past year it's changed a lot though, and i've just been doing it when i haven't exactly felt depressed, but more so just to get some cheap brief release of endorphins, to enhance a high i was already experiencing, or because i genuinely think it looks aesthetically pleasing, like a form of art.
lately it's been quite out of control though, and instead of keeping it to small hidden area of my body i end up doing way more damage than intended. it's just looking ridiculous, and probably also because it looks so messy, i don't find it as beautiful. i will also occaisonally do it if i am very angry and agitated, and there are few other ways i can effectively get that away.. at least none i have figured out, the others just being taking a benzo or drinking alcohol.
i find what also makes it such an easy habit to get dependant on is because there aren't as many negative aspects, compared to smoking cigarettes, or drinking for example. sometimes i lose control and cut too deep, and it freaks me out. that happened last time and i decided it was time to try to stop. (oh wait.. i did it yesterday lol. i guess i forget.)
i've definitely regretted starting in the past, at such a young age. i used to cut my arms mostly since i couldn't stand to look at my stomach or legs since i thought they looked fat at the time, although the torso/thighs are the only areas i cut now. that meant that i would have either my arms were covered in cuts, or scars once they healed, since i could never do just a few. i think i counted once them like a couple years ago and stopped at 100, but now there are more. :/
since i was so afraid of people noticing, i'd basically wear long sleeves every single day of the year, even in the humid 35degree weather. one day i realized it was stupid and i should just accept that they will always be there and started wearing short sleeves, which feels incredibly freeing (the very first day i did that, a friend commented in a patronizing tone that made me feel like a freak, and ironically it was while in was in the hospital and this friend also had the same mental illness as i).
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self-injury is almost never painful for me. unless you mean you cut because you hate the emotional pain which i can relate to.
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The reason I cut..I think it was my cry for help. When I started cutting I was miserable in my life but it wasn't a usual thing that I did in order to drown the pain. It was almost a thing I did in order for people to notice me and realize I need help because I didn't know how to ask for it. Then I kept doing it and doing it and it started to feel good so it was like an every day thing and I just enjoyed inflicting that pain on me. Which is really weird when I think about it..
There was one time when I used cutting due to depression. That was when I felt my first heart break and I didn't know how to act and for some reason turned to the razor..:| Now whenever I'm sad I usually bring out the razor and just move it around in my hand and will press it against my skin but I prevent myself from ever cutting.. Is it weird that I still have the same razor? I just can't bring myself to get rid of it.
There was one time when I used cutting due to depression. That was when I felt my first heart break and I didn't know how to act and for some reason turned to the razor..:| Now whenever I'm sad I usually bring out the razor and just move it around in my hand and will press it against my skin but I prevent myself from ever cutting.. Is it weird that I still have the same razor? I just can't bring myself to get rid of it.
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I've done it. Mostly to punish myself for doing something wrong, for being such a loser. I also do it when I'm having one of my episodes where I feel like I'm losing my mind, and it helps calm me down immediately. It's nothing I'm proud of, that's for sure. Just confirms the fact that I'm a sick puppy and should either be dead or in a padded cell.
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haha i think i sound like a sick **** when i open up about it. i definitely look like one if someone sees me naked.
it's okay, i'm used to it and i should just embrace it
it's okay, i'm used to it and i should just embrace it
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I kinda half-assed got into it quite a few years ago - during the early tumultuous high school years. It was probably the unhappiest I'd ever been. Chaos at home, chaos at school. After about a month, I really didn't see what the point was in doing it anymore though. Sure it could make me cry, but could have done that without using a sharp object. And I refused to punish myself over something that I did not choose and have little control over.
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It gives me the kind of buzz that I imagine most people get from weed, I have a fascination with how blood looks, and it gives me focus.
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