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I am curious to know how extroverts cope with the need for stimulation but at the same time having inhibitions caused by social anxiety.
 

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I am curious to know how extroverts cope with the need for stimulation but at the same time having inhibitions caused by social anxiety.
For social stimulation, online communities helped me a lot. When I was at home practically isolated, I was a member of dozens of communities and spent a lot of my time chatting and IM'ing friends. I also started creating videos of myself (mostly giving educational advice) and posting them on youtube, and I believe that probably was the best outlet for my extroversion because I was literally putting myself out there and getting a chance to have a more genuine interaction with others.

Sounds like a bit of an oxymoron to me!
That's a common misconception.

People with SA can be extroverts. Let's not forget that SA is a disorder, not a personality trait. Let's also not forget that having SA is very illogical. Many times people with SA do want to be social, very badly, and yet they cannot, and the reason for this is something they can't explain. They simply get scared in certain social situations and they don't know why.
 

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Yeah I am, which is partly why I suffer from depression. If I didn't actually want to socialise and stuff it wouldn't be so bad that I find it hard.
Ive got the same issue....,I try to go out with my friends as much as I can ,and try to talk a lot but I end up doing something wierd and when I go back to my house I feel worse.......Thats way for the last week I "frozen" the little social life I have.
 

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I was an introvert at first, but in my late teens I found I could be extroverted with a large group of people I met. Now I've moved to another state and I have been here for a year and not met any friends, and I just wish there was some way of meeting some friends that didn't involve binge drinking
 

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I am curious to know how extroverts cope with the need for stimulation but at the same time having inhibitions caused by social anxiety.
I guess I'm kind of an extrovert with SA. I want to have a big social life and party, but I'm too shy and anxious to realize it, which leads to stress. When I'm drunk and my anxiety is down, I absolutely love going to clubs and meeting people and other things. But when SA gets thrown into the mix, I get too scared to do it most of the time.

But I also like my quiet alone time too.
 
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Interesting question.

I am naturally introverted while at the same time I have had jobs that would have been considered extroverted in the past. I also crave being on stage when I can be someone else, but I am not a fan of being in a large group especially if I am the center of attention. I like to go to a dive bar, but would never go to anyplace loud because that is just not my thing at all, not because of anxiety.
 

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I think I might be an extrovert because I sure as hell do not draw motivation by being alone. I really have no idea anymore.
Ok, so upon reading up on introversion/extroversion on wikipedia, it seems that I am in between. I am quiet and not very assertive (introverted), but I would be energized through communication with others (extroverted). So I am a little of both. I seriously have no motivation without contact with other people. Unfortunately, I have no contact with other people because I also have SA. Here's the saddest part; I have been NEET for over two years now, and have close to zero confidence in myself.
 

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My anxiety is triggered by very specific situations. Most of the time I live a fully functioning life. But I do experience full blown panic attacks that cripple me physically. Gasping for air and feeling so dizzy that I have to sit down or lay down on the ground. It really sucks. I haven't found a way to cope with it yet. But it happens rarely, maybe 3-4 times a year, that I try not to think about it. But when it hits, it hits like a ton of bricks.
 

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I'm reasonably sure I'm an extravert with SA. My wife is a well adjusted introvert and since I feel comfortable around her I can drive her up the wall by constantly wanting to talk and interact. I fill my well with people but I have pretty severe life determining SA. The opposition of forces is a gut wrencher and may someday rip me apart.
 

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I guess I'm kind of an extrovert with SA. I want to have a big social life and party, but I'm too shy and anxious to realize it, which leads to stress. When I'm drunk and my anxiety is down, I absolutely love going to clubs and meeting people and other things. But when SA gets thrown into the mix, I get too scared to do it most of the time.

But I also like my quiet alone time too.
This is pretty much me too. I also vividly remember being an extrovert as a kid, not sure what I'd call myself nowadays but I feel like I'm dying inside if I isolate myself from people, even though I get super nervous when I'm out at bars/clubs.
 

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Ok, so upon reading up on introversion/extroversion on wikipedia, it seems that I am in between. I am quiet and not very assertive (introverted), but I would be energized through communication with others (extroverted). So I am a little of both. I seriously have no motivation without contact with other people. Unfortunately, I have no contact with other people because I also have SA. Here's the saddest part; I have been NEET for over two years now, and have close to zero confidence in myself.
I feel for you on the confidence! I struggled with that for a long time and still do, occassionally. i had a "cathardic" moment when I started thinking of a friend of mine- she appears to have it all together...I basically wanted to wear her skin lol! jk jk. the point is after i really got to know her, i foudn that she suffered from a lot of teh same insecurities that I struggled with. I told her that I just couldn't beleive that and she said that when I replied in disbelief and told her how much I admired her, it made her feel better. it's hard to get everyone who knows us to brag on us all day long, right? (though it would be nice). But I realized that maybe I was stuck in my own mind too much, as long as I was doing my part in life to the best of my ability, maybe i should look at mylself as others see me...maybe there's someone out there who wishes they had my life adn wants to wear my skin hahaha! my point is that someone else always has it worse than I do and there are probably a lot of people out there who look at my life and would trade me in a heart beat (or at least I believe it bc it makes me feel better lol). Someone that knows you wishes that they could be like you and that's an empowering feeling!
 

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I feel for you on the confidence! I struggled with that for a long time and still do, occassionally. i had a "cathardic" moment when I started thinking of a friend of mine- she appears to have it all together...I basically wanted to wear her skin lol! jk jk. the point is after i really got to know her, i foudn that she suffered from a lot of teh same insecurities that I struggled with. I told her that I just couldn't beleive that and she said that when I replied in disbelief and told her how much I admired her, it made her feel better. it's hard to get everyone who knows us to brag on us all day long, right? (though it would be nice). But I realized that maybe I was stuck in my own mind too much, as long as I was doing my part in life to the best of my ability, maybe i should look at mylself as others see me...maybe there's someone out there who wishes they had my life adn wants to wear my skin hahaha! my point is that someone else always has it worse than I do and there are probably a lot of people out there who look at my life and would trade me in a heart beat (or at least I believe it bc it makes me feel better lol). Someone that knows you wishes that they could be like you and that's an empowering feeling!
Well, unfortunately, I don't have such a friend to bring me out of my situation.
 

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I am an extrovert but my low self esteem, low confidence and SA make me appear like a total introvert.

I i fix all my issues i am sure i'm a really outgoing guy again.
 

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IDK if I'm an introvert or extrovert.
I have the same problem. When I'm with people I like I'm very extroverted and it's like I have no SA whatsoever. I just don't like many people, and I'd rather spend my time alone and not talking than wasting it by trying to socialize.
 

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I am definitely an extrovert with SA. My main problem is women. I'm terribly mortified by attractive women in general. It's really weird how someone can have extreme SA but be an extrovert too. I don't understand myself :( at all.
 
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