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Anyone else find this "moderator" to be very unhelpful, rude, and unfair? He continually sends me messages saying he is going to ban me, and actually did ban me for telling a woman that trading sexual favors for homework help is escort like.

Now he threatened to permanantly ban me because I didn't think a guy should have replied "MOOOOOOOOORE" to a woman's pic in the "Post a pic of yourself NOW" thread - she wasn't wearing a whole lot and I also thought that wasn't a great idea and mentioned that. Is it wrong for me to try to check people who aren't using this site to be supportive, and are asking for more skin pics?

I don't see why he is concerned with me when there are people who bash EVERYTHING anyone says. Something good happens to someone - BOOM, they get bashed and someone will say "it's all terrible, don't get your hopes up, we are alll the biggest losers in the world and we'll never get better." Yet, these posts get to stay and these people never get banned.

Did he create this website? Who gave him the role of "Super moderator?" This website has some great people, and could be used to help a lot of people, but when I continually get these messages because I help stick up for someone or try to get people to understand this isn't a pron site.
 

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Most of the mods on here seem to be very biased by their personal beliefs when sending people warnings. But they're pretty nice when posting in the forums.
 

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While you can be a bit abrasive, you have interesting things to say so I hope you're not banned. I've not seen anything "ban worthy" from you. Most sites I've been on aren't heavily moderated like this one is.
I kind of agree, although I see your style as challenging and what I'd call abrasive isn't necessarily a negative. I saw the picture and the exchange you talk about and for what it's worth, I agree with your take. The pic seemed like a bad idea, strangely so for the typical disney channel ethic here, but generally not the best way to introduce one's self especially since the "moooooore" ("DBs" edited, too strong and not really my sentiment) comments come out of the woodwork quickly.
 

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First of all, this did not need to be broadcast that way. That's just wrong.
Second - yeah, he is doing his job. It seems we are getting more and more flack for doing our jobs these days.....for some reason.

He did not create the site.

If there are people bashing other people, report the post! That'll put a stop to it.
 

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I am going to be banned because I am asking whether or not others have had issues with him? Totally logical to me.

And I agree that I have been "abrasive" in some of my posts, but to be honest that's just my style of getting people to think differently. If you tell them, "yeah, you are right you aren't ever going to change." That isn't supporting them at all. I try to give everyone a little push, because that's what I need sometimes. I also sometimes probably come off as harsh, but that's because a lot of the time people like us are so stubborn in our thoughts that we need someone to just say "HEY, you need to change some stuff otherwise you'll be unhappy forever."

It's my way of supporting one another - and I don't mean to come off as rude at all. It just takes some "tough love" for lack of a better term to get some people motivated or to think differently.

It seems to me that a lot of people on this site want to complain about their situation but refuse to do anything to change it. That's not ok. If you are unhappy with your situation you need to change it.

Also, GSH has no problems with him because he is the one that made the "MOOOORE" comment I believe. Although I can't remember and can't look it up because someone deleted it.

IF I DO GET PERMANANTLY BANNED I REQUEST THAT YOU DELETE ALL OF MY POSTS FIRST!! I AM NOW MAKING IT AN OFFICIAL REQUEST TO DELETE ALL MY POSTS BEFORE BANNING ME.
 

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My view is that you weren't helping to create a very supportive atmosphere the way you jumped on that guy for the comment. It was clear to me that his comment was a lighthearted compliment of the type that is always used on that thread without a problem - things like "This is SEX" and ":eek:" and those gifs of someone winking (things said by both genders, by the way). Plus he didn't write in capitals and only used 3 or 4 'o's - that's an important distinction because the way you wrote it makes him seem like some creepy masturbator. I'm only giving my opinion on this because I thought it was unfair the way that guy was ripped apart for something that I could tell was a harmless comment made without any sinister intentions.

PS. I don't want you to get banned or anything, as I don't have much problem with you in general - I just disagree with you on this particular matter.
 

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Personal attacks are against the rules. This thread op created is doing just that.
I am not attacking him at all. I am asking whether or not other people find his moderating as unfair. I explained a couple situations, explained how he has treated me, and asked others for their experiences. I do not believe that is a personal attack at all. And if it is I would consider him to be personally attacking me on a regular basis, in which case I request a permanant ban for him as well.
 

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While you can be a bit abrasive, you have interesting things to say so I hope you're not banned. I've not seen anything "ban worthy" from you. Most sites I've been on aren't heavily moderated like this one is.
Thank you.

I agree that I can be fairly blunt and "abrasive." BUT, I do not think I have done anything to be banned or continually get messages threatening a ban. This Amochales guy has had it out for me since the first week I was on here.

Some 17 year old kid kept putting up pictures of himself with out a shirt on. I said that wasn't necessary and to be careful with it. Amochales threatened to ban me and told me that it wasn't my place to tell him that, and that this kid was proud of his body and should be allowed to show it off. Doesn't sound like SAD support to me -
 

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My view is that you weren't helping to create a very supportive atmosphere the way you jumped on that guy for the comment. It was clear to me that his comment was a lighthearted compliment of the type that is always used on that thread without a problem - things like "This is SEX" and ":eek:" and those gifs of someone winking (things said by both genders, by the way). Plus he didn't write in capitals and only used 3 or 4 'o's - that's an important distinction because the way you wrote it makes him seem like some creepy masturbator. I'm only giving my opinion on this because I thought it was unfair the way that guy was ripped apart for something that I could tell was a harmless comment made without any sinister intentions.
Thanks and yes I meant nothing by it other than she was cute
 

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http://www.socialanxietysupport.com...elf-right-now-19861/index474.html#post1119371

It seems that people have been given warning or even banned for posting pictures of themselves in bras. I don't believe the girl in the photo GSH was complimenting was even considered for a warning.

And if you thought she was cute GSH than just say that - BTW, you couldn't see her FACE in the picture at all - she was wearing a bra and you said "Moooore." How could you compliment and ask for "mooore" pics of her cute face if you couldn't even see it. It just seemed pervy to me and I didn't think we needed that on this site.

Whatever, I will ban myself IF THE MODERATORS WILL DELETE ALL OF MY POSTS. EVERY SINGLE ONE.
 

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Ahaha yes. He removed a photo of me in a thick sweater and shorts - visible on my formspring - and threatened me over it. I opened a dialogue with him refuting why his behaviour was inappropriate, and after he ran out of reasons he stopped replying to my PMs and deleted the posts which incriminated him specifically. The multiple posts which agreed with me and my public responses which no one had answers for remain however.
occupy mod street?
LOL.
 

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I said that we do not delete all of of a person's posts. It causes disruption and confusion in the threads.
But you will delete several at a time that you do not approve of? I know you are able to delete all of my posts, so PLEASE do so. Or at least tell me the quickest way to delete them all. If you are going to ban me I would like nothing that I have written on here to stay."

I asked that if they are going to ban me to please delete all of my posts as well, as it is only fair that nothing I have contributed stay if I am not allowed back to edit or delete my own. Amochales has deleted several dozen posts and threads on this website that he doesn not agree with but refuses to help me out by deleting mine.

Is there ANYONE who is willing to tell me how to delete all of my posts as quickly as possible? I'd rather not spend a night or two going through and deleting one by one.
 
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