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I would like to start a thread to talk with people who also have agoraphobia. I am housebound except for appointments, where a "safe person" I think in my mind, will be meeting me, such as my psychiatrist or therapist. I can leave the apartment with my husband otherwise. Otherwise, I am housebound a lot of the time. What is your experience?
 

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I had this for awhile it was very rough. I slowly ventured out and was able to overcome it.
 

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I haven't been diagnosed with agoraphobia, but I think people are dangerous and avoid them whenever possible. It takes me a long time to figure out whether or not a person or location is "safe", and I generally won't feel comfortable around them/there until I know they are safe. Tbh, I can't think of anyone who falls into that category atm, other than my therapist. Who I only talk to on the phone. I can use my grocery store okay because I've been going there for almost 20 years. I can use the Tim Hortons near my house and the public library but I get really anxious when I'm in those places and leave as quickly as I can. I avoid going anywhere else. I don't even really feel safe with my parents or being at their house.

So I can leave the house, but the more people there are, the less familiar a location is, and the harder it is for me to leave a situation, the more afraid that I am. So I walk everywhere instead of taking the buses (which give me borderline panic attacks), and when I do walk I prefer to keep my distance from other people. I don't use public restrooms (too easy to trap someone), and I avoid crowds like the plague. A music concert is my idea of hell on earth.

I find a lot of things all but impossible without a support person (or as I like to call them, a "bodyguard"), like going to support groups or meetups. I don't know how anyone manages to do things like that. When I was in a relationship I was able to do a lot more than I can now because I had someone with me. I don't have anyone like that in my life now, though, and I don't expect to ever find anyone like that again so I think I'm just screwed. My therapist suggested a support animal, but I can't afford veterinary bills. And I'm scared of dogs, too.

I can't work, because I'm too afraid, I don't make enough money from my writing to pay my bills, and I don't qualify for disability, so when I lose my house, I guess I'll just end up homeless.
 

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I'm an agoraphobe too. I'm afraid of grocery stores. It's really embarrassing and people really don't get. When I'm in my dorm, I can't stand to hear the sound of people talking outside my door. It completely freaks me out. I drown out the sound with really loud music. I also can't stand looking out the window of my room; I swear people are looking back at me and I feel super paranoid. I can't leave the house without music and I dance to it in public; I think people are going to look at me and judge me anyway, why not look at me because of my super sweet dance moves. The worst is the idea of having to talk to someone. Take the grocery store for example: sometimes the thing that pushes me over the edge and leads to a complete break down is imagining the cashier saying "would you like your receipt?" and me having to answer a direct question from a total stranger. My dog helps to get me out of the house because (1) he needs to pee and I need to make sure that doesn't happen inside and (2) he's so excited to be outside that there's enough confidence in him for the both of us.
 

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I went through a period of this in college. High school was a real bad experience for me but I still got mostly As with some Bs in school. College was very hard academically for me and I failed some classes. This coupled with my fear of people caused it with me. I went too class and that was all.

Eventually I came out of it. But it was a dark time for me
 

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Me too much like you I'm house bound. I went a year and a half without leaving home no doctor appointments nothing. When one day I was having really bad chest pain and thought I was having another heart attack. I call 911 and went to the hospital by ambulance alone. I spent the night and they ran a bunch of test and everything was good. But I did it on my no visitors not even my wife. After that I have tried getting out more and have successful. My anxiety and panic leading up to leaving has been worse than actually getting in the car and going. Currently haven't leftmthe house in 3 weeks so I think I'm doing better. I have a thread on " support buddies check it out.
 

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I don't think I suffer from 'true' agoraphobia as I'm generally okay leaving the house -- as long as I wear my mask. And it wasn't included in my diagnosis almost a decade ago. But this pandemic has definitely exacerbated my preexisting fear of crowds. For the past two years I've been largely houseebound except for drives to pick up groceries curbside or getting food from drive-thru's; I VERY rarely go inside anywhere, and then only if I absolutely have to. I stopped attending university this year when they switched back to all in-person instruction despite the consistently high case and death counts here, especially because they refuse to require vaccination. It doesn't help that I live in a "red state" where less than 55% of the population is vaccinated and now Biden's mandates are basically worthless thanks to local laws allowing widespread "exemptions."

I don't see things changing any time soon. But I don't it mind for the most part; I like staying home. And times like this are exactly what savings are for, IMO.
 

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My panic attacks have led to a type of agoraphobia. I start to panic when it's time to leave the house. I'm not worried about covid or being around people. I can't do big stores because I feel trapped and can't get out fast without making a scene if I start to panic. I have noticed recently my anxiety leading up to leaving the house has been worse than the actual task. I think I'm making progress bit not as much as I want. I have left the house in 3 weeks so it's time to venture out again.
 

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My panic attacks have led to a type of agoraphobia. I start to panic when it's time to leave the house. I'm not worried about covid or being around people. I can't do big stores because I feel trapped and can't get out fast without making a scene if I start to panic. I have noticed recently my anxiety leading up to leaving the house has been worse than the actual task. I think I'm making progress bit not as much as I want. I have left the house in 3 weeks so it's time to venture out again.
Mine is a bit different. I am usually very comfortable in stores because everyone is there for the same reason and almost nobody pays any attention to me so it's kind of like being among people and being invisible. Which is awesome for my particular brand of SA.

What gives me major panic attacks is things like doctor visits. And phone calls too. I don't usually have panic attacks during phone calls but I can put a monitor on my finger and see my pulse go way up as soon as I start dialing. I don't actually feel panicked but I feel very uncomfortable and make very few phone calls due to it just not being a pleasant thing.

There have also been multiple incidents where people I trusted sprung nasty surprises on me when I wasn't expecting it (because I trusted them, obviously) and so now I don't trust them anymore and feel even more nervous about leaving the house.
 
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