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I havent been at this community in awhile! miss some of you guys.
Does anyone get this fear that they will lose the few friends they have?
I have a long history of having a few friends and then none at all do to drifting apart or me isolating myself.
I started seeing a therapist in 08 and was diagnosed with social anxiety. It is mild though but it has effected my life too long. Sometimes my anxiety was worse than other yrs.
Well in the last 2 months I saw a new therapist and she knew more about social anxiety than the other day. She diagnosed me with social anxiety too so Im sure I have it. Its just mild-moderate. I actually tried to put myself out more and posted a craiglist ad in the platonic section.
I met two girls from there and we clicked. Went out and did things-went out to dinner, to another city to explore, emailed each other back and forth.
I even started to go clubbing almost every week. The first time I Was there I was kinda scared to dance. But I got use to it and comfortable. The first and second time I was upset no guys would go up to me. My therapist said it was most likely my body language.
I attempted to work on my body language. I tried to look around more instead of staring in space. I smiled a little bit more and thennnnnnnn guys started asking me to dance and even some guys asked for my phone number. In return I started to feel even more better about myself.
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Well the last 2 weeks one of my friends met this one guy that she really likes. Though she just met him Im happy for her. Its just I feel that some girls forget their friends when they meet guys. She doesnt have many friends either but im afraid she will drop her friends for the guy. We still hang out once in awhile but she doesnt email or text me as much as she used to. Im not trying to be needy. I dont want to hang out with a person 24/7 . I like my space but im afraid she will eventually just stop talking to me.
Im been however attempting to keep up contact with my 2 friends ...because from my therapist i heard thats how to keep a friendship.
The other friend I met on clist well she hasnt been hanging out with my friend and I for weeks due to being depressed about some guy that she does not want to be with who lives all the way in california. we live in ohio btw. Ive made attempts to get her to get out more because isolating herself will just make her more depressed.
each time she says shes going to hang out with us..she makes an excuse . she said she would hang out sometime this week but who knows.
These past few days I thought about isolating myself again. I know deep down that would be a bad idea. All the progress I made would go down the drain. I even stopped taking antidepressants 3 months ago due to seeing progress. I dont want to be back on them again. I even stopped seeing a therapist.
Does anyone get this fear that they will lose the few friends they have?
I have a long history of having a few friends and then none at all do to drifting apart or me isolating myself.
I started seeing a therapist in 08 and was diagnosed with social anxiety. It is mild though but it has effected my life too long. Sometimes my anxiety was worse than other yrs.
Well in the last 2 months I saw a new therapist and she knew more about social anxiety than the other day. She diagnosed me with social anxiety too so Im sure I have it. Its just mild-moderate. I actually tried to put myself out more and posted a craiglist ad in the platonic section.
I met two girls from there and we clicked. Went out and did things-went out to dinner, to another city to explore, emailed each other back and forth.
I even started to go clubbing almost every week. The first time I Was there I was kinda scared to dance. But I got use to it and comfortable. The first and second time I was upset no guys would go up to me. My therapist said it was most likely my body language.
I attempted to work on my body language. I tried to look around more instead of staring in space. I smiled a little bit more and thennnnnnnn guys started asking me to dance and even some guys asked for my phone number. In return I started to feel even more better about myself.
--
Well the last 2 weeks one of my friends met this one guy that she really likes. Though she just met him Im happy for her. Its just I feel that some girls forget their friends when they meet guys. She doesnt have many friends either but im afraid she will drop her friends for the guy. We still hang out once in awhile but she doesnt email or text me as much as she used to. Im not trying to be needy. I dont want to hang out with a person 24/7 . I like my space but im afraid she will eventually just stop talking to me.
Im been however attempting to keep up contact with my 2 friends ...because from my therapist i heard thats how to keep a friendship.
The other friend I met on clist well she hasnt been hanging out with my friend and I for weeks due to being depressed about some guy that she does not want to be with who lives all the way in california. we live in ohio btw. Ive made attempts to get her to get out more because isolating herself will just make her more depressed.
each time she says shes going to hang out with us..she makes an excuse . she said she would hang out sometime this week but who knows.
These past few days I thought about isolating myself again. I know deep down that would be a bad idea. All the progress I made would go down the drain. I even stopped taking antidepressants 3 months ago due to seeing progress. I dont want to be back on them again. I even stopped seeing a therapist.
