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Anyone who met me would tell you I'm a very weird person, sometimes this is actually a good thing, but sometimes it frustrates me to no end because I don't quite know why.
Everyone seems to get the vibe I'm socially awkward and mildly introverted, yet people get surprised if I tell them I'm shy, which I would naturally assume is why they would get that vibe. So I'm not perceived as shy, which means I don't have shy body language, but im still awkward somehow?
I used to get bullied mildly by the popular kids and I'd always let them know that I know what they're doing. I think the bluntness sort of stopped it. But I don't really know why I was bullied. I was very quiet. I usually am quiet until someone approaches me because I literally don't know how to start a conversation, or when it's appropriate to approach someone, so I usually don't unless I know them well or we are in the break room together or something.
I've been practicing at parties and meetups approaching random groups and joining conversations. But I still must give off some weird lack of confidence which I kind of do have because I don't know how to read people or situations like at all. I can't stand when people tell me they think I lack confidence to my face, like I'm socially unaware but they don't realize how unaware they are themselves to just say that. Though I appreciate the honesty. On the bright side around people I'm comfy with, it gives me a unique bluntness that my friends appreciate.
I'm forgiven for a lot of this for the fact that I'm a cute girl. I know a guy who's exactly like this but comes across as more confident, like he just makes these weird comments gets percieved somewhat similarly, and he gets **** on by some people we know for being weird, though he's friends appreciate him so maybe I wouldn't be totally screwed. Before me he had a lot of failures with the opposite gender. It kills me a little bit that if not for my cute appearance and gender, I might be not as well off but that is life. What is it about someone's body language that would give off that awkward or weird vibe? Sometimes I actually love how I am, but other times I think it drives people away and certainly holds me back professionally. I asked my mom and the only thing she said was that I make all these weird comments like I have no filter
Everyone seems to get the vibe I'm socially awkward and mildly introverted, yet people get surprised if I tell them I'm shy, which I would naturally assume is why they would get that vibe. So I'm not perceived as shy, which means I don't have shy body language, but im still awkward somehow?
I used to get bullied mildly by the popular kids and I'd always let them know that I know what they're doing. I think the bluntness sort of stopped it. But I don't really know why I was bullied. I was very quiet. I usually am quiet until someone approaches me because I literally don't know how to start a conversation, or when it's appropriate to approach someone, so I usually don't unless I know them well or we are in the break room together or something.
I've been practicing at parties and meetups approaching random groups and joining conversations. But I still must give off some weird lack of confidence which I kind of do have because I don't know how to read people or situations like at all. I can't stand when people tell me they think I lack confidence to my face, like I'm socially unaware but they don't realize how unaware they are themselves to just say that. Though I appreciate the honesty. On the bright side around people I'm comfy with, it gives me a unique bluntness that my friends appreciate.
I'm forgiven for a lot of this for the fact that I'm a cute girl. I know a guy who's exactly like this but comes across as more confident, like he just makes these weird comments gets percieved somewhat similarly, and he gets **** on by some people we know for being weird, though he's friends appreciate him so maybe I wouldn't be totally screwed. Before me he had a lot of failures with the opposite gender. It kills me a little bit that if not for my cute appearance and gender, I might be not as well off but that is life. What is it about someone's body language that would give off that awkward or weird vibe? Sometimes I actually love how I am, but other times I think it drives people away and certainly holds me back professionally. I asked my mom and the only thing she said was that I make all these weird comments like I have no filter