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Well i just would like to hear your opinion on my situation. Here it is.
About 10 years ago I went on a ship cruise with my friend back then and his girlfriend. His girlfriend also brought with her a friend. I ended up having a pretty strong crush on this girl, although we barely talked at all on the cruise, just danced a little at the bar/disco.
So I believe it was a couple of months after the cruise I ended up calling her (got her number from my friend). I asked her out for a date, and she initially said yes, next week would be fine for her. But then I called the next week and she said she´s having the flu and can´t come. So I called again after a while and this time I think she said maybe later in the spring because she´s kinda busy now. I got the impression she was either avoiding going out with me(turning me down) or just being too afraid to do it(She sounded a little nervous on the phone).
And so the whole thing kinda just got “forgotten”( I never called later in the spring for some reason, too anxious to do it I believe…) and time went by. I met a girl at a party later that same year at new years eve, and ended up being/living with her for about 9 years.
She was really the aggressive oncoming type when we met, and I had SA back then already and no experience with girls so I kinda went with the flow and we ended up being together that long. But I always felt that I really wasn´t in love with her, cared about her sure.
My crush from the cruise would pop up in my mind now and then during the years in the relationship, the feelings I had about her never went away. I´m still confused about this; how can one have these feelings for someone you barely know for this long?
My 9 year old relationship ended a while ago(about ½ year), we just felt there was nothing left.
So now I opened a facebook account a while ago. Of course one of the first things I do is look for my old crush
, and there she is. She hasn´t got her relationship status visible and I can´t see any ring on her finger in any of her pictures so... :stu After building up some courage i finally sent her a friend request 2 days ago. She hasn´t approved me yet, but it´s only 2 days, I know...
Still, makes me wonder, should I have also put a message in there? After all it is almost 10 years since I called her
Maybe she doesn´t remember who i am even...What should I say in that message if so? Or do you think it was wrong (too awkward) to add her as a friend? We do have mutual friends in facebook, some of them are even relatives to me.
All I know is what I feel and for some reason this girl has stayed on my mind all these years, and really warm feelings too just like when I first saw her.
What do you guys think I should do with this situation? :con
I would really appreciate any advice.
About 10 years ago I went on a ship cruise with my friend back then and his girlfriend. His girlfriend also brought with her a friend. I ended up having a pretty strong crush on this girl, although we barely talked at all on the cruise, just danced a little at the bar/disco.
So I believe it was a couple of months after the cruise I ended up calling her (got her number from my friend). I asked her out for a date, and she initially said yes, next week would be fine for her. But then I called the next week and she said she´s having the flu and can´t come. So I called again after a while and this time I think she said maybe later in the spring because she´s kinda busy now. I got the impression she was either avoiding going out with me(turning me down) or just being too afraid to do it(She sounded a little nervous on the phone).
And so the whole thing kinda just got “forgotten”( I never called later in the spring for some reason, too anxious to do it I believe…) and time went by. I met a girl at a party later that same year at new years eve, and ended up being/living with her for about 9 years.
She was really the aggressive oncoming type when we met, and I had SA back then already and no experience with girls so I kinda went with the flow and we ended up being together that long. But I always felt that I really wasn´t in love with her, cared about her sure.
My crush from the cruise would pop up in my mind now and then during the years in the relationship, the feelings I had about her never went away. I´m still confused about this; how can one have these feelings for someone you barely know for this long?
My 9 year old relationship ended a while ago(about ½ year), we just felt there was nothing left.
So now I opened a facebook account a while ago. Of course one of the first things I do is look for my old crush
Still, makes me wonder, should I have also put a message in there? After all it is almost 10 years since I called her
All I know is what I feel and for some reason this girl has stayed on my mind all these years, and really warm feelings too just like when I first saw her.
What do you guys think I should do with this situation? :con
I would really appreciate any advice.