I just recently got a crush on this girl in a club I'm in at my University. The club is college republicans, so we have lots of events and meetings and social time, and now I want to go to more of them cause she is there. My concern is that I haven't been to a lot of meetings lately, and I suck at making conversation with anyone. I just want to make friends, but now I have the added pressure of really liking this girl. I hung out with her with some friends for a couple hours the other day(first time I met her), but we didn't talk really, but we are friends on facebook now; as soon as she accepted me as a friend she changed her looking for to "dating," so she's available it seems, oh my, I feel I ought to take some sort of chance here, even if only a hello, or a single conversation, If I could do that I'd be happy...
there is an event today I will go to and she will be there. I'm posting this cause my concern is that I'm sad because I have a hard time making conversation with new people especially, and I'm sad becasue I feel I could never get a date with someone I'm attracted to, by meeting them and asking them out in person. Its never happened. Ive been on dates, but only girls I met online. I'm sad because I feel my personality and my social skills are so lacking, that for example today, when I'm going to be at a social event with a potential person I want to date, I feel there is no way she could, or anyone else, like me because of my lack of social skills. I'm just too quiet, and it drives me crazy? anyone else experience this? is there hope? should I believe its possible, and maybe even try to make some conversation? does social anxiety have to win every damn time? there is hope right??
I think there is, but so often I just can't think of things to say or make conversation! I've never been in a relationship, and alls I want is to believe its possible for me! If I can believe in it, then I know it will happen, but I'm so unsure of myself and never been in anything close to a relationship, casue I'm always so quiet! though I try to be social so so much, but just can' talk, I'm lost..!
there is an event today I will go to and she will be there. I'm posting this cause my concern is that I'm sad because I have a hard time making conversation with new people especially, and I'm sad becasue I feel I could never get a date with someone I'm attracted to, by meeting them and asking them out in person. Its never happened. Ive been on dates, but only girls I met online. I'm sad because I feel my personality and my social skills are so lacking, that for example today, when I'm going to be at a social event with a potential person I want to date, I feel there is no way she could, or anyone else, like me because of my lack of social skills. I'm just too quiet, and it drives me crazy? anyone else experience this? is there hope? should I believe its possible, and maybe even try to make some conversation? does social anxiety have to win every damn time? there is hope right??
I think there is, but so often I just can't think of things to say or make conversation! I've never been in a relationship, and alls I want is to believe its possible for me! If I can believe in it, then I know it will happen, but I'm so unsure of myself and never been in anything close to a relationship, casue I'm always so quiet! though I try to be social so so much, but just can' talk, I'm lost..!
