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This is a great idea, it isn't easy but I can see how it would be helpful in developing a more positive self-image. Like someone said before, when you focus on all the your perceived negative qualities you begin to dislike and/or thing low of yourself. But realizing that you actually do have good traits allows you to gradually feel better about yourself and build higher self-esteem.:)

Here's mine:

1. I am intelligent and thoughtful.
2. I have a good-looking figure and am at a healthy weight.
3. I am a goof listener.
4. I am determined.
5. I am sensitive, I feel things very deeply and I think that is a good thing.
6. I am teachable, I learn from my mistakes and work on doing better next time.
7. I like the shape and size of my lips.
8. I am analytical.
9. I am helpful to my family and others if they need it.
10. I am making effort to be grateful for all that I have in my life.

I also wrote it down like you suggested. I am going to add this to my daily morning affirmations/prayer time. Thank you for sharing this exercise with us.
 

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This is a great idea, it isn't easy but I can see how it would be helpful in developing a more positive self-image. Like someone said before, when you focus on all the your perceived negative qualities you begin to dislike and/or thing low of yourself. But realizing that you actually do have good traits allows you to gradually feel better about yourself and build higher self-esteem.:)

Here's mine:

1. I am intelligent and thoughtful.
2. I have a good-looking figure and am at a healthy weight.
3. I am a goof listener.
4. I am determined.
5. I am sensitive, I feel things very deeply and I think that is a good thing.
6. I am teachable, I learn from my mistakes and work on doing better next time.
7. I like the shape and size of my lips.
8. I am analytical.
9. I am helpful to my family and others if they need it.
10. I am making effort to be grateful for all that I have in my life.

I also wrote it down like you suggested. I am going to add this to my daily morning affirmations/prayer time. Thank you for sharing this exercise with us.
You're welcome, I hope it proves beneficial for you.
I'm still stuck at #1 myself.
 

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Do you like making pottery?
I've never tried. Well, maybe one vague time in like 1st grade. As evidenced by my personality, it's more likely things stay lumps of clay.

There is always something positive even if it is very hard to see it. Even a criminal has some positive aspects and some people could say a few nice things about him.
I bet many criminals would have positives that far outweigh mine. Maybe they're well-spoken, more interesting, more worth knowing. Whatever scant few positives I may have aren't worth loving. They're just tacked-on features.

Gah, let me help you.

Any chance you might love/appreciate any of the following about yourself?:

  • Your name
  • Your sense of style
  • Your hair
  • Your eyes
  • Your compassion
  • the way you walk
  • the way you say things
  • that you can juggle
  • that you can work a yo-yo
  • that you're smart
  • that you're resilient
  • that you're good-looking
  • that you're a good listener
  • that you're funny
  • that you have all 10 toes
  • that someone looks up to you
  • Your voice
  • Your height
  • that you don't suck at driving
  • that you're good at trivia games
  • that you have a good imagination
  • you've got a great selection of wigs
  • you've got a great selection of shoes

Just to get you started.
Let's see...
Name, meh.
No style.
Terribad hair.
I don't even bother looking at my eyes.
Meh... I'd be better off if I didn't have compassion.
I'm sure I walk awkwardly.
I can't hardly say things anyway.
Can't juggle.
Can't yo-yo.
I don't think I'm that smart, really.
I wish I wasn't resilient... or more accurately, stubborn.
Definitely not good-looking.
Listening is all right, but no one values my listening and it exists mostly because I can't hold a conversation.
I wish I was funny.
I hate my feet.
Who would look up to me?
Ugh, my voice is the worst.
Meh, I don't care if I'm all right at driving. Love is way too strong a word.
If only I was truly good at trivia... but my memory sucks and I'm me.
Wish I hadn't lost my imagination somewhere along the way.
Heh, I'm going to need wigs. It would give me more style than I ever have.
I don't even know anything about shoes. They just exist. Kind of like me.

Not to be a downer, but there's nothing about me I love. Nothing I can see that would be worth loving.
 

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You're going to have to quit making intelligent posts on a daily basis for that to be believable.
Haha... that must be too generous. I am surprised if anyone reads what I'm spewing.
 

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I read it too. You're smart.
Stop being a downer! You're awesome!
 

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This is actually harder than I would've expected, considering how highly I think my potential. Many of the things I liked about myself are gone or very well hidden these days.
I think that's the point of the exercise. Maybe by articulating what exactly we like/love/appreciate/enjoy about ourselves, we start to recognize it more, hopefully leading to more positive discoveries about ourselves. Good luck, let me know what you come up with!
 

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1. I like to laugh.
2. I like to bring people together. I'd make a great mediator.

I'll add more as I think of them.
Thanks for participating guys!
 

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My eyes.
My arms.
I don't like arguments.
I know when to walk away from difficult situations to prevent them escalating.
I don't retaliate.
I see two sides to every story.
I appreciate nature.
I'm a great owner to my pets.
I'm pro-adoption for animals and children.
I very rarely drink alcohol, and I've never smoked or used drugs.
I'm trustworthy.
I know my own mind.
I learn from my mistakes and educate myself where necessary.
I'm helpful when I can be.
I'm down-to-earth and rational.

That's all I can think of right now.
 

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i think i hate myself now... so idk maybe there's a part of me that remembers something.

Well... here it is...

1) I am different and I can embrace that fact very very well.
2) I just wish everyone gets along, so that makes me believe I am a people person.
3) I didn't really commit a single crime. (besides being a terrible daughter, look already hating on myself, even if i am a good daughter) :(
4) I love to smile, that's cool.
5) In a sense I'm best friends with myself.
6) I have a strange relationship to the world, especially to colors. (i used to astral project, but i wish i could just follow the right path in life)
7) I'm faithful, that's good right?
8 - 8) I like to have fun, that's cool too. lol
9) I spend the first 15 years of my life awesomely... (i hope i can find answers)
10) ... i honestly am running out of any love for myself.

most of me feels guilt and shame which I shouldn't. this is hard for me, i'm kind of a broken person.
 

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3. I'm extremely protective of my family and friends, like a mama bear.
 

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1. I'm physically healthy
2. I'm loyal
3. I read very quickly
4. I have inexpensive habits
5. My eyes
6. I'm really good at dealing with crazy people
7. I'm persuasive
 

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1. I'm always happy no matter how mean anyone is to me.
2. I love humor
3. I accept anyone unless they show lack of respect towards me.
4. I give people second chances.
5. I forgive easily.
6. I'm not hard on myself at all
7. I'm passionate about trying new things.
8. I like to be generous.
9. I like unique and weirdness in other people. They get my attention.
10. I don't follow with what society believes in. Only what I believe in and that is important to me.
 

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1. Intuitive
2. Empathetic / People pleaser
3. Laid back.
4. Intelligent
5. Average aesthetically.
6. Strong willed.
7. Exceptional work ethic.
8. Amusing/funny when I put the effort.
9. Solid sense of morals or sense of propriety.
10. A decent judge of character.



Yeah well, that's all well and good yet like everyone here, I've so much potential to be so much more, there's the issue of not just being motivated, yet following through with the plans set in motion. To each their own though, I am rather fond of myself due to what redeeming qualities I currently possess, yet it's quite easy for me to despair on those dark days. The constant battle and struggle seeking validation of one's own existence. In the end it matters not yet it is true that perhaps "freedom lies in the shadows, yet what I desire, lies in the light. " There's truth in that quote, far too often I'm quick to seek refuge and remain invisible yet there's no progress to the quality of life in that lifestyle, at least in regards to forming bonds. ;)
 

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This isn't gonna be easy but I'll give it a whirl.

1. I know lots of big words. I'm talkin' four to five syllables homie.
2. I'm a self-taught musician.
3. I can draw pretty well.
4. I'm a pretty good writer when I wanna be.
5. I'm very compassionate.
6. I don't take myself too seriously.

Okay I'm out of bullets.
 

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why do ppl keep saying "i love to laugh"? like is there anyone who doesnt? is that even a trait? :/

1. dunno
2. whatever
3. everything
4. meh
 

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4. I try to be positive when/wherever possible.
5. I am resilient.
6. I am curious and like to learn new things.
 

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-I'm a social retard
-I'm ugly
-I'm short
-I'm invisible
-I'm easily forgettable
-I'm non athletic
-I'm too skinny
-I'm boring
-I look like a terrorist
-I'm weak
 

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^ No.
 

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yes

I'm a realist. I guess that's one thing I can say I like about myself then.
 
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