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My therapist today decided that I should come up with a list of qualities I have that I genuinely appreciate about myself. Naturally, I start to laugh. BWAHAHAHAHA! I don't want to do that!



But then he says I have to come up with 20 different things! 20. I looked at him like he had lost his mind!



Thought I'd go easy on us here. Can you come up with 10 things about yourself that you like? or 5? Or whatever you feel like.
 

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I like to laugh and try to find reasons to do so daily.

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Kay! Let me try! 20!

1 - Don't take stuff too seriously
2 - Laugh easily when comfortable with the people I am talking to
3 - I have dedication
4 - I have long term goals
5 - I am not selfish
6 - I understand the world in terms of physics that the general population don't even fathom
7 - My English is fairly eloquent
8 - I am not bald (yet, LOL)
9 - I tend to see the positive outcome rather than focus on the negatives
10 - I am analytical, I have an easy time reading people
11 - I have a decent skills in math, as long as it doesn't come to formulas. Above average in terms of calculating stuff in head.
12 - I am fairly tall?
13 - I like to cook, and apparently, I do that fairly well..
14 - Libido in a very balanced state. It's not so high that it influences me, nor so low that I don't feel attraction.
15 - I am educated
16 - I handle my personal economy well
17 - I am interested in listening to what people have to say, and find interest on topics I don't know much about
18 - I see myself progressing all the time. I try to progress, and it works.
19 - I got a fairly decent foresight. I can "analyze" what's going to happen, before it's happening. Doesn't always work.
20 - I don't have problems sleeping.
21 - I haven't touched any drugs all my life except the very rare pain killer.
22 - My chest is fairy hairy (For me, that's a plus, LOL)
23 - I like my veins. Especially after a work out.
 

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Kay! Let me try! 20!

1 - Don't take stuff too seriously
2 - Laugh easily when comfortable with the people I am talking to
3 - I have dedication
4 - I have long term goals
5 - I am not selfish
6 - I understand the world in terms of physics that the general population don't even fathom
7 - My English is fairly eloquent
8 - I am not bald (yet, LOL)
9 - I tend to see the positive outcome rather than focus on the negatives
10 - I am analytical, I have an easy time reading people
11 - I have a decent skills in math, as long as it doesn't come to formulas. Above average in terms of calculating stuff in head.
12 - I am fairly tall?
13 - I like to cook, and apparently, I do that fairly well..
14 - Libido in a very balanced state. It's not so high that it influences me, nor so low that I don't feel attraction.
15 - I am educated
16 - I handle my personal economy well
17 - I am interested in listening to what people have to say, and find interest on topics I don't know much about
18 - I see myself progressing all the time. I try to progress, and it works.
19 - I got a fairly decent foresight. I can "analyze" what's going to happen, before it's happening. Doesn't always work.
20 - I don't have problems sleeping.
21 - I haven't touched any drugs all my life except the very rare pain killer.
22 - My chest is fairy hairy (For me, that's a plus, LOL)
23 - I like my veins. Especially after a work out.
So great!! #22 made me smile. :) I'm so glad you came up with this many.

I think I might try this. I'll leave this post here as a placeholder.
Please do.
#1 for you---> You are hilarious.
 

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I can't even come up with 1.
 

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Really there's nothing I can say I love. It is mere existence like a lump of clay.
Gah, let me help you.

Any chance you might love/appreciate any of the following about yourself?:

  • Your name
  • Your sense of style
  • Your hair
  • Your eyes
  • Your compassion
  • the way you walk
  • the way you say things
  • that you can juggle
  • that you can work a yo-yo
  • that you're smart
  • that you're resilient
  • that you're good-looking
  • that you're a good listener
  • that you're funny
  • that you have all 10 toes
  • that someone looks up to you
  • Your voice
  • Your height
  • that you don't suck at driving
  • that you're good at trivia games
  • that you have a good imagination
  • you've got a great selection of wigs
  • you've got a great selection of shoes

Just to get you started.
 

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I actually have to make my own list tomorrow. Of things I think people would like about me. As many as I can. It's gonna be tough but I have to do it.:yes
 

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I actually have to make my own list tomorrow. Of things I think people would like about me. As many as I can. It's gonna be tough but I have to do it.:yes
That doesn't make sense. Why would you make a list of what others think about you? If we don't like ourselves, why would we think others would?
 

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That doesn't make sense. Why would you make a list of what others think about you? If we don't like ourselves, why would we think others would?
It's not like I am going to make it cause I have nothing better to do(well, I actually don't have, but that is less important :lol). I was asked to do it as homework by my therapist. It has to do with one of my 4 negative schemas: ''Nobody could ever really love me''.
 

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It's not like I am going to make it cause I have nothing better to do(well, I actually don't have, but that is less important :lol). I was asked to do it as homework by my therapist. It has to do with one of my 4 negative schemas: ''Nobody could ever really love me''.
No, I get it. My therapist does the same to me. But instead of a list of perceived niceties, why wouldn't you come up with reasons people should love you?

"My friend thinks I'm funny."<---> "I can make people laugh." See the difference?
 

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Do NOT quote me for any reason!

Ok. Let's try.
1. I like how I'm loyal to my friends
2. I managed to stand up for myself and break up with my ex
3. I reached my goal of illustrating a children's book (that I won't post here)
4. I like my name
5. I'm very compassionate
6. I'm incredibly resilient
7. I'm a great listener
8. I do have all ten toes, and all ten fingers
9. Two of my wisdom teeth fit fine in my mouth. No surgery needed..

I'm not feeling any better, and I can't think of any more.. :/
 

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The goal is for you to write it out on a piece of paper and look at it everyday. You'll add to it once you realize your worth. Good job!!

And excellent for standing up for yourself.
 

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No, I get it. My therapist does the same to me. But instead of a list of perceived niceties, why wouldn't you come up with reasons people should love you?
There is no real objectivity in the things both of us will write on that list, is it? Cause it can only be subjective since we are the ones writing them. You will write the qualities you think you posses, I will write the qualities I think I may posses and people could like me for. It's not much of a difference. It's still about perceived qualities if you simplify it. Only I have to take it a bit further.

"My friend thinks I'm funny."<---> "I can make people laugh." See the difference?
Actually, the difference is not that big, from my point of view. In both those cases you assume you can make people laugh. The only difference is that in the first one you are taking things a bit further by assuming he thinks you are funny cause you are assuming you can make people laugh. The only way you would know what he thinks is if he would actually tell you that(no nice lies). Otherwise it's still all down to your own perception: that you can make people laugh.

It's probably best to think of examples from real life when making the list. Like things that were actually told to you by others and seemed genuine. That would probably keep it more ''real''.

Yes, I know. I tend to overanalyze things. Sometimes that's a good thing, something it is a bad thing.

You can copy some stuff from my list if you want if it applies to you.
Thank you, but there is no point in me cheating. That will not solve my issues. I think the whole point of this is precisely to be aware of the fact you do have qualities, although it very hard to see them after selecting and focusing on the negatives your whole life. Believing what you wrote on that list would be great.
 

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You can copy some stuff from my list if you want if it applies to you.
Thank you for trying.
You forgot to put how hilarious you were in your list.
 

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LOL!! That is too funny:haha

I can barely come up with one myself (10 is too many and 5 is too much) but:

1. I am a good listener/reader.
2. I am empathetic.
3. I am honest.
4. I love to laugh!:teeth:evil
 

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LOL!! That is too funny:haha

I can barely come up with one myself (10 is too many and 5 is too much) but:

1. I am a good listener/reader.
2. I am empathetic.
3. I am honest.
4. I love to laugh!:teeth:evil
Nice. Thank you.
 
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