Well, after my conversation with that recruiter, I must admit that I haven't kept it up for making an uncomfortable phone call each day. It's been so hard to think of ideas of phone calls that I can make!
But I have definitely been confronting my social anxiety in general. This past weekend, I went to visit my husband's parents and extended family. Some of them like to tease mercilessly and bring up topics that get under peoples' skin, and in past gatherings I've always been the primary target. I don't think it was because I was getting noticeably more riled than other people... it's more that I disagree with them about a lot of things, so there are easy topics to bring up. So partly because of that, I had been skipping going to those family gatherings for a while. Previously, my in-laws wanted me to not confront this person and just get over it, but this time I decided that if they want me there, then there have to be some boundaries. I was all set to tell this person to lay off face-to-face, but my mother-in-law talked to his wife and told her to tell him to be nice this time. I guess this approach must have worked, because there wasn't a problem this visit.
While there, I did a practice interview with one of their family friends. I know and like this person, but I don't know her all that well, so it was a sweaty, uncomfortable situation. When it was over, she told me that I answered the questions well and came across as skilled and confident in my abilities, so that really helped me feel better... I may be feeling awful inside, but I guess at least sometimes it's not all that obvious to other people?
And then this morning, I had a phone interview (for a different position than the recruiter called about previously). I survived it without stuttering or floundering! I think I did better than expected because the practice interview gave me more confidence. I don't think I'll get the job, because my experience is probably not the best fit. But there's nothing I can do about that... I did the best I could, and maybe next time I'll have better luck.