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The trick to overcoming social anxiety


"Think less, do more"

While working in a temporary job last Christmas a work colleague told me this while having a conversation. It stuck with me and in the new year I started being more adventurous. I couldn't do anything about the job situation, but I attended courses like Job Club and a First Aid course. In May I started volunteering for the National Trust. I also started dating for the first time this year (I'm 23). I joined Okcupid and chatted to many girls online. I got a good response rate and I skyped with some of them. I learned the things to do and not do when talking to girls. I had 2 dates with 2 separate girls. They seemed to go well, but didn't work out because of the personality clash. I'm definitely a different person than I was a year ago. I've come out of my shell. If I ever have doubts about anything I just say f*** it and go with it. People with social anxiety tend to over analyse things making them seem far worse than they actually are. You have to "Think less, do more". It's the way to get things done.
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That is so true. Probably one of the best ways to start overcoming anxiety
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Kind of like faking extroversion, which I am in dire need of learning to do.
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"Think less, do more"

While working in a temporary job last Christmas a work colleague told me this while having a conversation. It stuck with me and in the new year I started being more adventurous. I couldn't do anything about the job situation, but I attended courses like Job Club and a First Aid course. In May I started volunteering for the National Trust. I also started dating for the first time this year (I'm 23). I joined Okcupid and chatted to many girls online. I got a good response rate and I skyped with some of them. I learned the things to do and not do when talking to girls. I had 2 dates with 2 separate girls. They seemed to go well, but didn't work out because of the personality clash. I'm definitely a different person than I was a year ago. I've come out of my shell. If I ever have doubts about anything I just say f*** it and go with it. People with social anxiety tend to over analyse things making them seem far worse than they actually are. You have to "Think less, do more". It's the way to get things done.
Interesting, so your saying we should expose ourselves to social situations more and not think about it which could lead to us being fearful and not taking action?
Also are you saying we should 'fake it till we make it'?
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Kind of like faking extroversion, which I am in dire need of learning to do.
Faking extroversion won't help you at all, I've tried it for a long time and all i got out of it was friends that i had no connection with and not being able to recognize myself.
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Interesting, so your saying we should expose ourselves to social situations more and not think about it which could lead to us being fearful and not taking action?
Also are you saying we should 'fake it till we make it'?
Exactly, either that or spend the rest of your life as a social recluse. The key is exposure. The more you go out and socialise, the more normal it will begin to feel, and your survival mechanism won't kick in (your brain won't think you're under threat). Stand up to your fears to overcome them.
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"Think less, do more"
I'd almost always say it's unwise advice to tell people to think less but in this case it fits and I agree. Congrats on the progress.
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Learning how to backflip at my gym taught me a lot about social anxiety.

I used to be scared to rotate backwards, all you have to do is kill all interference from your brain and just do it. I just stop caring about the possibility of injury and told myself if I go balls in then I should do it just fine, and you feel like a ****in boss when you do it properly. If I land on my face, then no problem, at least I overcame the fear, now try and try again till the fear is nothing.

Same with social situations. Go balls in. If you seem nervous and they notice, that's the same as landing on your face, just do it till the fear is nothing.

I recommend everyone here tries overcoming fears other than social ones, to get a grip of how to deal with it properly.
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