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Spent some time with someone - maybe I'm not as hopeless as I first assumed


As someone with relatively bad social anxiety I find it difficult to talk to people I don't know really well. A few days ago some of the people I sit with in my lectures (we haven't really done much outside of university) asked me to go grab lunch with them - being the over-analytical socially awkward wreck that I am, I assumed that it was just because I was there at the time rather than a genuine desire to spend time with me.

But after we were done eating and everyone was heading their separate ways, I got asked by one of the girls to go shopping with them - I figure anyone else (by which I mean people without SA or similar conditions) would have just been cool with it and gone (or not, on their own perogative). But of course I was thinking "Does she actually want to spend time with me? Really, me?" the whole time - but the fact that she was the one asking me to go to lunch and made a point of stopping me before I went home after getting food to stay and do stuff kind of says otherwise, to me at least.

I dunno, I consider it a much needed confidence boost, and from it I figure that hey, maybe I'm not as socially inept or hard to be around as I perceive myself to be. Anyway, it felt good, so I wanted to share
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Pada - Read between the lines because I think there could be more to this than you might think...

It could be an IOI - Indicator of Interest. I suggest you reciprocate with a suggestion of meeting up and see how she responds.

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As someone with relatively bad social anxiety I find it difficult to talk to people I don't know really well. A few days ago some of the people I sit with in my lectures (we haven't really done much outside of university) asked me to go grab lunch with them - being the over-analytical socially awkward wreck that I am, I assumed that it was just because I was there at the time rather than a genuine desire to spend time with me.



But after we were done eating and everyone was heading their separate ways, I got asked by one of the girls to go shopping with them - I figure anyone else (by which I mean people without SA or similar conditions) would have just been cool with it and gone (or not, on their own perogative). But of course I was thinking "Does she actually want to spend time with me? Really, me?" the whole time - but the fact that she was the one asking me to go to lunch and made a point of stopping me before I went home after getting food to stay and do stuff kind of says otherwise, to me at least.



I dunno, I consider it a much needed confidence boost, and from it I figure that hey, maybe I'm not as socially inept or hard to be around as I perceive myself to be. Anyway, it felt good, so I wanted to share

Yeah, people rarely go to those lengths with someone for no reason. They must find you interesting!
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Pada - Read between the lines because I think there could be more to this than you might think...

It could be an IOI - Indicator of Interest. I suggest you reciprocate with a suggestion of meeting up and see how she responds.
Heh yeah that might be the case, but as far as I know she's in a happy relationship already and I wouldn't want to come between that - we'll see though.
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