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Drew 10-31-2008 03:53 PM

Share your experience with treatment for social anxiety
 
Is there some treatment that has helped you triumph over social anxiety?
Share your experience with it!

If the treatment is not currently listed, click the "Suggest a new listing..." link at the bottom of the page to add it. Once you add it you'll be able to add your experience immediately.

Thanks!

creativedissent 11-29-2008 10:53 PM

shame-attacking exercises!

VIncymon 04-15-2009 07:56 PM

I battle particular days of frustration with longer gym hours !

IT works !... most times.

ezcurrad 06-15-2009 01:29 PM

talkingto myself alot about diffucult things

allangering 06-24-2009 02:26 AM

I am also agree with your experience.Thanks for sharing that, it was wonderful of you.It helped me a lot.

WhimsicalInWV 01-22-2010 01:36 PM

What works for me
 
Hi,

It's a mix of things that have helped me over the last 3 months.

*RX- I swore after taking about 6 different kind and only getting worse, I wouldn't try again. But finially I tried Paxil.

*Books- The ones that are helping the most are:The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety; The Feeling Good Handbook; The david burns panic attack book, cant think of it right this second.

*Therapy- finding a great therapist. i had to go through so many to find the right one, but it's SO worth it. Plus i don't pay anything (its through a grant). And i go once a week. CBt helps! And talking all my angers out is so great!

*Self talk

*Journaling- didn't want to do it at first, but now i can't stop!

*Exercise-plus it helps me burn alot of nervous energy

*Massage- usually i use a massage cushion and it feels so good!

*Visual rexlation/Meditation and Mindfulness

That's all for right now
Dawn :)

CCS 02-12-2010 06:52 PM

Breathing slowly in through my nose and out my mouth always calms me a tad. And talking to myself in my head always works too. For some reason I can get myself so fired up that nothing bothers me anymore after I do it most the time.

shy797 03-29-2010 05:59 PM

I've had social anxiety since I can remember, I'm almost 23 now. I took Klonapin, every supplement out there, and anti-depressants on and off for years-which helped a little bit when I was in high school, but the Klonapin started making me more anxious for some reason the past few months (my body was probably getting a tolerance to that horrible drug). I decided to stop taking it about a month ago and have been getting panic attacks and embarrassing blushing episodes multiple times a day, pretty much any time someone would talk to me. I finally found something that works right away...it sounds crazy but what do you guys have to lose, it's free! For me it worked 100 times better than any medication or therapy session, or supplement, mainly because it totally stopped my panic attacks in their tracks. I actually cried the next night after my panic-free day at work, how could something so easy and free cure panic disorder and NO stupid doctors tell us about this!? For the past week I've been doing it pretty much everyday, now when I would normally get a panic attack I still feel the anticipatory anxiety but then NOTHING. It's called EFT, I heard about it years ago but figured it was a bunch of crap since no one really acknowledged it. I hope this helps someone, here is the link for the free manual (I didn't buy any of the DVDs just used the free manual and it worked). It's 100 times better than any medication or therapy session I hope you all try it out, good luck!!

https://www.emofree.com/downloadeftmanual.asp

Jayne311 04-28-2010 02:00 PM

I just tried one of the EFT videos on youtube for anxiety, and I did find it very relaxing. I felt a little tired after I got done, and like my arms and legs were a little heavy, but a few minutes have passed and now everything feels like normal, except I feel less anxious.

To test it, right after I got done watching the video, I checked my email. That always gives me anxiety, and plus I'm waiting for a really important email. I felt a bit better about checking it. Kind of like I was able to realize that even if I got the most horrible email ever, it didn't have to bother me. I was still a little anxious about it, but it wasn't as much as before. I feel like the video got me to relax about it.

Blargh 05-18-2010 09:41 PM

Mindfulness is certainly part of the picture. Two things helped me get out of SA: 1. Realizing that not everyone is part of the same social bloc. Individuals have their own motivations, hopes, and fears. Fearing that everyone is against you is mathematically unlikely at best, destructive paranoia at worst. 2. Your SA keeps you in a reactive state that doesn't allow much critical thinking. If someone talks to you, it's hard to snap out in time. Be mindful. Treat the individual as you would be treated--like an equal. A fellow human being. If you manage that, you're on the road to more proactive thinking and behavior.

DI117 08-12-2010 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Blargh (Post 1391184)
Mindfulness is certainly part of the picture. Two things helped me get out of SA: 1. Realizing that not everyone is part of the same social bloc. Individuals have their own motivations, hopes, and fears. Fearing that everyone is against you is mathematically unlikely at best, destructive paranoia at worst. 2. Your SA keeps you in a reactive state that doesn't allow much critical thinking. If someone talks to you, it's hard to snap out in time. Be mindful. Treat the individual as you would be treated--like an equal. A fellow human being. If you manage that, you're on the road to more proactive thinking and behavior.

This

The biggest step I took to getting through my anxiety was realizing that I am in control of my thought process. You have to push yourself to realize that you are in control of every thought, remind yourself that YOU are in control and not the anxiety. Think of the anxiety as a metaphysical layer over your brain, it's not human, it can't actually do any harm to you, so why bother being scared? Once you put it in to scale, it becomes more of a pet peeve then a dominating force of your life.

Monday 08-26-2010 11:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Blargh (Post 1391184)
Mindfulness is certainly part of the picture. Two things helped me get out of SA: 1. Realizing that not everyone is part of the same social bloc. Individuals have their own motivations, hopes, and fears. Fearing that everyone is against you is mathematically unlikely at best, destructive paranoia at worst. 2. Your SA keeps you in a reactive state that doesn't allow much critical thinking. If someone talks to you, it's hard to snap out in time. Be mindful. Treat the individual as you would be treated--like an equal. A fellow human being. If you manage that, you're on the road to more proactive thinking and behavior.

I think Mindfulness is such a good tool for people with SA. I recommend Zen and the art of happiness. Or even Zen for dummies.;) Since Mindfulness, and Mediation, teach about the monkey mind..that part of us that's always yapping, and in our case telling us what we are doing wrong, judging ourselves..Mindfulness and meditation, teaches how to turn off the inner voices. To just be in the moment. To accept what is. You might not like it but you can at lest accept it and that brings it's own peace. Acceptance has been the key for me. The more I accept myself warts and all, the more I feel , confident.
Being that I have OCD it has been hard to trying to learn to Mediate but at the same time, it has helped me to at start to learn how to turn off the obsessive thinking.

eccentricpeter 09-30-2010 03:19 AM

my experience with treatment for social anxiety is a dumb counsellor who doens't give me meds when I clearly need them.

Ruthless78 11-25-2010 03:02 PM

Hey guys :).
I'm new here, but not new to blushing and social anxiety! Found the forum and wanted to tell you about my success with EFT. I've had my blushing problem for about 20yrs I'd say, and i've tried prozac but thankfully i'm off it and honestly wouldn't touch Big Pharma with a barge pole these days. The 'side' effects are horrendous, including making anxiety worse! Thanks Big Pharma.. I'm happy to see others are trying EFT. It really is amazing and there is so much in the way of free video on you tube, and also the free manual from the emofree website, that you really don't have to see an EFT therapist and part with cash. I'm broke so that's not an option for me lol.
I recommend a guy called Brad Yates on you tube ('eftwizard' is his channel). Loads of vids from him. Today at university, there were a number of situations that would normally have caused me to panic and blush furiously, but NOTHING happened!!! I really recommend trying it out. As i say, it is free so there is nothing to lose, apart from your time tapping along with a few videos. This one is a good starter i think:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=heQvp...eature=related

There are lots of other people making EFT vids, but this guy is really good. Bear in mind that you can make up your own scripts specific to how you feel etc and thinking about situations that cause blushing while tapping really seems to clear the fear. It helps to be as specific as possible, so persevere for a while. However you might not need to, as being vague and feeling shame, fear, panic etc still is very effective i've found. EFT rocks!!!!!

walkerbonbon 12-14-2010 02:34 PM

I set little goals for myself and tackle them one by one. For example, I couldn't make eye contact during conversations for a long time. So I set a goal to be able to learn to make eye contact. I did it in manageable steps, like first making eye contact with strangers while shopping or while walking the dog.

Then I learned to make eye contact by looking near the person's eyes, but really on brigge of the nose. I did this till I felt comfortable.
then I worked myself up to maintaining real eye contact breifly.
I also watched reality TV shows and documentaries (not movies with actors) to observe how people make eye contact in real life. It's a lot less than I thought.

So that's how i was able to teach myself to make eye contact.

I did similar things with conversation, speaking in front of a group, and making small talk. Breaking up each thing into small, manageable, Do-able tasks.

And I may have setbacks occasionally but I just get back in there and keep at it.

Good luck to all!

mischa nieves 01-04-2011 06:27 AM

I've found that EFT works very well.

Also positive affirmations. Flooding my mind with positive thoughts helps drown the negative ones.

Relaxation techniques.

Learning to listen to what you tell yourself. Sometimes we are our worst enemy. We are constantly critical of everything we do, constantly putting ourselves down. I started writing down the things I said to myself, boy was I emotionally bashing myself. Then I worked at replacing those thoughts.

'Become your own best friend'. I read that somewhere and it's true. Sometimes we think we'll feel better if we know that everyone likes us, but in reality it's our own self love that we are truly in need of.

Colhad75 02-09-2011 05:32 AM

The Law of Attraction and the book "The Secret". The first thing it did was help me to change my thinking thus enabling me to overcome depression and anxiety to a large degree.

We all have the ability to change our mind from negative to positive. Depression, Social Anxiety and such are thoughts that you choose to have. The thing to realise is that you can change your mind to say you're positive, happy and can smile. Just by deciding to think that way goes along way to helping to overcome depression.

The ability to chose how you think belongs to you.

AlekParker 02-16-2011 12:01 PM

CBT or cognitive behavioral therapy. There are many people who have overcome or controlled Social anxiety with CBT and CBT is a proven method with a plethora of scientific studies that have proved that it will work. (given that you put the time and effort to do it)

A lot of what is talked about above by other forum members, like countering negative thoughts, self talk, positivity, relaxation techniques, affirmations, mindfulness even meditation are all related to COGNITIVE Therapy. Cognition is the 'process of thought' in our mind. We can change this towards the better with all these techniques combined.

Where Exposure, or puting yourself in gradual social situations starting with small goals and working your way towards larger is related to BEHAVIORAL Therapy.

Combined, these are the fundamentals of Cognitive-Behavioral therapy. We need to relate our thoughts and feelings with the actions or behaviors that we take, both gradually and progressively. We can't merely sit around and try to 'feel good' we have to eventually add behavioral therapy to our cognitive therapy and combine them.

Dr Richard's Tapes, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and 'The Work' are examples of/ or use CBT techniques within them.

We have an active group that meets 3 times a week where we practice all these methods to overcoming social anxiety. Iff you'd like to join:
http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/...group-therapy/

RenegadeReloaded 03-15-2011 10:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Colhad75 (Post 1782372)
The Law of Attraction and the book "The Secret". The first thing it did was help me to change my thinking thus enabling me to overcome depression and anxiety to a large degree.

We all have the ability to change our mind from negative to positive. Depression, Social Anxiety and such are thoughts that you choose to have. The thing to realise is that you can change your mind to say you're positive, happy and can smile. Just by deciding to think that way goes along way to helping to overcome depression.

The ability to chose how you think belongs to you.

Hi I've watched the movie callled ''the secret'' and it was about law of attraction too. Except i didn't found any tools to help me change the way I see things.

Is the book more detailed ? Or is it even about the same thing ? I want to try it again, this time reading.

laessence 10-19-2011 11:00 AM

There are self-help books that have helped me. Also facing a fear everyday helps tremendously.

vardhan 12-28-2011 05:05 PM

I feel i am close to overcoming social phobia/ocd
 
The solution for me was to ignore the thoughts and seeing things clearly.

May we all come out of this rut...and help others too.

fayezrhapsody 12-29-2011 07:17 PM

To me getting out of my head so speak is a determining factor to eliminating anxiety.
There's different ways of doing that, sometimes it's creative outlets, sometimes physical activity.
However there is nothing that consistently helps me to control it, its more of a combination of things depending on the situation.
Guided self talk, as where I try to change my perspective (without ever directly opposing my previous one) has been my most efficient tool.
When all else fails I scratch myself till i bleed and smoke myself out. =P

Scattered Pieces 12-29-2011 07:35 PM

A lot of things have helped my SA :

1) Meds where the 'band-aid' for helping my anxiety. Zoloft + welbutrin , and ativan as needed. Along with tea's and calming herbs!

2) CBT , this might of been the most important step in helping my SA, without CBT, I am unsure how I would of gotten past a few of my fears! The therapist also was good to vent from too.

3) My service dog , They have been proven to boost self esteem, speed up or kick start recovery, and help with motivation! They are great with people with depression . Along with the work they do to help you recognize your over reactions! With Brownie, he alerts me before a panic attack *which helps a lot*.

frica 12-30-2011 02:49 AM

great story

trytrytry 03-26-2012 04:22 PM

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Slow Exposure Therapy and a Social Anxiety Workbook with my psychologist have helped a TON! get a good therapist... and you'll be amazed at how smart they're and know exactly what you're thinking!

afraid2goinpublic 05-07-2012 07:12 PM

This book has really helped me "Overcoming Anxiety and Depression" Practical tools to help you deal with negative emotions. by Bob Phillips I am not saying it is a cure for SA but it sure helped me alot! I was able to go shopping today and not take any meds to do it! It felt so good. No sweating no anxiety no pills no heart racing. It has alot of coping tools in it. I hope you guys give it a try and I hope it helps atleast one other person then my post is worth it! Thank you in advance . :)

The shy soldier 05-14-2012 05:25 AM

Please try Dr. Richard - Over coming social anxiety, step by step -Sessions
It consists of 20 sessions.
I am still trying his 1st technique which he calls: 'slow talk'. he thinks reducing the speed of our talking lessens our level of anxiety while conversing with other people, And he got that right!. it helps me on daily basis now...

Give it a try...

Drew 05-15-2012 12:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The shy soldier (Post 1059934449)
Please try Dr. Richard - Over coming social anxiety, step by step -Sessions
It consists of 20 sessions.
I am still trying his 1st technique which he calls: 'slow talk'. he thinks reducing the speed of our talking lessens our level of anxiety while conversing with other people, And he got that right!. it helps me on daily basis now...

Give it a try...

I can also recommend this! :)

I went through a group based on his therapy and benefited enormously.

Invisiblehandicap 07-27-2012 05:48 PM

a) read lots of books on SA, depression, self improvement etc
b) use self help techniques + come up with own self help
c) Go on internet less
d) stop giving into obsessions (I dont have ocd, but have some minor obsessional thoughts + habits)
e) Think of each exposure as good. It is awesome that you have been given an opportunity by the universe to do exposure and improve yourself.
f) stop avoiding things that make you uncomfortable.
g) I tell myself to stop complaining and just do it. Stuff like that works.
h) You MUST learn to observe your habits and thoughts etc. What do you do that is not good for you? What can you do to improve, make yourself happier??

Omgblood 09-30-2012 12:20 PM

Medication to stop the physical symptoms and help stop the thoughts

Exposure

Still in progress

pastels 09-30-2012 10:17 PM

did u get cbt from a book if so plz tell or did u go to a therapist for it?

annalucky 12-16-2012 04:07 AM

hi folks after suffering for years with anxiety and many different antidepressants that doctors kept giving me never had any effect,they gave me some short term diazepam that helped they said i could not be on these as they are addictive,i have got severe anxiety disorder,social anxiety,panic attacks and low mood,had to give up a good job 5 yrs ago because of this,cant look people in the eye or cant go to appoinments,or talk to people i dont know.if i go anywhere i last so long then i get a fear and have to run home anxiety is crippling,saw a therapist and couldnt work with her as couldnt do the tasks she asked,i have been put on olanzaine teva,i have not started them due to reading all the side effects,andbeen told if u miss a pill you get the shakes and vomit and more,can any one help me on this to put my mind at rest thanks

rawrguy 12-24-2012 08:45 PM

I personally can't stand self help books on social anxiety and shyness. I do not read on my leisure time and it's just not a rewarding experience for me. I feel that going out to a party or any type of social event would help me better than reading a whole book. Thing that helped me in the past: Zoloft, Benzos, CBT. Things that continue to help me: taking risperdal to prevent my bipolar disorder from turning my mood into suicidal depression or psychotic behavior, meetup.com, exercise, positive attitude.

bugdrops 12-30-2012 01:03 AM

meditation, and doing what triggers me, but i was in love, and that helped aswell. only tried med's that wont do me no good this far, hope im going to get good help from lyrica if my doc prescribes it for me. no therapist have worked so far, and im in this institution now, been here for 2 months but they still havent started with treatment. and it seems i have just been getting a little bit worse lately, shame, i was doing very good in the beginning i dont know why... im not takin it good.

anthony54321 05-25-2013 06:35 AM

For some reason you keep classing me as a spammer and I am not, my last 4 or 5 posts have not been published,I have suffered with social anxiety and blushing for years and I have virtually overcome it, all I am trying to do is to help others,if you don't want me to contribute or help please let me know
thankyou

andrewedwards 07-14-2013 03:16 PM

stoping masturbation and watching porn helps with the anxiety

buddyfed 08-07-2013 07:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Monday (Post 1530579)
I think Mindfulness is such a good tool for people with SA. I recommend Zen and the art of happiness. Or even Zen for dummies.;) Since Mindfulness, and Mediation, teach about the monkey mind..that part of us that's always yapping, and in our case telling us what we are doing wrong, judging ourselves..Mindfulness and meditation, teaches how to turn off the inner voices. To just be in the moment. To accept what is. You might not like it but you can at lest accept it and that brings it's own peace. Acceptance has been the key for me. The more I accept myself warts and all, the more I feel , confident.
Being that I have OCD it has been hard to trying to learn to Mediate but at the same time, it has helped me to at start to learn how to turn off the obsessive thinking.


excellent.

Paloma55 12-21-2013 01:42 PM

1) Age & experience, getting better at social interactions over time.
2) "Power of Now" books & CDs.
3) Medication to solve panic attacks & tremor.
4) Journalling, positive affirmations, breathing techniques.
5) Determination, perseverance and repetition to build comfort & confidence.

FrozenSlumber 12-24-2013 04:39 AM

Exposure
 
Repeated exposure
(with a healthy dose of some very serious honest discussions with myself)

Some days it feels useless but I just checked my Liebowitz Social Anxiety Score and... it went from 94 to 64. Only a year between the two, I am amazed. I'm really starting to feel the difference.


(There is no stopping the thoughts, or "they" as I call it. Not for me anyway. My mind never slows down enough for meditation and such. The more I try to shut them up the more upset I get which just makes it worse. So basically I just let it run... and let it be proven wrong. I figure, the more "they" get proven wrong, the less they yell. "They" haven't shut up yet but it's not quite as "loud" anymore)

AndCounting 12-24-2013 12:33 PM

None of the stuff that was supposed to help me helped at all (exercise, medication, therapy, church, etc).

What did help was diving head first into things without thinking too much about consequences (socially speaking). That isn't to say that I don't worry about the consequences, I would just do it anyway! It's been working for me. I started small with just my words and then lead up to actions. It took up until this year for me to realize that I'm a likeable person and that everyone enjoys being around me. I've been doing this for a couple of years and all of the people I've befriended/gotten to know in that time frame can't even tell that I have social anxiety or depression.


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