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Been going to BJJ despite of anxiety over having been promoted (People wont think I deserve it!), and got complemented by the person who won gold in the national championship, felt pretty good.
Starting to be able to put up a fight against higher belts, too, which gives a nice feeling of progress.


Also managed to chat with a few classmates while walking home, despite of avoiding any discussion with them for the most of the year.
And asked an older friend to hang out, which he hasn't really taken me on, on, yet. I've always had major difficulties keeping in touch with people, and in the past I've just let my social connections slip.
This summer, though, I have made plans with a group of friends to meet up, got invited to visit another friend, and made plans to meet and perhaps study together with the best friend I've made in years.
Also managed to throw some jokes and chat a bit in hobbies.


Gonna leave this video where a bjj guy talks about doing pretty much the same stuff I've been doing to work on my anxiety, I think doing these things could help quite a few people:

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Today I woke up and a voice in my head told me to deactivate Instagram. I'm a firm believer that if you ever get a random idea as soon as you wake up that's unnatural to yourself it's probably divine intervention/your spirit guide trying to communicate with yu.

So that's what I did. I deactivated my Instagram and already i feel so much better. I didnt realise that this app that i was addicted to (refreshed at least 40 times a day) was causing me so much anxiety. All I felt from IG was negative emotions when I really think about it. How could i be addicted to that?

Now I dont have to worry about
-not getting enough likes
-my crush liking other girls pics
-not enough people watching my story
-the wrong people watching my story
-people i barely know unfollowing me and suddenly it's the end of the world
-not getting follow backs from people i've met
-people not responding to my DM even though i KNOW i've seen them online

Honestly, all this app gives me is just anxiety. And already i feel so much better now i've got rid of it. I'm happy living in the ignorance that my crush is hitting on girls on IG, and people are having the times of their lives on IG but i simply do not know. And I feel so much better already.


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Today I woke up and a voice in my head told me to deactivate Instagram. I'm a firm believer that if you ever get a random idea as soon as you wake up that's unnatural to yourself it's probably divine intervention/your spirit guide trying to communicate with yu.

So that's what I did. I deactivated my Instagram and already i feel so much better. I didnt realise that this app that i was addicted to (refreshed at least 40 times a day) was causing me so much anxiety. All I felt from IG was negative emotions when I really think about it. How could i be addicted to that?

Now I dont have to worry about
-not getting enough likes
-my crush liking other girls pics
-not enough people watching my story
-the wrong people watching my story
-people i barely know unfollowing me and suddenly it's the end of the world
-not getting follow backs from people i've met
-people not responding to my DM even though i KNOW i've seen them online

Honestly, all this app gives me is just anxiety. And already i feel so much better now i've got rid of it. I'm happy living in the ignorance that my crush is hitting on girls on IG, and people are having the times of their lives on IG but i simply do not know. And I feel so much better already.
I deleted mine a while back but I got it back a few days ago. Probably should have kept it deleted.

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Told a story to a complete stranger today. It was a long story and I didn't **** it up.

That says a lot for my social anxiety. If I can tell stories to my family and to strangers, then I can tell them to anyone. Game on.

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Great news! My mother and I both got hired at the thrift store. Training for me is next Tuesday morning, and my mothers is on Wednesday afternoon.

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Great news! My mother and I both got hired at the thrift store. Training for me is next Tuesday morning, and my mothers is on Wednesday afternoon.
That's awesome monkey!! wishing you both the best!!

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That's awesome monkey!! wishing you both the best!!
Thanks dear.

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Great news! My mother and I both got hired at the thrift store. Training for me is next Tuesday morning, and my mothers is on Wednesday afternoon.
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That is good to hear. I'm so happy for you. Good luck on with your training. You can do it Code Money
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That is good to hear. I'm so happy for you. Good luck on with your training. You can do it Code Money
Oh they are both volunteer positions so we would not be paid, but still, thank you Fun Spirit!

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Oh they are both volunteer positions so we would not be paid, but still, thank you Fun Spirit!
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That is still great! I hope you will make people happy there. A thrift store makes me feel compassion for the less fortunate
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I hit rock bottom last night. Suddenly I don't think it's normal to have mental breakdowns every 6 months. I found a therapist that can see me last minute. I was really nervous but the session went well! I could of sat and talked for at least 5 hours. I'm really excited to start my recovery journey now.
I was putting off therapy for a year and I'm so glad that I'm back on the horse now. I'm mad I didnt go sooner but meh. I really just want to get better now.


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I participated in an interview today that was very intimidating but I kind of kept my cool. I didn't sell myself 'cause my confidence ditched out but I pulled through it all without stuttering!

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Small step, but I focused on thinking positive today, and the results were more than great! Will do my best, to make this an habit!
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Despite a couple days' reluctance, I started my anxiety medication a few days ago. So far, so good. Not really any side-effects except for some mild nausea. Which, I've been dealing with nausea-inducing chronic migraines for many years so it's nothing new. Here's to hoping it works for me.

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Despite a couple days' reluctance, I started my anxiety medication a few days ago. So far, so good. Not really any side-effects except for some mild nausea. Which, I've been dealing with nausea-inducing chronic migraines for many years so it's nothing new. Here's to hoping it works for me.
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Went out with friend again yesterday, anxiety was there for sure but I lasted. Good experience for me.

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Can going to a concert be considered as a success for someone who has anxiety?
Because I'm going to a festival in June and I'm ****ting myself but at least I will be with my boyfriend (not too fond of the idea of being alone around thousands of strangers). It will definitely be stressful and a challenge for my anxiety but will be worth it.


Also I'm taking regular driving lessons again so I'm having some social interaction and putting myself to the test (it's a constant process of being criticized for your mistakes, so not the most relaxing type of human interaction)

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Despite a couple days' reluctance, I started my anxiety medication a few days ago. So far, so good. Not really any side-effects except for some mild nausea. Which, I've been dealing with nausea-inducing chronic migraines for many years so it's nothing new. Here's to hoping it works for me.
I really hope it helps, Alie. I've always found anxiety meds to be extremely useful. I rarely take them anymore because my HMO is reluctant to prescribe them which is irritating because I have to say I used them sparingly and intelligently--on an as-needed basis. They have always been the most useful medication I've ever taken. I actually attribute being offered a job due to how well I interviewed while being in a relatively calm state. Ok, sorry for blabbering. Hugsz

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Can going to a concert be considered as a success for someone who has anxiety?
Because I'm going to a festival in June and I'm ****ting myself but at least I will be with my boyfriend (not too fond of the idea of being alone around thousands of strangers). It will definitely be stressful and a challenge for my anxiety but will be worth it.


Also I'm taking regular driving lessons again so I'm having some social interaction and putting myself to the test (it's a constant process of being criticized for your mistakes, so not the most relaxing type of human interaction)
Congratulations on doing all this! You deserve a lot of credit. These can be challenging undertakings. For myself, at concerts, I try to remember I'm there for the music and I hone in on that and if something social comes about as well, then that's an added bonus. It'll hopefully make it easier to be there with your boyfriend. Have a good time!!

...you gotta keep the goal in mind, develop tunnel vision to a certain extent. it's hard, and it's not for everyone.

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