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Hello Sasers I'm new here and i just wanted to share my story and have some insight. I'm a 22 y/o male virgin and I've been nofap for four months and I've noticed this bizarre attraction women towards me now. This is my first time posting here an- efriend recommended me this site Short backstory on me -been pmo'ing since 12, hardcore since 16,lost drive to live and have sex. -never asked a girl out, afraid of rejection
Saw an article on NoFap and thought it was completely and utter bull****, dismissed it as some gay ****. Also read an article about how masturbation helps prostate cancer so I continued. then I started feeling worse and worse, anxiety getting more and more deblitating.Low arousal around women unless there in slimpy outfits. Feeling like sit, demotivated and I couldn't shake it off.Brother told me the dangers of fapping few months ago, then read an article about how porn damages your brain scared the fck outta me so I quit cold turkey.
Day 1. Was irritated nothing changed. Deleted all my pics off my iPhone and laptop. Day 8. I started feeling a WHOLE lot better. Anxiety and depression diminished, just generally feeling happy and like a human being. Also becoming more horny. End of Week 2. VIVID DREAMS. Day after day from this point I started getting the most intense,vibrant, radiating dreams I have ever had in my life. It was shocking and scary at the same time. At this point I had no doubt that noFap was the truth and there was definitely something brain-related going crazy with me. Week 4.FLATLINE AND BIZARRE ATTRACTION FROM WOMEN. This week my libido dropped completely and I felt asexual. This is one of the most hardest experiences I have ever to go through aside from HOCD which helped me start nofap in the process. Then around this time I started getting an unreal of attention from women. Everywhere I went, women would be eyeing me down hard and even giving me compliments, something I never gotten before. From GORGEOUS CHICKS. Still having low self-esteem, I first attributed this to placebo and confidence, but then realized it couldn't be that bc I felt like **** in a flatline, and my anxiety had gotten worse, and I didn't even look or talk to women. Sometimes women would blatantly approach me outta nowhere. One girl I walked past even ran to me and gave me her number. It was so unreal to me bc I never had that attention before. A gorgeous blonde chick hopped out her car and handed me 20$ and gave me a come****me look but I was too nervous to act on it. I looked up online to see if anyone had this phenomena and luckily found a ton of ppl who knew what I was talking about but also a lot of ppl saying it was all in the mind/posture or placebo. So I did a little test with what my gut was telling me. I noticed I got more attention when I wore gym shorts so I decided to go to Food Lion without any boxers wearing my black gym shorts. LO and BEHOLD, women were THIRSTY AF stalking me. When I went to the junk isle, this sexy older white women prob late twenties, passed me then walked up to me and called me baby! Then she looked at me to see if I would say anything, but being too taken aback I didn't say anything and let it go. Then when I went to the snack these two cute asian chicks passed me then after 5 seconds did a COMPLETE U-TURN and started talking literally right in my face waiting for me to say something. Still nervous I went to checkout my things 5min later, then they RAN to my self-checkout isle right when I was about to leave. I was really being stalked. I confirmed from this that there was something else going on that's not placebo or confidence. I know it has something to do with semen retention. Why else girls, who've been ignoring me my whole life are all of a sudden attracted to me? It's not like I bought new clothes or anything I wear the same white shirt. What's even more crazy is some girls will notice from 30 feet away. Sometimes when I'm across the streets a couple girls blew kisses at me. What can explain this i'm not even looking in their direction, I don't even notice them like usual, nothing about my outward demeanor has changed. Week 5. INSANE ENERGY. One of these days in WEEK 5 I woke up with incredible indescribable energy. ZERO ANXIETY NO MATTER HOW MUCH I TRIED. I jumped up and down for two hours straight I couldn't contain it made me so happy. Such a huge contrast from my weak, fatigued, depressed self. I even had to courage to talk to a female cashier at the store and then I started talking to random ppl out of nowhere. It felt great. For just this day alone, my entire nofap journey would have been worth it. Week 7. Social Anxiety pretty much gone at this point. All I have to do keep up a minimum conversations per day and it won't come back unless I isolate myself. In college this hot blonde chick I sit next two have been giving me huge IOI's. Weeks before nofap she wouldn't talk to me but now she won't leave me alone. Not trying to boast, but there's this tatted up well-spoken army vet we sit next too which I think is surely more attractive than me but she doesn't even pay him any attention. In fact she completely ignores him and only greets me, I almost feel bad for him lol bc she's very attractive and funny. Also something funny two girls who've friend zoned me for two months one of them decided to give me their number. The other hasn't but is very giggly and goggly-eyed around me for some reason. I was thinking on standing her up get back revenge lol. Women give me this strange loo now, as if they're bewildered lol and act they get very feminine when they're close to me.I also get more attention more men too. It's like I got more respect. The cashier that works at my food lion randomly decided to open up the line just for me today. On my way back the next day, I walked passed a crowd of black goons who looked like they were gambling me, instead of being mean/beating me up they dapped and said what sup cmd fk with us. The guys that sit behind me at English class, complimented me and said I'm cool as hell. which is weird bc I never say anything in class. I'm still trying to wrap my head around this it's been incredible. MONTH 2- I finally got the courage to cold approach a chick! She walked past me and I told myself it's now or never so I called at her very loud. Then I motioned her to come to me with my fingers. At this time I felt extreme nervousness at the same this huge burning sensation which I never felt before. Idk how i did but I swept her off her feet for about 30 seconds then got her number it was like pure instinct. I was very charming but nervous at the same time but it didn't reach my body. After I got her number I fell like the happiest guy in the world. Yes I can do this. I speculate getting laid in the very near future. This wouldn't have ever been possible without NoFap and I want to thank every single member on this board for putting me on to this it's been a hell of a ride since! More to write but this a whole lot right now let me know what you think! Have anyone been through what I've been through?
Man I can't read all of this but I get your point from your title,

On prozac 20 mg I don't have the constant urge to FAP 100 times a day as I used to, and I am relieved it feels so much better to live life like this without the constant horny nagging at my brain like Rihanna - Disturbia controlling me and making me so miserable every time!

But like you say you didn't FAP in your essay up there, I also feel more outgoing and talkative and hyper and able to engage in conversations with males in reality and online, due to prozac 20 mg and possibly also do to my lack of sexual drive, sexual dysfunction all the way, I love it!

Was never a sexual being myself, but even if I don't have that constant horny nagging OCD that forces me to FAP 100 times a day, I can still get aroused by males, interesting huh, yeah. So I have the emotions and feelings of falling in love and fooling around so that is good! But what is also added is my ability to talk to them too now so that is a great change cuz I can finally get one again now! Instead of just dreaming about them and getting depressed cuz I couldn't get what I wanted in life cuz of my damn disabling social anxiety. I was lost, now I'm born again I feel free no longer alone, a bright light is a shining and showing me a way that I know, I am.... Boney M. - I'm born again....

So in a way, your resistance to NOFAP, is like being on prozac 20 mg and experiencing sexual dysfunction ok man, nice to meet you, see I can be like you too but I couldn't do the NOFAP I tried when I wasn't on prozac, but those horny feelings just ********* me up man and I couldn't do ****. I can now, you ever ask those NOFAPPERS if they are on antidepressants too? It helps you alot if you want to NOFAP man, I recommend, prozac 20 mg.

Since we are sexual beings, having sex to reproduce and pass our DNA to our offspring, everyone is doing it, uh I don't really wanna, so I am gonna use prozac 20 mg to calm my mind of all its unnecessary hornyness and use my mind for more important things like being a scientist and talking to people more.

Why without prozac I couldn't talk to people was it cuz I was wasting all my energy on my 100 FAPS a day? eh, probably, so because of prozac making me have sexual dysfunction and no sex drive what so ever! I have more energy to talk to people? F******* cool ****, ah man whoever created prozac, ely lilly thank you !

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This whole topic is obviously to mock people that believe in no-fap, hence why it looks like he's trying to oversell it really, really hard.

I don't get why people can't believe in it.
How is it so hard to have faith in it working?

You're home on a saturday night, a cute girl is texting you, and inviting you to hang out. You're considering it, but too nervous and shy to follow through. Darn it, SA!
Instead you open up 6 tabs on xhamster and wank off.
Suddenly, you have no desire to even humor the thought of hanging out with her. Instead you just pass out and watch Netflix, completely content with being home alone on the weekend again, doing nothing with your life, logging into SAS.
You masturbating completely changed your enthusiasm and made you lose all motivation to hang out with that chick. You were contemplating it earlier, but once you fapped, your mindset completely changed.

Admit it, that scenario has happened to you.
It's proof that masturbation(mostly with porn linked in) does things to your anxiety and enthusiasm.

When I go without fapping, I'm way more social, confident, and never back down from a chance to hang out or go out with people. It's my hormones that are fueling my decisions; they want me to get laid, and nothing will stand in my way to do so. It's why I've slayed 7 girls in the last few months.

It's a very real thing, and there's actually TONS of studies that link anxiety and depression to porn+ masturbation. How can you not find it? Are you even really looking? It's statistically dominant percentage that most people that suffer social anxiety and depression are also pretty introverted and heavy porn watchers and fappers.It's not just a coincidence; observe the people on here, most of them have that whole "I live online, play games, like nerdy stuff,, and fap often" type of personality. I'm not saying that to be a jerk, it's just statistically dominant fact.

Stop the confusion; masturbation is fine. No one says it's not healthy. What makes things iffy is when you bring porn into the equation.

There's a reason that bodybuilders especially believe in this stuff and take it to heart; because they try it and see the changes(and we're insecure and always striving hard to be "alpha")
Seriously, stop masturbating, and you'll see that you're suddenly wanting to leave the house, accomplish things, and be a better you...and the reason is mostly because subconsciously your brain just wants you to go out and slay some p00n, and to do so it knows you need to improve who you are, accomplish things, impress people, exert energy, and show confidence.

Or, you know, just laugh it off, keep jerking off, and being miserable. That works, too. It's always easy to ignore the people that believe in it, are happy, and living life to the fullest, and instead just side with the people that say "lol this is bs", as they spend the rest of their weekend on Steam and browsing Reddit.

tl;dr: I respect the opinion of no-fappers a lot more, since they tend to be people that I look up to more and have a lot going on for them. The bodybuilding community, for example, is a lot easier to hold in high regard than the average male on SAS (this isnt mean to be mean, since obviously im a part of SAS too)
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Day8? Week4? Just like that? Like you decide not to fap and then you don't fap anymore? It's a ****in addiction. I have tried maaaany times and the furthest i have ever been able to go has been 1 week. Then everything ruins. I have to admit though that during some of these 1 weeks i have felt a lot better mentally, alot more confident and a lot more happy. But i think it's about being able to accomplish something not NoFap, and will lose it's effect after a while.

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A gorgeous blonde chick hopped out her car and handed me 20$ and gave me a come****me look but I was too nervous to act on it.
There is no way that ever happened.

Maybe if she thought you were homeless. Maybe all the backed up semen has totally distorted your perception of reality. Like a man dying of thirst in the desert starting to drink sand but imagining it is water.

So, it seems nofap can cause psychosis. lol

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Sounds like the OP is having a manic episode TBH.
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I wanna try it...i wonder if this shii actually works
I did it for about 4 years, it didn't help with SA or my confidence, just buy a fleshlight
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my personal opinion is that masturbating and porn is okay as long as you realize that porn does not equal reality and you should not expect an ACTUAL REAL LIFE WOMEN to do the kind of things you see in porn
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Why would a masturbator that doesn't currently have sex choose NOT to fap?
That's killing a weekly or for some, a daily point of extreme pleasure.

As far as sex is concerned, your sperm peaks after about 3-days, so it's not like
holding back for weeks will improve your sexual performance.

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Well hell, the longest I've ever gone has been two weeks. If I remember correctly, I gave up not out of desperation, but only because I felt 2 weeks was unnatural and that something terrible would happen to my balls if I didn't release the energy building up in them. I suppose I could try this out, what do I have to lose? I could probably use that hour a day I look at computer porn to better use, although I suppose I'll become very irritable after long enough. But another thing, if one were to actually do find a sex partner after 4 months of abstaining from masturbation, the likeliness of them lasting long in bed is very slim.
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no reason to stop...i mean come on..wat good will stopping do.


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Well, I might save money on Kleenex
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Can't believe there are actually people taking this seriously. There has been a lot of research showing masturbation to be a healthy form of sexual activity. It only becomes problematic when it interferes with normal daily activity (for example, you sit at home and fap instead of going out to meet people).

If you are on no fap and think that it's working, it's likely a placebo effect.
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LOL. ANOTHER one of these threads..... GOD!

look. its NOT a problem unless you do it very EXCESIVELY to the point it INTERFERES with your life, routine etc.... then I can see the point of dramatically reducing the amount it is done.

most things are fine in moderation,. ..... dont stop anything natural completely. UGH... I am fed up saying it!

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@arao6, @KILOBRAVO

Maybe it wont work as expected
but I want to give it a try
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Well it's been two weeks for me and like the OP said my dreams have gotten "interesting". Very different than normal. Last night I actually dreamed that I was looking at porn! The brain sure does like to screw around with ya! hahaha.

The first week I did notice some added clarity to my thinking and my memory.
I have also noticed some extra attention and eye contact from girls out in public.

Now, all of this has been subtle. And when the "urge" hits it hits with a vengeance and like another poster mentioned refraining has caused some pretty bad depression.

So at this point I would say that the drawbacks outweigh the benefits but I'm looking at this as dieting. When you first start a diet you are miserable but then the stomach shrinks and it's not so bad and then the benefits start showing up in measurable ways. So I'm wondering if this will work like that.

It's just an experiment. It is free to try.

I have been sexually active for almost 30 years now and two weeks ago I realized that I have questioned absolutely everything in my life *except* for sex. I have always just accepted what I have been told about what it is and what it should be at face value. So I started all this to step outside of the ring for a while and see if I get a different perspective. And I think I am thus far but, like dieting, it's a slow and sometimes painful process.

I originally only intended to go for two weeks but now I'm thinking about trying for longer. Lol.
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