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Join Date: Oct 2013
My attempts at getting a girlfriend
I'm in my late 20s and have been single my whole life. It's because I haven't put myself out there. I have read the pick up artist material as well as "How to approach women" articles online. However, I want to just be myself and find someone who can like me for who I am (Not what lines/techniques I have memorized/implemented). I have gotten to the point where I'm sick of being alone and I am going to share my approaches with you all. By approaching strangers, I hope to become more confident and break out of the "I'm not good enough for anyone" mentality.
Approach 1 (10/31):
I was walking the park today and a woman slowly jogging in the opposite direction of me, caught my attention. When she passed me, I turned back to look at her. Normally, I would have kept walking in the opposite direction but I reached the point where I wanted to try to approach her. I ended up walking in her direction and she kept getting farther and farther. So, I ended up running after her. I caught up to her and passed her because I didn't want to stalk her from behind. Then, I stopped running and walked so she could catch up to me. When she would catch up to me, I would start running again. The whole time, I was thinking of what to say to her (She had headphones on also). The whole me running ahead of her and walking for her to catch up to me happened for about 15 min.
Later, no matter how much I slowed down, she would not pass me. I then turned back around and saw that she had headed towards the middle of the park. Instead of directly following her, I walked a bit of a distance away from her and then decided to approach her. As I got near her, she turned her neck around to face me. This is what happened:
Me: "Hey, how's it going?"
Woman: (Who seemed a little uncomfortable by me IMO) said, "Good"
Me: "I hope you don't take this the wrong way but I just wanted to say that you look nice." (I felt that I had creeped her out by waiting so long to talk to her, so my goal was to just give her a compliment and walk away)
*Brief awkward silence*
Woman (smiling): Thanks, I just had a baby and I'm trying to lose some weight.
Me: "I'm trying to lose weight too, I walk around the park but don't seem to be losing any weight."
Then we talked about eating habits and exercise
Me: "Well, nice talking to you" (Bummed that she had a husband/boyfriend. I guess... even though she didn't mention one, I assumed that her just having a kid meant she had a man)
Woman (Extending her hand out to me, without me initiating it): "I'm _________, what's your name? I'll see you around the park."
Me: "Bye" (Or something like that)
I then walked away without looking back at her. I felt proud of myself for having the courage to talk to her. I knew that if I didn't say anything to her, I would be bummed on my ride home.