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Setolac 04-04-2012 10:12 AM

I deleted my 70gb porn collection and quit facebook
 
Finally I have had enough motivation and inspiration to delete my 70gb worth of porn collection. Before doing this I actually masturbated 3-4 times everyday.Sometimes I masturbated the whole day, just taking short breaks in between. My testicles were so sore but I still continued. I even resorted into masturbating to pictures of girls on facebook whom I know and this has affected how I view women.
This video inspired me alot: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU . It was mentioned somewhere in the video that depression and social anxiety can be a secondary cause due to porn/masturbation addiction. I suggest people with this addiction would do it too.

I also am quitting facebook but facebook is making it really hard. You see facebook actually makes you wait for 14 days before your account would be permanently deleted. What happens is that once you click the "confirm deletion" button, facebook says that it would permanently delete your account only after 14 days but by then your account is deactivated but through this 14 days of waiting you actually have the option to cancel your deletion request and reactivate your account again. This is the reason why facebook is evil. It makes it harder for addicts like me to let go of it. Facebook doesn't want to let you go.

Fortunately I found a solution to this. All you have to do is delete all your friends but this is very tedious since facebook doesn't have a feature that makes you delete multiple friends all at once. So you have to delete them one by one and this takes up alot of time especially if you have 200+ friends. Deleting 10 friends would take about 5 minutes. So deleting 100 friends would take about an hour and if you have 500 friends then it would take you about 5 hours.

Anyway this is a big step in my self-improvement. There are still things in my life that I need to work on.

DeeperUnderstanding 04-04-2012 10:16 AM

The first one: awesome!

The second one: if that makes you feel better, so be it. Personally, I think Facebook is a great tool for social outlets.




rymo 04-04-2012 10:19 AM

Congratulations man, this is a big step. Just out of curiosity though, why maintain a porn collection when you can just search up anything you want online?

Luna Sea 04-04-2012 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by WintersTale (Post 1059807374)
The first one: awesome!

The second one: if that makes you feel better, so be it. Personally, I think Facebook is a great tool for social outlets.

Pretty much this. I know without facebook what little social life/contact with other people that I have would be gone completely

Setolac 04-04-2012 06:29 PM

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Congratulations man, this is a big step. Just out of curiosity though, why maintain a porn collection when you can just search up anything you want online?
I actually have this fetish about something and its hard to search this just anywhere on the web. So I save it in my computer for quick access in the future so that I don't have to stream it again. This has been an addiction that I have been doing everyday for the past 7 years and it has messed up my brain. Think of all the hours, and months I have wasted doing this.

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Originally Posted by WintersTale http://1-ps.googleusercontent.com/x/...p5TxxYvX4p.png
The first one: awesome!

The second one: if that makes you feel better, so be it. Personally, I think Facebook is a great tool for social outlets.


Pretty much this. I know without facebook what little social life/contact with other people that I have would be gone completely
Facebook should not replace real life social interaction. You are only fooling yourself to believe that socializing in facebook is real. The primary reason why I deleted my account is because whenever I look at pictures of my friends in parties and social gatherings I get severely depressed and my self-esteem goes down low. After weighing the benefits and disadvantages of deleting my facebook account I believe I made the right choice. I used to spend hours in facebook stalking people and this is really a huge time waster. If you delete your facebook account you would be forced to socialize with people in real life rather than on the screen.

If you have a similar problem like me who gets depressed seeing other people pictures but don't want to delete facebook. I suggest you "unsucribe" from all of the friends that you do not want to see so that all of their posts and pictures would not appear in your newsfeed. Through this you don't have to passively view their pictures and posts.


I used to spend a minimum of 3 hours per day facebook stalking people and a minimum of 4 hours per day collecting porn and masturbating. Think of all the free time that I have just added just by permanently quitting porn/masturbation and facebook. Now I have the time to do things that would actually improve myself.

FireIsTheCleanser 04-04-2012 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by rymo (Post 1059807380)
Congratulations man, this is a big step. Just out of curiosity though, why maintain a porn collection when you can just search up anything you want online?

I have a porn collection in case there's no internet.

AussiePea 04-04-2012 06:56 PM

You will regret this in a week! I once deleted my pronz collection in one of those moments of epiphany. Regretted it a few days later :(

ozkr 04-04-2012 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by FireIsTheCleanser (Post 1059808620)
I have a porn collection in case there's no internet.

Porn existed before the internet. Those were some dark times. :no

To OP: Congratulations! I don't have anything against porn or collecting things, but I've found that collections can serve as reminders of time wasted, specially when thinking about it in terms of the things one could have accomplished or the things one missed because one chose to pursue this hobby (either for pleasure or as an attempt to fill a void).

Again, I'm not saying collecting things is bad, but when you look at what you have and don't feel joy or pride and you have doubts about keeping the collection, but you keep collecting things compulsively anyway because you feel you're already committed to this collection, then it's time to stop and seek things that are more fulfilling.

At some point I also kept a collection of nude photos ( full of models ala suicide girls, not porn), and after a while it just felt depressing, and I didn't even know why I was collecting them. In a way it felt dirty, not in a prudish way, but in a "this is pathetic and I should be meeting women in real life" kind of way.
I see my formerly large video game collection in a similar way, but I guess I've already made my point, so I won't talk about that :p .

Setolac 04-04-2012 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Ospi (Post 1059808670)
You will regret this in a week! I once deleted my pronz collection in one of those moments of epiphany. Regretted it a few days later :(

Nah man. I've already thought this through for several weeks already and weighed the benefits and disadvantages of keeping my porn collection and continue masturbating over videos on the internet:

Benefits:
- I get to fap

Disadvantages
- Waste several hours unproductively instead of doing something worthwhile that can actually help me improve myself
-View women objectively decreasing my confidence in approaching them and interacting with them
-I could actually literally feel my brain rot every minute that I view my porn collection
-Lose my dignity and self-respect and being far off from being a decent human being

Tell me Ospi why you even regret having these disadvantages?

James_Russell 04-04-2012 07:49 PM

70gb :eek:


Well good work :lol

millenniumman75 04-04-2012 07:53 PM

I don't even have Facebook!

AussiePea 04-04-2012 09:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Setolac (Post 1059808748)
Nah man. I've already thought this through for several weeks already and weighed the benefits and disadvantages of keeping my porn collection and continue masturbating over videos on the internet:

Benefits:
- I get to fap

Disadvantages
- Waste several hours unproductively instead of doing something worthwhile that can actually help me improve myself
-View women objectively decreasing my confidence in approaching them and interacting with them
-I could actually literally feel my brain rot every minute that I view my porn collection
-Lose my dignity and self-respect and being far off from being a decent human being

Tell me Ospi why you even regret having these disadvantages?

Well for me I feel none of the disadvantages that you mentioned. I guess it's different strokes for different folks (lolz pun).

Gryffindor85 04-04-2012 09:40 PM

70GB is nothing, I probably have at least 3 TB spread over various hard drives. I love to collect stuff, and porn is one of those things, I have to have porn in HD, so streaming sites suck for me, plus I like to build up large collections of my favorite stars.

I have no problems doing this, it's a hobby, if I wasn't looking at porn, I would be playing video games or watching movies.

Petrovsk Mizinski 04-04-2012 09:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Gryffindor85 (Post 1059809034)
I probably have at least 3 TB spread over various hard drives.

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-uQiM3VUgMC...re_xlarge.jpeg

I don't even.......



Anyway, to the OP, good stuff being really open about this and especially having the balls to just go cold turkey rather than making up bull**** excuses

Setolac 04-04-2012 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Gryffindor85 (Post 1059809034)
70GB is nothing, I probably have at least 3 TB spread over various hard drives. I love to collect stuff, and porn is one of those things, I have to have porn in HD, so streaming sites suck for me, plus I like to build up large collections of my favorite stars.

I have no problems doing this, it's a hobby, if I wasn't looking at porn, I would be playing video games or watching movies.

Haha so you think collecting and watching porn is better than watching movies and playing video games?

In my opinion watching movies and playing video games is the "lesser evil". At least it adds up to conversation topics if ever you encounter other people who are into video games and movies. But in porn you learn nothing from it. I don't think you go on other people saying "hey did you enjoy that episode of Puma Swede where she was banging the pizza delivery guy and her husband at the same time?, it was really nice for her husband to join them instead of getting pissed off"

GD8 04-04-2012 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Gryffindor85 (Post 1059809034)
70GB is nothing, I probably have at least 3 TB spread over various hard drives. I love to collect stuff, and porn is one of those things, I have to have porn in HD, so streaming sites suck for me, plus I like to build up large collections of my favorite stars.

I have no problems doing this, it's a hobby, if I wasn't looking at porn, I would be playing video games or watching movies.

I don't get it, you're prolly never gonna whack it to 90% of that porn so why even have it? that's a ridiculous amount of porn, that's like 750 thousand pictures or something

Gryffindor85 04-04-2012 10:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Setolac (Post 1059809074)
Haha so you think collecting and watching porn is better than watching movies and playing video games?

In my opinion watching movies and playing video games is the "lesser evil". At least it adds up to conversation topics if ever you encounter other people who are into video games and movies. But in porn you learn nothing from it. I don't think you go on other people saying "hey did you enjoy that episode of Puma Swede where she was banging the pizza delivery guy and her husband at the same time?, it was really nice for her husband to join them instead of getting pissed off"

I've seen previews for that scene. I can still talk plenty about video games and movies too. Porn never changes the way I view women in real life. You're going to have to fap one way or another, might as well enjoy it. And I never said porn was better than video games and movies, it's just that if I wasn't watching porn, I wouldn't be doing anything productive anyway.

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Originally Posted by GD8 (Post 1059809077)
I don't get it, you're prolly never gonna whack it to 90% of that porn so why even have it? that's a ridiculous amount of porn, that's like 750 thousand pictures or something

Because I have a strong compulsion to collect, plus it's good to know I have all that material readily available.

Setolac 04-04-2012 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by GD8 (Post 1059809077)
I don't get it, you're prolly never gonna whack it to 90% of that porn so why even have it? that's a ridiculous amount of porn, that's like 750 thousand pictures or something

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Originally Posted by Gryffindor85 (Post 1059809087)
I've seen previews for that scene. I can still talk plenty about video games and movies too. Porn never changes the way I view women in real life. You're going to have to fap one way or another, might as well enjoy it. And I never said porn was better than video games and movies, it's just that if I wasn't watching porn, I wouldn't be doing anything productive anyway.



Because I have a strong compulsion to collect, plus it's good to know I have all that material readily available.

Well I guess like what Ospi has said, Its different strokes for different folks.

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I don't get it, you're prolly never gonna whack it to 90% of that porn so why even have it? that's a ridiculous amount of porn, that's like 750 thousand pictures or something
Its was actually all videos and I was able to jerk off and watch everything for 11 hours before deleting everything. My balls were so sore afterwards and my mind was messed up and now im disgusted of it.

lazy 04-04-2012 11:08 PM

Maybe you don't need to ditch porn 100% if you find yourself going back. Like what you said about "lesser evils" just move on to the more softcore teasing categories or somethin'. Stay away from scenes like, that have Rocco in them, man that guy is AGRESSIVE!!! Saw this one clip where he told the woman to stand on his stomach while wearing high heels, "Oh don't worry about me baby just do it! Do it baby! You so pretty". The woman looks at him with some doubt, tries to do it anyway and ends up losing some balance. It was kinda funny.

Frust 04-05-2012 02:49 AM

I have a collection of streaming porn links and videos on my hard drive. I too have thought about deleting my whole collection before, but instead I just archived it all onto an external hard drive and hid it about a half an hour from my house. All that ended up happening was I eventually started browsing scenes and sites from memory.. lol. It didn't work out as I expected it to. Anyways good luck OP, as I've found out when you hit roadblocks in your journey to "improve yourself" you get frustrated and end up relapsing into your previous bad habits.


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