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It annoys me when people tell me virginity should mean something. Not that it annoys me at all when people consider their virginity special, that's personal choice which I respect, but when people tell me it should be for everyone. I lost mine to my ex boyfriend and while I cared about him at the time it wasn't a magical thing for me and it didn't mean anything more than just literally the first time I'd had sex.

As long as you use protection and you're clear about whether it's a one night stand or something then it's all fine if you ask me. Good for you OP!
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Only congratulations are in order for this man, having sex with severe SA is an achievement whether meaningless or not. Might do the same once I'm a bit more athletic.
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Why are people getting up on their moral high horse? Virginity was obviously causing the guy anxiety and he found a way to remove that stress from his life. Good for him. Everyone is different and does things differently. I've actually had some people tell me that it's better to lose it to someone you don't really care for so that you don't get attached. It makes sense to me. As long as he used protection I say congrats.
Does it last, though? There's that burden of what happened that he will have to carry into each relationship. That's all.

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Only because it was made into a stressor.
I'm catching on to what you're saying.
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I could have sex tommorow, but no longer being a virgin would not cure my anxiety. In fact it could make my anxiety worse. Increasingly I find being around people hard, the thought of being that close to someone, someone I hardly know is likely to send my anxiety skyrocketing before and afterwards.
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Does it last, though? There's that burden of what happened that he will have to carry into each relationship. That's all.
What burden?
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You did it with a completely random girl in a bar's (disgusting) public restroom? Ew. Congrats--but ew.

I know you're all excited you aren't a virgin anymore and everything......but why is being a virgin so bad to guys? What kind of story is that to think back on when you have sex for the second time and the girl inquiries about your first time? I don't know about you, but when I think about my first time I imagine it to be in a private clean bed...

PS - condom or not, I'd still get myself tested.

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You did it with a completely random girl in a bar's (disgusting) public restroom? Ew. I know you're all excited you aren't a virgin anymore and everything......but ew. What kind of story is that to think back on when you have sex for the second time and the girl inquiries about your first time. Condom or not, I'd still get myself tested.
Each to their own.
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haters gonna hate. congrats anyway!
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Each to their own.
I edited my post. I never said I was saying he was a horrible person, I just said my opinion on his adventure.

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I edited my post. I never said I was saying he was a horrible person, I just said my opinion on his adventure.
I never thought you were saying he was a bad person, I just don't understand why people react so strongly to another person's choice. I totally understand that people have different views on sex but I think accepting that some people just see things a different way is a better way to respond. Kind of like how I do with those who believe in waiting for marriage before having sex, I simply say that personally it's not my thing but I respect their choice.
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Does it last, though? There's that burden of what happened that he will have to carry into each relationship. That's all.
This comment seems very wrong minded and personal. Why is one sexual encounter "a burden" that must be "carried around?" There's far too much opinion in that statement for you to impose it on OP's view of his personal success.

Why does the esteem boost from it have to "last?" Life itself is temporary, so why should every affirmation and good moment have to survive a test of reproducibility and duration?

Why would he "carry this around?" Its just a chick he banged in the bathroom, its not some existential schism of great ontological significance.

I keep coming back to this topic because I think its funny how people keep wanting to **** on OP under the "Triumphs over SA" section.
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Its my opinion k thanks. Sheesh, all these guys telling me my opinion is wrong, pretty sure my opinion is my opinion, and i don't need people telling me its wrong.
Yet you come here and basically tells the OP that he is gross and immoral and that what he has done is wrong ? You can't just defend that with saying that it is just your opinion.

Preaching and telling people how morally wrong their TRIUMPHS over social anxiety is, isn't really helping people out.

To the OP, good for you and good for you that there was no STD
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Yet you come here and basically tells the OP that he is gross and immoral and that what he has done is wrong ? You can't just defend that with saying that it is just your opinion.

Preaching and telling people how morally wrong their TRIUMPHS over social anxiety is, isn't really helping people out.

To the OP, good for you and good for you that there was no STD
How long ago did I say this? And I still get sh*t talkers? I stated my opinion about how I feel about people who have meaningless sex. I didn't directly tell the OP he was gross and immoral. I also never directly said it was wrong, people can do what they want with there life. Did i ever tell this guy that he should never do that again because I personally think it's wrong? NOPE SO HOP OFF MY D!CK! I can do whatever I want & say whatever I want. K BYE.
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How long ago did I say this? And I still get sh*t talkers? I stated my opinion about how I feel about people who have meaningless sex. I didn't directly tell the OP he was gross and immoral. I also never directly said it was wrong, people can do what they want with there life. Did i ever tell this guy that he should never do that again because I personally think it's wrong? NOPE SO HOP OFF MY D!CK! I can do whatever I want & say whatever I want. K BYE.
you have a d!ck ?
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congrats dude. hit it and quit it. that's the way to do it. A mans virginity doesn't exist. Unless it's back door virginity.
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How long ago did I say this? And I still get sh*t talkers? I stated my opinion about how I feel about people who have meaningless sex. I didn't directly tell the OP he was gross and immoral. I also never directly said it was wrong, people can do what they want with there life. Did i ever tell this guy that he should never do that again because I personally think it's wrong? NOPE SO HOP OFF MY D!CK! I can do whatever I want & say whatever I want. K BYE.
Funny how people love to make drive by judgements, but get so mad when they get called out. "Its my opinion that you're a lowlife for having meaningless sex..." real funny. That's just a cop out for when you know you're just irrationally judging someone... yet you don't want "your opinion" to be taken to task. Go figure

And what's so indirect about what you said about what OP did? You made a generallization about an action OP took and wrote it in his thread. Here's a work that's not difficult to spell: context.
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you have a d!ck ?
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Funny how people love to make drive by judgements, but get so mad when they get called out. "Its my opinion that you're a lowlife for having meaningless sex..." real funny. That's just a cop out for when you know you're just irrationally judging someone... yet you don't want "your opinion" to be taken to task. Go figure

And what's so indirect about what you said about what OP did? You made a generallization about an action OP took and wrote it in his thread. Here's a work that's not difficult to spell: context.
Hey. I don't care.

My opinion shouldn't effect you this badly. Ignore it, you shouldn't care either
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