Originally Posted by SunLite
I like that Need I like you buddy
The only thing I would have is you need to make sure to identify what you need to be working on.
IE If you have a real hard time socially interacting with people in general you probably wouldn't want to go to a club to try to pick up chicks.The steps have to be realistic or you can reallly really get down and beat yourself up.(I learned this the hard way)
yeah first I have to handle social anxiety problem, AFTER, girls part...
thing is I have deep and not so deep beliefs that I need to change :
- others will criticize me, make fun of me
- others will not like me because I am not-so-much-social
- my physical symptoms will show others that i'm strange
all these beliefs & thoughts are self-fullfilling prophecy and when I think about it, it become real.
Facing a fear
if you fear social situations, it is useless to go into it, facing your fears if you don't change your way of thinking. In fact, it can get WORSE.
Cognitive thoughts inner talk change + behavior changing is the most efficient way.