I'm not desperate enough to ask 30 women. I guess I'll just accept being alone.
Well according to Tony Robbins, the number one necessity for success is hunger. If you're not hungry for success, then you will likely not be successful.
For me, I worked my *** off to face my fears over and over again. It finally paid off and now I have a girl I love and who loves me. And because I had to work so hard for it, I appreciate it much more than I would have if it came easy. It's so true that the harder the battle, the sweeter the victory.
To sum up what I'm trying to say, Beverly Sills puts it eloquently when she says there are no shortcuts to any place worth going.
actually most people "ask" a lot of potential mates before they hit up with one. just a lot of this process happens non-explicitly, people just kinda feel each other up and see where it goes. so asking 30 women isnt even that desperate.
...and even if, who cares? i asked 200 girls before i hit up with my gf. fact of the matter is that im still having a gf now and im quite content with what i did - along with having a gf now i also have had an overall good experience of going out there and doing my thing and getting a lot of good reactions.
if you went out there and asked 30 girls you probably would find that a couple of them do like you, even if it doesnt work out for a reason or another. these would be reference experiences which you could recall later to enable you to ask another 30, if necessary, and so on. also it just sinks into your mind that despite all the bull**** in your head, there are actually girls that find you attractive. hot ones, too.
while youre here thinking negatively about going about and asking girls out, i did the thing youre avoiding and im feeling better (and thinking less negatively about the thing, too). it didnt kill me and im stronger than i was before. it would be the same thing for you, if you manage to get your thinking somewhat under control.
That's awesome man! Credit to you for putting in the work. Yep I totally agree. I definitely had initial interest from several girls but I would become a bit needy or my anxiety would worsen and I would get awkward and not be able to talk well. But all those failures made me stronger and better at handling my emotions. So when an opportunity came with the girl I'm with, I was able to handle the situation, manage my anxiety, and date her. Had I not gone through what I went through, I would not have been strong enough to handle it. The girl I'm with now is pretty hot so I'm a happy man lol. And of course she has a good personality and we have a lot in common.