I am currently going through this treatment. I was abused as a child and didn't tell anyone but my husband for 20 years. I thought I was doing my parents some sort of "favor" by not speaking about it. When I graduated from college, I moved out of state and tried to just start a new chapter in life. Gradually I built up my self confidence and thought I had moved on.
My abuse covers all forms but the biggest were emotional (including brainwashing) and neglect.
Quite frankly, I never wanted to talk about it again. But the patterns started repeating with one of my children. I was an only child so she couldn't pick a favorite. But I have 2 and she picked a favorite and never, ever got onto him but was very hard on the other one. Even though we live in Michigan and she lives in Oklahoma, it still impacted my son.
My husband and I were considering moving to Asia for work and my mom completely flipped out. She became verbally abusive again. She would say awful things and then immediately deny them. She would call and scream at me and call me horrible names.
I felt I had no choice but to confront her about the childhood abuse. I told her I was 38 and married, never asked her for anything, and was not going to allow her to abuse me or any of my family. She denied any abuse EVER!
After 3 months of debating this and arguing (and I'm not a fighter, I hate it!), my health collapsed and I started having PTSD symptoms. This included some social anxiety.
I eventually ended up with a trauma therapist. She uses EMDR. I was very skeptical. But it has worked. We have to use talk therapy, too, because we are having to dig up old memories to work with. Needless to say, we didn't move to Asia!
I can't understand how it works but it does! I hold two metal bars. I close my eyes. We bring up a memory for me to focus on and she turns on the metal bars on and they vibrate, each one for about 30 seconds, going back and forth.
My social anxiety is pretty much gone but I still have a lot of anxiety issues so we are still working through talk therapy and using EMDR at times.
I have no idea why it works but it truly does. I am a BIG believer!