I've read plenty about CBT, but nobody explains exactly what happens. It sounds too theoretical. I need it explained to me like I'm in kindergarten.
*therpaist will ask you what situations are difficult for you e.g sitting with the rest of the group and joining in with them on your dinner hour in work
*therapist will ask you what emotoins you will feel in those situations e.g you might feel rejected
*therpaist will ask you a lot of questions to get to the bottom of these emotions and this difficult sitaution. they will try to find ot exactly what it is about this situation that mkes it hard for you. e.g sitting with the group may be ard cos you are afraifd they will rejct you.
the reason this situation is hard for you is cos you hold certain belefis like '' if i try to get invloved in group activity everyone will reject me''
the therapist will try to uncver exactly what beleifs you hold
*once the therapist has uncovered your beleifs they will look into your poast to find out were these belefis come from. e.g you might hae memories of when you was 5 years old and your grup of peers in school all rejected you
*therapsist will then try to desentitize this beleif a little bit by putting your past ino perspective. e.g right now you migt 100% beleive that ''if i try to get involved ill get rejected'' but by puttin ght epast into perspective the therapist might decrease your beleif from 100% to 70%
they will find out why the kids rejected you when you was 5 and then theyll ake you relaise that just cos it happend back then doesnt mean its guaranetedd to happen now. this will decrease the beleif.
*the therapist will help you create a new more realistic beleif
*the therapist will ask you to change your behaviour step by step doing easy things first and leading up t hard things e.g join the people in work , then goout to a ar with them etc....
each situation you will look for new evidence that will decrease the old beleif and increase the new beleif
*eventually you wont beleive the old belief anymore . you will beleive the new beleif instead .
therefore these sitauations will not be difficult for you anymore and they wont produce emotions like rejected cos the old beleif simply will not be acivated by these situations anymore