The problem is me or my therapist?
I started therapy months ago and it is not what I was expecting. After reading a lot online about therapy I had convinced myself that therapists were this non-judgmental, strictly professional people, who would list to my problems and give me tools get better. I was hoping NOT get to know anything from the personal life of my therapist, because once I know somebody's opinion on certain subjects my wish to please them overcome my wish to be truth with myself and I start to say whatever they want to hear.
Everything I heard about therapy said therapist shouldn't talk much about themselves I was looking forward to this one sided relationship. However, my therapist talk quite a lot about her, at the point I know more about her life than she knows about mine. She told me about her divorce, her problems with her dad, her struggles back in school, her religion and even her political believes. Every time saying she is talking about her so I can learn from her experience but this make me feel more and more uncomfortable. Also, she never remember anything I tell her and we is always asking questions I answered like 5 times already in previous section. I get not remembering everything, but shouldn't her at least ready through my record before session?
Besides, there is not one single session where her phone doesn't ring, she is often late and have fights with her staff in front of me.
There are some stuff working on therapy, like the books she recommend me and a few homeworks she give me to do, but since I paying a lot of money for this, I am not sure if it worth it and 2 weeks ago I started to think about giving up. Someone faced a situation like this? If yes, what you did?