Re: my therapist disaproves of this website
When I come here to complain I feel immediately better. I feel as if I have made some sort of connection, no matter how small, and that there are others who understand the way that I am feeling even though I may be surrounded by people in real life who do not really understand. The problem is that complaining becomes a means of temporarily feeling ok with the way that you are, and the way that you are is usually completely unsatisfying and depressing. So the cycle repeats itself. People complain to feel better, then eventually feel worse, and come back again to complain so they can maintain some sort of status quo. The only way to not feel the way you are feeling now is to not behave the way you are behaving now. The only way to not behave the way you are behaving now is to be exposed to external opinions and conditions that lead you to some other path or way of acting.
I've seen this in plenty of other forums, and understand it because the process relives itself in me almost every day. I don't know if I have control of my actions or not. I feel that I should, and should thus take responsibility to do something other than explain the way I feel, to actually ACT and change something. Inevitably though, I get stuck in the same rut and same patterns of behavior. I would hope that people here wouldn't come to snap decisions and shoot the messenger. I would hope that they would realize that opinions that are contrary to their own may hold the seed to recovery.