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post #1 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-14-2019, 10:43 PM Thread Starter
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Is therapy a ripoff?


I never find therapist not to be helpful unless you pay large amounts for their services. And it seems they all generally tell you the same thing.

How can someone afford to pay 70, 100, or up to 150 dollars per session for 1 hour. Times that 10 and you're dedicating 700, 1000, or 1500 for about 10 sessions, which is equivalent to only 10 hours. I dont get how people afford therapy, to get better. It takes time, like months to improve. But paying that much is just too much.

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it kind of is. you're basically paying someone to pretend to listen to you, and even then they don't contribute much.


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I ran into an old therapist when i was in public, she told me she had moved on to a government job. You never know if they are just using that job as a stepping stone and chances are they just read some book info and are spitting out whatever they can think of.
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Group therapy worse as new people turn up each week and you have to pretend to be interested in their ****. I fell asleep in one session.


I only went to get friday off of work for few weeks.

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it's good if you're clueless. if I had a kid like me I'd pay for it and see if it did any good.

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All medical care is a ripoff. It's designed from the ground up to take advantage of the sick and drain them dry.

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I prefer Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). ACT has helped me a lot. You can learn ACT from self-help workbooks that are usually less then $20. ACT is not a cure and it takes work but it is rewarding to know you can do anything you want given gradually increasing exposure. ACT uses our own values to dignify and guide us through the work needed.


I wish I had the money to try different therapists and maybe even find an ACT therapist. But I have made loads of progress while practicing ACT on my own. Sometimes I think we need to train CBT therapists in how to use ACT. But then again maybe we shouldn't have to teach the professionals on the latest techniques.


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Past attempts have failed for me but now I think I may have found a good situation. Only been a few appointments so far but I think the $15.00 co-pay I have made for each appt has been worth it.
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depends on the therapist. they're not all the same.

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depends on the therapist. they're not all the same.

that is true, but the majority of them are in it for the money, and just listen to you for 1 hour.while you vent your anger..i never found it helpful
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The first time I went to therapy was because my mother had asked me, after she got a knock on the door from the police, who found me passed out in our community spa. I agreed to go to therapy because maybe I needed to hear from someone about my drinking problem. I went to four sessions and racked up a bill of $786.52. After the first session he had diagnosed me with depression and it was the first time that I had heard this word from a stranger. My family had mentioned that my problems stemmed from my parents divorce. Bottom line I think that if you can afford therapy you can certainly benefit from it. However, I think that we have the capabilities to heal ourselves with alternative medication. I use cannabis oil in micro doses to manage my depression as well as my anxiety. Medical cannabis has improved my life as a whole and it has certainly opened up opportunities in regards of my career, family, and relationship. Tinctures and oils work the best for me. Smoking anything will cause more harm than good and for patients that are suffering from anxiety, smoking can induce panic or paranoia because there is too much THC being ingested. I follow this youtube channel which talks about all the different ways that cannabis oil can heal our ailments.
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Smoking anything will cause more harm than good and for patients that are suffering from anxiety, smoking can induce panic or paranoia because there is too much THC being ingested.

Smokers can regulate their dose just by taking as many puffs as they need. If one puff is all you need then fine, take one puff and save the rest for later.



The raw plant has dozens if not hundreds of chemicals that mankind is still clueless about. The cannabis smoke actually protects smokers' lungs from cancer and other ailments.

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Smokers can regulate their dose just by taking as many puffs as they need. If one puff is all you need then fine, take one puff and save the rest for later.



The raw plant has dozens if not hundreds of chemicals that mankind is still clueless about. The cannabis smoke actually protects smokers' lungs from cancer and other ailments.
I think if anything vaping cannabis might be a more healthier option. I prefer using Oils as it provides me with therapeutic relief with longevity. My anxiety can get really bad sometimes out of no where so I need to use HT THC FECO. https://kingharvest.org/images/pdf/03:29:2019_2295.pdf lab report for my syringe.
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Moreover, in long-term therapy in order to imporve to the point where you don't need therapy you have to spend years in it (and you're supposed to visit a therapist regularly, once a week on average, imagine if it's not how often you have a session).

I think this guy has very legitimate arguments against it:
So sad that just because he names them it doesn't get better because the system wouldn't improve by itself.

Btw, that doesn't mean that therapy is a made up scam and you can just heal on your own, that it isn't helpful or that it doesn't heal at least some of our traumas. That just means the system is not good and it should be reformed. On the other hand a lot depends on a therapist.I think it depends on two components of the therapist 1) how skillful, professional they are, what their type of therapy is and 2) the therapist's personal motivation, personal qualities and values (at least to me).

In the end of the video above he asks a question: isn't it a little bit odd that we need one person who professionally sits, listens with empathy, supports etc to lots of people and that's how they make a living? I think he's right, but unfortunally the alienated capitalist society we live in doesn't offer us any other alternatives. Plus it's extremely rare to find a friend or a person who would substitute a therapist because full acceptance is required. But then I always doubt that my therapist, ofr example, actually fully accepts me or all those things she told therapy was about. She seems pretty cynical and she seems to think that she's above people with serious psychological problems. Maybe it's subtle, but it's still the case and I can't force myself to forget it every time I have a session with her and that's not helpful. Also this portion of empathy is not enough for me. But that's on a personal level cause I needed to express it somewhere so I just randomly started to write about it in this post.

Sorry for not currently replying to your posts addressed to me. I will do that later (hopefully in a few days) because now I can't Please, don't take it personally because you have nothing to do with it.
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i had like 5-6 sessions i think and didn't help at all. All she told me was that i should try to go outside and start by asking colleagues to go out.. like ugh

She spent a long time trying to find the origin of my SA... which didn't actually help
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I go to the doctor to get the med part (training wheels).


I learn how to handle each situation with skills that I learn, but I learn them on my own and bounce them off of professionals. They have been pretty impressed. The only issue is that I let things go longer than they should. It's basically me holding myself up.

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Is therapy is a rip off? It can be yes... However, does that mean it's a useless investment? Overall, I think no. It isn't unless, like time and time again, said for the bazillionth time, that if you find one that works for you and with you, it's worth it. It's supposed to be therapeutic. If not, it's not technically therapy.

I get that some therapists want to go through all the technicality of "where your parents from, do they have depression, did anyone kill themselves in your family, how did you deal with depression, what has helped in the past, what do you think will help now, How can I help you today. K, thanks and see you next week" is generally not so helpful in the long run. It's too analytical, doesn't get to the point. As in, how does my parents having a history of illness explain what I already knew versus how is that supposed to help me deal with my inherited pain that I'm feeling right now and trying to deal with... duh. And even then, there is a cause and an effect, but they seem to think that finding the cause will cure the effect. Ugh anyway.

I do agree that the system is flawed when it comes to behavioral health. I, too racked up $800 in bills in just two months of seeing behavioral health "specialists". Mind you, they are specialists since they don't treat just anyone who walks in without a diagnosis, hence why its so expensive, and that's where it's ****ed up. Specialized healthcare costs a **** ton more than general practice, unfortunately when depression/anxiety is one of the most common things to experience. In that case, I'd just try to find better healthcare, more affordable at least, whether it's offered through employers or through the state. Not only is anxiety and depression some sort of epidemic, untreated depression is an even bigger epidemic, ffs. Sorry, I just very strongly about this and cannot emphasize that enough. I suppose untreated illnesses are not due to just general lack of awareness but the general lack of money to treat it from the patient's perspective.

That said, I do think therapy is worth it when you find time to devote yourself to it.therapy could be anything. Petting cats or dogs, exercising. There's almost too many outlets that it's overwhelming. Some do it by themselves, some really do not.. (me for example).. in my which case, I think therapy helps when you can find a qualified person who can put a perspective or words to describe how you're feeling and what alternatives you can feel.
just don't give up because you don't have to live a sucky life and esp not in this sucky way. Thanks for reading.
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If I were to judge it by personal experience I'd say yes. The only reason why I go is to have some sort of human interaction since I live alone by myself and have no friends. I hate human interaction as much as I crave it. Therapy provides an opportunity for me to interact with a sentient being. Sure beats talking to the wall I guess... the way I see it is no different from prostitution: some people folks hire prostitutes to fulfill their physical needs, I hire therapists to fulfill my emotional needs. That doesn't mean that this activity has cured me.



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I have found only one helpful therapist in all of my journey, and the way he helped me was by motivating/encouraging me, sharing his own story and introducing me to toastmasters...I don't know if the problem is with me or them, I don't really connect well to anyone including therapists.
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Id like to think some therapist are there to help because they care about other people's well being but the cynic in me will always kill that one quick.

It's all a big money rip off. Push meds, extend therapy to reap as much cash as possible etc.

Confident, but not really sure.
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