How to make therapy work for you.
Self-disclose your entire experience on whatever the disturbance is you have.
Do not squelch, repress, suppress, and/or undermine your thoughts. All of your thoughts that you have in your head at that moment needs to come out of your mouth. All of those raw naked thoughts whether they are really private to you, whether they are obnoxious, whether are anything, you disclose that, your whole entire experience to your therapist.
Once you do that, then the next step is processing meaning think with your therapist about these thoughts and feelings, think, discuss, self disclose more.
Therapy is magic in this regard. Therapy is an interpersonal dynamic and play. There's exchanges going on related to reinterpreting your experience. And that what therapy is really, for the client to reinterpret their experience.
Say like on this forum, you disclose a concern, then another poster looks in their eyes a different interpretation of your dilemma. Once you understand a different more truth interpretation of your experience from them, the "disturbance" is gone. This is just like therapy, only the therapist is more "trained" in systematically helping you to reinterpret your experience.
Some "B.S." therapist which perhaps some of your experience, don't know how to reinterpret client's experiences instead giving a simple fast unempathetic (sp?) injection of insight. But of course those approaches don't see the experience under the client's eyes, which makes them "B.S." therapists.
I believe any neurotic disturbance even Social Anxiety can be cured one hundred per cent effectively through this interpersonal exchange of client to therapist and to therapist to client.
If you try that out in being really self disclosing and not undermining, repressing, etc., really discussing your symptoms with someone, that therapist who is authentic, caring, "skilled in understanding your own experience from your eyes and shoes and soul" and letting you come to know an honest interpretation of your experience, so you are no longer disturbed about a symptom.
And that's what therapy really is. There is no magic other than this magic.