Well, after reading your thread I have to comment your dilemma related to your second assignment.. Seeing as it's already 12 days into this, you might have already done it.
However, I just want to point out that saying hello to a stranger does not have to be that big of a deal to them. People without troubles of the mind tend to think less (or worry less) about such things, because they don't have to. So a mere hello from a stranger won't matter too much to them. Maybe they do find it strange, and maybe they initially won't respond out of shock (depends a lot on how common this is in your culture and such). But they won't give it any more thought than that. And if you say hello repeatedly (a friendly gesture) they might get a positive feeling towards you, you are after all being polite and friendly. It often just takes some getting used to. They won't automatically assume you're hitting on them and that you're bad at it. Even if the thought crosses their mind, it will only be for a second; and girls are insecure too, so they won't necessarily accept that as the truth. I think, when approaching girls in your situation, small and friendly gestures like that can be of great help. You'll eventually feel more comfortable with it and be able to take larger steps. It might be good to give this some practice online, though, if you're open to this.. Sign up at a site and innocently befriend and maybe make small and flirty gestures.
Either way, like your psychologist says, the first step should be getting to know a girl as a friend and then looking for some form of common ground through interests or experiences.
I hope this works out for you, but if you need any specific advice feel free to ask.
Since I have some of the same problems as you, I'll tell you how I approach this.
First and foremost, I'll contact someone I like with an excuse. It can be anything from something to do with studies to something related to the situation ("is this seat taken?", "Is the professor sick today or?" things like that). Afterwards I judge whether or not they seem perceptive to me contacting them; you can kinda tell if someone is judging you, open to you or simply insecure or shy. If you can't tell, then I suggest you try to pick up on some body language signs and voice signs; their tone, if they look relaxed when answering you and such. If the result is positive I will look for more opportunities in the near future to approach them.. And then I try to be friendly with them and ask them questions to keep the conversation flowing. It might work and it might lead to something like a Facebook add, in which case it's easier to do these things online.
As for flirting with your psychologist, the only steps I'd take would be to approach her (in the role play mode) in a friendly manner, ask her about friendly things, and try to look for an opening (the greatest sign of interest is when someone tries to let you know that you guys might have something in common or that they express interest.. Example: I like this book I'm reading right now (title) Girl: What's it about? It sounds really interest. Sometimes also hints about future in a joking sense "We should boycott this assignment together!" - an including gesture, and of course informing you that they have qualities you seek). I hope any of this can be of help, I know I'm a bit messy when trying to give advice so if something didn't make sense feel free to ask me to rephrase or elaborate.
For some reason I didn't saw there were new replies here :/ I wasn't capable to do it, but still thanks for the advice
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I'm not bipolar <.<
Yesterday I saw the psychologist again. There wasn't this time either a flirting role playing so if that's what you were hoping to read you can carry on with your things.
She started asking me how I've been, specially since the academic load was being really hard for me the last time we saw each other. I told her it's been normal and bearable again, and then I told her how that first week since the last appointment I felt quite well, controlling better my emotions and not having melancholic episodes, but then after the moving that weekend I got distracted by the stress of it and stopped doing the part of telling myself several times a day a motivational line; the two following weeks were quite stressful since I was pending if I saw the girls at college, I barely saw them alone, and failing to do the assignment made me feel really bad about myself. She asked me if I've kept getting these melancholic episodes, I told her they have been less frequent, and as she asked me, I explained her that these episodes are usually triggered when either I see a girl talking about someone she likes, or when a guy finds someone without making any apparent effort, while I have to do it the hard way by approaching complete strangers. From this point she wanted to make a review of what we've been doing. She made clear that her purpose is not to change me and make me an extroverted outgoing person, she said that I do not need to change who I am, but I need to realize that my fears and cognitive distortions are not a part of me, and that I can be freely myself if I make my part and let her help me. She said as well that I need to expand my perspective about myself and see more than the bad things, while at the same time, stop focusing so much on others and comparing myself to them, also remembering me that she just want me to face my fears by saying hi to the girls, not to win them and get a girlfriend right away.
Among other things, when I mentioned once again how I have this two main thoughts that are screwing me for the post part: this two ideas, that I am aware are false, are that every single time I interact with a woman in any other context outside a formal one (like business, work, academic, bureaucracy...), she'll instantly assume that I'm hitting on her, and the second idea is that she won't like at all me hitting on her. As I said that I was clueless where did those thought exactly came from, she concluded (quiet well if you ask me) that when those classmates bothered me 18 years ago for having my female friend, there was where I got the idea that everyone will assume that just by talking to them I'm hitting on a girl; and my assumption that they won't like being approached by me comes from my low self esteem. She told me that to be honest, most women will entertain the thought that if a stranger approaches them it's quite likely that he did it with a romantic intention, and they may even overthink about it, but as I need to keep remembering, what others think should not be my main concern, and also most people do enjoy that sort of attention. Then she told me that with my height and overall looks I make an impact and cause a first good impression, but all that gets lost when I don't say a word and don't make eye contact. She also said many women will find the shyness and introversion attractive as long as I show confidence, not as a man that never fails or pretends to do so, but as a man that is not afraid of failing. She said that my intelligence, maturity and culture will be greatly appreciated, but I need to don't be afraid of be myself to show that, without showing off. She asked me about my academic performance, and told me that I can be as proud and confident of the rest of myself as I am as a student.
Continuing with the self analysis part, I said that although I see the point in the classical "if you want, you can", I wonder if the people who say that have actually ever faced a paralysing fear, I mean, is not like I'm making excuses, I do want to change, and I'd like to believe that I'm committed to it, but that quote seems simplistic to me, and yet I told her I was afraid she would thought I'm not committed enough and therefore wouldn't want to help me anymore. But she calmed me saying that she completely understands that changing it's not easy, and even if I don't see it I'm making progress, because although I didn't faced my fears directly yet, I am aware of what I have to do and I've been understanding the process. Here I remembered and told her that I actually was quite decided to talk to both girls at some point but unfortunately they had left by the moment I was about to do it, and explained her that I don't feel I can do it if there's a guy or more than two girls around them. She understood and told me that it's ok, she won't ask me to approach them in the middle of a crowd, and I can do it just when I feel comfortable about, just that I need to not stop to think that much or I'll keep wasting opportunities, and that we'll work later on how to do it without me minding so much not only the person I'm talking to but also the surrounding ones. She insisted that she wants me to be free, not to be a different person, and then instructed me to read more about the book and made the respective self analysis. Here I asked her, doubtfully and sort of mumbling about the role playing part, since I feel like doing it and have some ideas about how to make it, despite how nervous it makes me, and she told me that we can and we will do it some other time, but that without analysing and challenging my thoughts the role playing won't really go anywhere. We'll see each other in a month, I guess during Towel Day.