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I've never seen a counselor/therapist, but this is an interesting question. I tend to be more apt to open-up with women out of the belief that they might be more understanding, on average, than your typical male.

At the same time, in the realm of counselors/therapists, I don't think that standard would apply for me. I don't think I care so much that it would guide my decision of who I'd see. I think I'd go for someone with the most relevant qualifications, regardless of sex.

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I'm male and asked for a female therapist, my psychiatrist is also female. I just feel like I can cry/whatever and not be so uncomfortable around women.
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Definitely a male. It's sexist but I can't shake the feeling that a woman counsellor would be more nurturing while a male would have a more no-nonsense attitude.
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Anyone else want to weigh in on this?

I am thinking about attending counseling and am wondering which I should go with. I am a guy and think I would prefer a female but have never been in therapy before.
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I'm a male and I prefer talking to female counselors. I'm just more comfortable talking with women for some reason.
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I have both - my current doc is a female, mentors are male. It's nice to get her perspective on social stuff and the guys at times, too .

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I'm female and would rather female. As therapists, doctors and even supervisors, I prefer women (in my experience).

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I had a woman. Very nice but there is no way around the biological baggage. Now I prefer males, since I understand my past better.

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I've always gone with females, because as a female I feel uncomfortable telling my whole life story to males
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I've had both i dont really have a preference as long as their good. They both have their merits. I used to lean more towards a male therpaist, but now I have a female therapist and she is really good.
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Im a female and my therapist is a female and I prefer a female therapist. So Im happy.
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I don't know. I've had two therapists, both women. The first I didn't really dislike, but our sessions were so unhelpful that I quit going. By the time I got back, she had left the practice, and I was assigned to another woman therapist, whom I've grown to rely on a great deal.

Personally, I would say I prefer female therapists because (as a girl) I have issues relating to my female peers. So it gives me the impression that I've achieved some kind of growth, when I can express myself to another woman or accept encouragement and mentoring. If my therapist were male, I would probably chalk up any relief to my usual paternal complex. But my experience (admittedly with only two therapists) tells me that the difference lies mostly in individual approach, which may not be related to gender at all.
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I'm a guy, I always felt more comfortable with a female.
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Hey xbox, did you end up finding a therapist?
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I'm male and could only see a female therapist.

My biggest fear is talking to an attractive woman, but I was sure I couldn't share my feelings with a guy so I had to go to a female therapist. She turned out to be attractive which inhibited me during my first session, but she is easy to talk to and has helped me a lot. I know I couldn't have told a man the feelings I've shared with her.
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I'm male and I just now realized I prefer a female therapist. I had a male therapist once just for an interview session for group therapy and felt a little uncomfortable. When it comes to people in general, I'll open up more to females then I do to males.
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Hey xbox, did you end up finding a therapist?
Kind of. The place I was recommended to didn't have any openings for about 2 months. I scheduled an appointment (not sure if female or male) for sometime in January. But I checked with my insurance and they don't want to cover it. I can afford to pay out of pocket but I think that money may be spent better elsewhere so I will probably cancel my appointment.
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