Reading all this reminds me of a time when I was waiting for my train and a guy in passing asked what my name was, and after I replied he said :"My name is X, hi!" and moved on. I thought it was weird at the time, but now I'm wondering if it was a form of shame attacking exercise... Not that I disapproved, I just thought it was weird. And it generally makes me nervous when people randomly talk to me and ask me questions about myself, but that moment was so brief that I hardly had time to react.
What I don't understand is how much is the focus supposed to be on receiving actual disapproval? Like, is the exercise only good if somebody disapproves? I mean, if I decide to go outside when I know my neighbor that I want to avoid is also outside as a challenge, I don't expect that person to actually disapprove or anything, but I will feel nervousness and shame. Does that not count as shame attacking?
Can't we give ourselves one more chance
Why can't we give love that one more chance