then what do you do? :con
do you shave your head and join a monastery in tibet?
confirm your spinsterdom and become one of those horrid bitter women who were never married? :stu
buy a banana outfit and dance like you're crazy? :banana
there is no hope. don't you hate it when people are like "sure you have a chance" when in reality you have NO chance? i wish they'd just be honest and be like "nope, way outta your league" and stop giving you hope. :mum
I think theres hope out there for everyone, it mostly depends on how you present yourself to the world. I get really depressed sometimes because even though I dont think I'm the most hideous looking person out there and you'd think some guy would be interested in me, yet I've never been asked out, but honestly I probably wouldnt ask myself out. I'm timid, reserved, rarely speak out unless I'm in a very comfortable environment, when I'm in school I walk around like a zombie, always depressed and have this " I'll kill you if you come near me" look on my face. Who would want to talk to me.. :lol Most of the time I'm not even aware of it, but random people would come up to me and ask me whats wrong. I just look really tense, its the anxiety, really makes me look edgy.
If I was flirty and chatty like most of the girls, I could probably meet someone at school... but I'll guess I'll just be a hermit for now.
Maybe we can make a club because I would definitly qualify. The first thing that goes thru my mind in the morning and the last thing at night is "gawd you are so ugly I hate you!". Somewhere about 1988 I was waiting in line at a comedy club with my sister to see Jerry Seinfeld (this was right before he hit it big and was still touring the comedy clubs). As we were waiting in line, I was minding my own business, not doing anything, trying to disappear (as usual) and I hear the guy behind me say "its like some weird genetic experiment gone wrong". I can still hear those words today. Let's just say that was literally the last time I ever went ANYWHERE other than to work or shopping/to the store, which I have to do and have no choice about that. I actually dream about winning the lottery (well who doesn't really) just so I can win enough money to quit my job and never, ever have to leave my house again and get humilated and treated the way I do now on a daily basis because of the way I look. Appearance is everything in this world. You could be the biggest b--ch in the world but if you are attractive the world will fall at your feet. Got a million examples of that by the way.
Never had a boyfriend. Never dated. Never even had any just plain old friends. I have no chance at any kind of life other than go to work, come home, go to bed. My age confirms that, along with my appearance. I'm going to be alone the rest of my life. I will be one of those people you read about in the papers who has been dead in her house for 5 years and no one even knew she was missing. Just a week ago, I was going down the stairs and I missed a step and fell about the final 7 steps down the stairs. I hit my head on the stairs, hard, and my back and even twisted my ankle so bad I could hardly stand on it. I laid on the floor for about 15 minutes because I literally could not move it hurt so bad to even move one muscle. As I laid there in tears I realized that I could have broken my neck and not be able to move and I would literaly just lay here and die because no one would ever know I was missing or come look for me. And why? Because of the exact words of the title of this post. I would give everything I have in the world to just even be moderatly attractive.
Maybe we can make a club because I would definitly qualify. The first thing that goes thru my mind in the morning and the last thing at night is "gawd you are so ugly I hate you!". Somewhere about 1988 I was waiting in line at a comedy club with my sister to see Jerry Seinfeld (this was right before he hit it big and was still touring the comedy clubs). As we were waiting in line, I was minding my own business, not doing anything, trying to disappear (as usual) and I hear the guy behind me say "its like some weird genetic experiment gone wrong". I can still hear those words today. Let's just say that was literally the last time I ever went ANYWHERE other than to work or shopping/to the store, which I have to do and have no choice about that. I actually dream about winning the lottery (well who doesn't really) just so I can win enough money to quit my job and never, ever have to leave my house again and get humilated and treated the way I do now on a daily basis because of the way I look. Appearance is everything in this world. You could be the biggest b--ch in the world but if you are attractive the world will fall at your feet. Got a million examples of that by the way.
Never had a boyfriend. Never dated. Never even had any just plain old friends. I have no chance at any kind of life other than go to work, come home, go to bed. My age confirms that, along with my appearance. I'm going to be alone the rest of my life. I will be one of those people you read about in the papers who has been dead in her house for 5 years and no one even knew she was missing. Just a week ago, I was going down the stairs and I missed a step and fell about the final 7 steps down the stairs. I hit my head on the stairs, hard, and my back and even twisted my ankle so bad I could hardly stand on it. I laid on the floor for about 15 minutes because I literally could not move it hurt so bad to even move one muscle. As I laid there in tears I realized that I could have broken my neck and not be able to move and I would literaly just lay here and die because no one would ever know I was missing or come look for me. And why? Because of the exact words of the title of this post. I would give everything I have in the world to just even be moderatly attractive.
Oh god, that is HORRIFYING. I can't believe that ******* said that. :hug I hope you're okay after your fall. Ironically my name is Donna too. We can be the Donnas?
Re: what if you're just plain ugly and have a bad personalit
zelig said:
then what do you do? :con
do you shave your head and join a monastery in tibet?
confirm your spinsterdom and become one of those horrid bitter women who were never married? :stu
buy a banana outfit and dance like you're crazy? :banana
there is no hope. don't you hate it when people are like "sure you have a chance" when in reality you have NO chance? i wish they'd just be honest and be like "nope, way outta your league" and stop giving you hope. :mum
I see where you're coming from. I often have this run through my mind. If you have money you still have a shot but the relationship more than likely won't be for life. I get tired of the lies as well. Once you create a friendly relationship with someone you can kiss honesty goodbye in this department. I would honestly rather hear the truth. I'm glad I see past this because if I didn't I think I'd be even more frustrated.
Just a week ago, I was going down the stairs and I missed a step and fell about the final 7 steps down the stairs. I hit my head on the stairs, hard, and my back and even twisted my ankle so bad I could hardly stand on it. I laid on the floor for about 15 minutes because I literally could not move it hurt so bad to even move one muscle. As I laid there in tears I realized that I could have broken my neck and not be able to move and I would literaly just lay here and die because no one would ever know I was missing or come look for me. And why? Because of the exact words of the title of this post. I would give everything I have in the world to just even be moderatly attractive.
I'm glad that you didn't get a severe injury requiring medical attention. I think about this all the time. It constantly goes through my head that I could die or something, by whatever means, and no one would even know it, and my poor cat would starve to death or go into a diabetic coma and die.
I don't think I'm the fugliest person on the planet, or even in this town, but I'm still all alone. I've seen lots of plain-looking and even unattractive females of all ages with a mate/spouse. I can only conclude that I must have either the worst personality in the world or no personality at all. Not sure which it is. I waver between the two constantly.
Re: what if you're just plain ugly and have a bad personalit
zelig said:
then what do you do? :con
do you shave your head and join a monastery in tibet?
confirm your spinsterdom and become one of those horrid bitter women who were never married? :stu
buy a banana outfit and dance like you're crazy? :banana
there is no hope. don't you hate it when people are like "sure you have a chance" when in reality you have NO chance? i wish they'd just be honest and be like "nope, way outta your league" and stop giving you hope. :mum
I'd like to go for the first two options...the one about dancing in a banana outfit, hell no. I'm only 90% eccentric. :b
And I understand about people "trying to be nice" by saying that you might have a chance. The only thing you can do is say, "No I don't. It's not necessary to lie to me. I'm smart enough to know better." That should put them in their place.
Maggi, don't get me started on this topic -- I devoted an entire thread on this forum in which I talked about a particular case of a very ugly (Shrek-like), mean person that got involved with a hot, hot girl in which he in no way deserved to be in a relationship with her. (BTW, they are no longer together).
But to be honest, if you had known this girl then you would know she was not a particularly nice person... in fact in reality she was one sorry individual.
Just makes you wonder... If a girl has model looks then does it give her a license to treat other people badly?
You can always fix your personality. Some things like overcomming shyness are more difficult than accepting others for who they are. Start a new hobby that is interesting to talk about.
As for looks, it might take a while, but diet, exercise, cosmetic surgery, new clothes, and a different hairstyle. I'm finally fealing ok and normal after doing all 5 of those things in the past 5 years. Some people think that your apperance might change too much, but you are going to look different from yourself 20 years ago.
meh. i think the main reason why we are single is because we dont search for love. i had hopes that i would find someone but those hopes have been diminishing. everytime i try to work up the courage to talk to a girl that im attracted to, i always back down. if you dont pursue someone then the chances of you being with someone, no matter what your looks are, will be slim
Re: what if you're just plain ugly and have a bad personalit
zelig said:
then what do you do? :con
do you shave your head and join a monastery in tibet?
confirm your spinsterdom and become one of those horrid bitter women who were never married? :stu
buy a banana outfit and dance like you're crazy? :banana
there is no hope. don't you hate it when people are like "sure you have a chance" when in reality you have NO chance? i wish they'd just be honest and be like "nope, way outta your league" and stop giving you hope. :mum
You're not alone. The only difference is I'm a guy. I look at my family and wonder how I ended up the way I am. I always figured it was easier for a woman to have this problem since it seems they are more able to be independent and don't seem to really need a guy; maybe I'm wrong.
meh. i think the main reason why we are single is because we dont search for love. i had hopes that i would find someone but those hopes have been diminishing. everytime i try to work up the courage to talk to a girl that im attracted to, i always back down. if you dont pursue someone then the chances of you being with someone, no matter what your looks are, will be slim
meh. i think the main reason why we are single is because we dont search for love. i had hopes that i would find someone but those hopes have been diminishing. everytime i try to work up the courage to talk to a girl that im attracted to, i always back down. if you dont pursue someone then the chances of you being with someone, no matter what your looks are, will be slim
meh. i think the main reason why we are single is because we dont search for love. i had hopes that i would find someone but those hopes have been diminishing. everytime i try to work up the courage to talk to a girl that im attracted to, i always back down. if you dont pursue someone then the chances of you being with someone, no matter what your looks are, will be slim
Okay, I've been thinking about this question for awhile. If you're plain ugly and have a bad (or no) personality (like me), then probably the only answer is to win the lottery.
It's quite depressing to think that someone would have to resort to that, 'cause there ain't an iota (well very miniscule) chance of being very ugly, have bad (no) personality and win the lottery altogether.
While I am not ugly, I think? (just average and plain), my personality isn't well developed. If my emphasis wasn't on what people thought of me growing up, I'd probably have a more engaging personality. Now I am a plain girl with a non personality, which is next to being ugly. Let's hope I win the lottery! lol
a wise person once told me that if you are ugly and a bore you should try to make a lot of money to compensate. of course, you have to be smart to do that.
a wise person once told me that if you are ugly and a bore you should try to make a lot of money to compensate. of course, you have to be smart to do that.
True, money is more attractive to many poeple than looks and personality (to a certain degree) Have a nice house and a nice car and people (girls in this case) will think your'e very exotic........
Ah, true, but if everyone else buys into the culture's norms then, from their perspective, we do have bad personalities...so it comes out the same anyway.
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