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I agree with you.. How does it work? I consider myself an open minded person.. I come from a Hispanic, Catholic family only I have decided that religion is not for me.. I believe God, I just don't believe the bible or going to church will "save" me. (Sorry if I offend anyone). My boyfriend is not religious either but if he was, I wouldn't care so much because I love him. As long as you can accept each other and love each other no matter what your beliefs are, then everything will work out just fine..
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I couldn't have a serious, romantic relationship with anyone deeply religious. We'd just have views that were too different, about things that are too important. I love to have friends with views different to mine (as long as they enjoy debate as much as I do and don't get offended too easily), but a significant other is different.

By the way, Aurora, what do you mean by "connect spiritually?" "Spiritual" is a word I hear a lot, but I don't know what people understand by it.

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My husband doesnt share my beliefs....although he is spiritual in some sense and my creationist beliefs vary from his. We share so much else in common that it isnt that much of an issue. He isnt over the top and neither am I; And I am glad that we both are able to allow each other room for our beliefs or we wouldnt have the great relationship that we have. Almost nine years later...guess we have done something right.
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I've always wondered how this would work if one or both believed in one of those religions that condemns others (to hell or elsewhere) for not believing in what they do. I could still see love and respect happening I guess, but if you really thought your spouse was going to fry I don't see how that can ever be a healthy relationship.
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Our neighbors have this exact type of relationship. The husband is a 'militant' atheist by my definition (and I'm an atheist myself), and his wife is one of the most 'Christian' Christians you'll ever meet! Truly bizarre really — and they've been married for over 20 years. I still don't know how their relationship works. Sometimes opposites really do attract.
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I've only really dated or been interested in men who were either lapsed and indifferent or atheists. I just think that religion, especially for me, is an extremely private matter so that not having that in common really isn't an issue.

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I prefer to stick to Christians who have the same beliefs. I know from experiences I've heard that there are arguments and disputes because both people have differing beliefs and will not always get along because of it. Standards also are different with others' beliefs.

A wife is bound during all the time her husband is alive. But if her husband should fall asleep [in death], she is free to be married to whom she wants, only in [the] Lord. 1Corinthians 7:39


Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship do righteousness and lawlessness have? Or what sharing does light have with darkness 2 Corinthians 6:14

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I'd rather date someone who has similar beliefs, as my religion is a big "part" of who I am.
It is something I am not willing to hide, even if it means being single for the rest of my life.
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A wife is bound during all the time her husband is alive. But if her husband should fall asleep [in death], she is free to be married to whom she wants, only in [the] Lord. 1Corinthians 7:39


Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship do righteousness and lawlessness have? Or what sharing does light have with darkness 2 Corinthians 6:14
I assume that you don't say hello to or befriend non-Christians either, in accordance with the second book of John, verses 7-11.

Ah, Biblical literalism. Fun, eh?

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Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship do righteousness and lawlessness have? Or what sharing does light have with darkness 2 Corinthians 6:14
So, religious people are the Light and the Righteous, while I, on the other hand, represent darkness and don't follow law.

Or did I interpret that wrong?

Don't tell me those are just comparisons that don't imply what I stated above.
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So, religious people are the Light and the Righteous, while I, on the other hand, represent darkness and don't follow law.

Or did I interpret that wrong?

Don't tell me those are just comparisons that don't imply what I stated above.
Oh, there are way more offensive ones that could've been chosen, trust me.

I have a big issue with literal interpretation of the Bible.

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I prefer to stick to Christians who have the same beliefs. I know from experiences I've heard that there are arguments and disputes because both people have differing beliefs and will not always get along because of it. Standards also are different with others' beliefs.

A wife is bound during all the time her husband is alive. But if her husband should fall asleep [in death], she is free to be married to whom she wants, only in [the] Lord. 1Corinthians 7:39


Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship do righteousness and lawlessness have? Or what sharing does light have with darkness 2 Corinthians 6:14
I like these quotes

Heres a good one my SO has memorized:

Ephesians 5:25-27 (New International Version)

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

IMO religion keeps men in line, they are accountable to God for their actions, seen or unseen. Also God serves as a great mediator between two people.
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It's fine as long as you're not huge religious or non-religious people. The kind that constantly mentions "I love God" or prays or something(luckily not many are these days), or mocks God in any way. If either one of you are like that, odds are that'll be a lot of arguing. But if you're both just nice and normal people that don't make it the #1 thing in your life, then it should be fine. Just try to never bring it up.
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Oh, there are way more offensive ones that could've been chosen, trust me.

I have a big issue with literal interpretation of the Bible.
No one can possibly take it all literally. Some just go further than others. It's a gradient.

That quote from John you referenced....hoo boy. Never heard of that one beore. That might come in useful...
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No one can possibly take it all literally. Some just go further than others. It's a gradient.

That quote from John you referenced....hoo boy. Never heard of that one beore. That might come in useful...

It might be useful to look it up in a Bible handbook first because that is talking about false evangelists teaching false christian doctrine like the one that Jesus wasn't a flesh and blood human being but rather came to earth only as a spirit being. "Many deceivers, who do not acknowledge Jesus Christ as coming in the flesh"
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Most people I meet are atheists or some sort of nontraditional xtian who thinks evolution is plausible so I don't see religion as a problem.
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I don't think I could connect well with a highly religious/spiritual person. I'm not religious or spiritual at all. My ex suddenly became a buddhist and that did nooot work out. My best friend is Muslim. It's never been an issue, because our personalities are so alike. I'm a vegan, and she's never questioned it at all, because she views it as on the lvl of her religion. Plus neither of us have extreme views and are relaxed on the topic... would rather not discuss it anyways. Her bf is a Catholic. Not an issue there either (other than disapproving parents). So, if we're on a similar level... share values, live in a similar reality, then religion will not interfere with our relationship.
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It might be useful to look it up in a Bible handbook first because that is talking about false evangelists teaching false christian doctrine like the one that Jesus wasn't a flesh and blood human being but rather came to earth only as a spirit being. "Many deceivers, who do not acknowledge Jesus Christ as coming in the flesh"
Y'see, that's an interpretation, not literalism. Did he say 'false evangelists'? No. He might mean false evangelists, but it doesn't change what is in the wording of the Bible itself.

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I think the degree of influence and/or significance of the religious/spiritual(or non-religious/spiritual) belief is the deciding factor in these types of relationships. For those whose religious/spiritual(or non-religious/spiritual) beliefs are what I would called "functional", that is they believe(or not) but are liberal with regard to the ways of others, such relationships would appear to have the same 50/50 chance as those without this factor. But for the extreme/fanatical people involved in whatever belief system surely things would go awry rather quickly if they could even manage to start a relationship
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