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post #1 of 35 (permalink) Old 09-28-2020, 05:10 PM Thread Starter
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Have you ever been to a wedding?


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post #2 of 35 (permalink) Old 09-28-2020, 06:23 PM
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Going to a wedding is very uncomfortable, but my mother forced me to. Because my mother said she's not cooking any dinner for me. I was a teenager at the time.

All I did is made fun of the bride and groom in my mind throughout the wedding. My family at the wedding just bored one another into short conversations to skip time. My family reminded me of the automatons from the Epcot Spaceship Earth.

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I've been to a few, including elaborate traditional weddings to a simple courthouse wedding.

It's a solid experience! Like a party paid for by the marrying couple.
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Yes, but usually I'm in the wedding party. I've only been to a few as a guest.

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I've been to several. I was married once (didn't last long) and was the best man at my friend's wedding (or so people tell me; I have complete amnesia for that). Also my sister's, my cousin's, my friend's, and at least two of my ex-gf's friends' weddings. At one of them, I had to dance with the pastor's wife. (A completely surreal experience.)

Weddings are an absolute nightmare and I dreaded (and hated) every one of those. (Including my own.)

Is it just me or is it getting crazier out there.
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Iíve been to three. Weíre usually the only ones not invited to ones our family have, which is weird.

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Yea, I've been to 3 of them. My sister's wedding and two of my first cousins' weddings. I dont like going to them. I shouldn't have to go to any more weddings, though.
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Used to go, but stopped many years ago. They were always nightmarish to me, whether family or "friends". Not because of the anxiety, but because of how fake they feel. I just can't stand the fake feelings in those places. I just want to vomit.

Maybe it's a cultural thing too. I mean I probably wouldn't mind it as much if it wasn't such a standardized practice where I live. I mean so standardized to the level of what songs they play, the order in which they are played, where they are done, how people are dressed, the cake, etc. Even the dancing, etc.

It boggles my mind that people can ever be truly happy doing something so much like millions of others, something that should be so personal. It makes me so angry I want to cry.

I don't mind funerals as much, because I always find the "standardization" and "insincerity" in funerals more apparent, it's almost funny. When I go to a funeral I can be as standard and insincere as possible knowing everyone knows everyone is. It almost feels like revenge on society, lol.

Weddings on the other hand involve more self-deception on people's part. I just find groups of happy people - who have no real reason to be happy - a bit cringe.

Just googled an example [so typical, so cringe]. Oh god, I'm almost traumatized by the concept of men in suits dancing. I just can't explain why, lol. It's just something I loath from the dozen or so weddings I've attended in my life. And they probably end up with really sweaty armpits, ew.

If I really really had to, I could go to a Katb ketab which is less noisy and over the top, and has more like the funeral vibe (I can be insincere without being over the top) and just listen to boring people making declarations in microphones and have small talk about nonsense with people I haven't met in 10 years.

I sound like a cynical old f, maybe I am. I just hate weddings, uh.

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Pretty sure I've only been to a couple - including my own of course. Mine was one of the most stressful experiences of my life and I would never do it again. Thank God I'm too old anyway. Everyone staring at you, having to give a speech because I didn't realise my best friend was supposed to do it, then arguing with my wife about some nonsense in the car driving away. Wonderful.

I went to one with my wife a long time ago - one of her friends. That wasn't anywhere near as bad.
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Yeah when I was 12 and it was lame.
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Maybe about a dozen. My brother, sister, few of my cousins and friends. One of my remaining close friend is having one in a few months. But due to the pandemic, she's gonna be keeping it ultra small. At this point in my life, I will dread and be embarrassed to attend any more weddings I am invited to going forward. But in reality, I don't see myself being invited to any more weddings from here on out. A few of my other friends and cousins are also likely on the brink of being wedded, but doubtful I will be invited since I have long lost touch with them.

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Two, a cousin's and my sister's. I didn't have a speaking role so it wasn't bad, just stayed with immediate family.

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I've never been to one.
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I've never been to one.
Why did you not go to your brothers wedding? I think u wrote somewhere that your brother is married.
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3, cousins, they didn't get married to each other though, to separate people.






And all our yesterdays have lighted fools the way to dusty death
Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow,
A poor player that strut's and fret's his hour upon the stage and is heard no more,
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I've been to a few. Not a fan of them.
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I hate the church bit, you usually can't do that bit drunk






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Why did you not go to your brothers wedding? I think u wrote somewhere that your brother is married.
They didn't have a wedding. They had a civil ceremony.
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I Was Best Man at my brothers. Second wedding I ever been too, and first being part of. The first was at someones house when I was a little kid. Been to one reception that was held at their house. They had a garden wedding. The lady had a green thumb and had an elaborate backyard garden.

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