Going to a wedding is very uncomfortable, but my mother forced me to. Because my mother said she's not cooking any dinner for me. I was a teenager at the time.
All I did is made fun of the bride and groom in my mind throughout the wedding. My family at the wedding just bored one another into short conversations to skip time. My family reminded me of the automatons from the Epcot Spaceship Earth.
I've been to several. I was married once (didn't last long) and was the best man at my friend's wedding (or so people tell me; I have complete amnesia for that). Also my sister's, my cousin's, my friend's, and at least two of my ex-gf's friends' weddings. At one of them, I had to dance with the pastor's wife. (A completely surreal experience.)
Weddings are an absolute nightmare and I dreaded (and hated) every one of those. (Including my own.)
Yea, I've been to 3 of them. My sister's wedding and two of my first cousins' weddings. I dont like going to them. I shouldn't have to go to any more weddings, though.
Pretty sure I've only been to a couple - including my own of course. Mine was one of the most stressful experiences of my life and I would never do it again. Thank God I'm too old anyway. Everyone staring at you, having to give a speech because I didn't realise my best friend was supposed to do it, then arguing with my wife about some nonsense in the car driving away. Wonderful.
I went to one with my wife a long time ago - one of her friends. That wasn't anywhere near as bad.
On the plus side Harrison I don't think you are expected to do it again. Unless you separate from your wife and fall in love with somebody else of course.
I sympathise with your experience though. As a SA sufferer and somebody who can't even organise my own breakfast never mind a wedding then a big, traditional wedding sounds like Hell. My preference for a wedding ceremony would be to have it on a beach somewhere warm and to only have small number of honoured guests. Not that anyone is showing any interest in marrying me so I probably don't need to think about it haha.
Maybe about a dozen. My brother, sister, few of my cousins and friends. One of my remaining close friend is having one in a few months. But due to the pandemic, she's gonna be keeping it ultra small. At this point in my life, I will dread and be embarrassed to attend any more weddings I am invited to going forward. But in reality, I don't see myself being invited to any more weddings from here on out. A few of my other friends and cousins are also likely on the brink of being wedded, but doubtful I will be invited since I have long lost touch with them.
I Was Best Man at my brothers. Second wedding I ever been too, and first being part of. The first was at someones house when I was a little kid. Been to one reception that was held at their house. They had a garden wedding. The lady had a green thumb and had an elaborate backyard garden.
I have been to fourteen. Fifteen if you count the couple who had Indian family so had their actual wedding in India, but lived in England so had another big party in England that I attended. To be fair it was more impressive then many actual weddings I have been to so I guess Indians really know how to celebrate a marriage. At any rate it was the only ceremony where I was taught how to belly dance.
The worst wedding I went to was when I was a child. I didn't know the couple at all, it was the son of friends of my parents and the bride turned up to the church over an hour late. These were the pre smartphones days and I was bored out of my mind.
When it is a close friend or friends getting married I really enjoy the ceremony and seeing someone I care about looking so happy. The reception is always a drag though. Hours of socialising through awkward dancing and even more awkward small talk. I can't do small talk and don't understand people who can. What kind of dark wizardry do you have to study before you can become adept at engaging someone you just met in witty conversation? It's a mystery. My favourite reception had an Alpaca that you could meet and take photos with. I approved of that one. Alpacas are cute and no small talk is required when you meet an Alpaca.
Yes, I didn't go to my first one till late high school
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As someone who's always wanted gf, I was always concerned going in I'd let my frustration get the better of me, but for the 3 weddings I've been to, I've really enjoyed myself & have been really happy
Yes, when I was a child. I was the flower girl. I was too socially anxious to toss out the flowers though. My SA only increased each time a relative asked why I didn't
Nope. My mom secretly had a civil ceremony with my now dead stepdad not long before he killed himself. She didn't even tell me they got married until about 2 weeks after the fact. I was pissed and we got into a big fight about that.
I think I may have gone to one as a child that I've pretty much forgotten, also went to one 9 years ago for a friend.
One of my cousins got married a couple of years ago we were close as children but I haven't talked to her for over a decade I think (edit: actually I probably talked to her in 2016 at a funeral.) I think they got married abroad too.
Another cousin who I was never close with and only hung out with a few times when younger was supposed to get married this year but that didn't happen because of covid and then also around that time her dad died so this year must have really sucked for her. My mum was invited, not sure if I was or my brother, but I wouldn't have gone anyway because seeing extended family is really awkward.
Probably around 30. They're always bittersweet as all big parties are. I love being surrounded by people--the electricity, the potential to make a connection, have fun--but I tend not to be able to escape my shell so they can be devastating in that sense. Double edged sword.
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