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post #1 of 26 (permalink) Old 10-03-2020, 05:16 PM Thread Starter
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Have you ever been rejected by someone you liked?


i have.
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post #2 of 26 (permalink) Old 10-03-2020, 08:10 PM
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I never experience being rejected by someone nor like someone.

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I've never NOT been rejected by someone I like...

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Romantically? Yes. Once. I told my best friend that I was in love with her. Did not end well, lol.

But I don't seem to develop attachments to people unless they show a lot of interest in me, and since people almost never show any interest in me, and I never develop any attachment to them, rejection isn't something that has ever been a problem for me. I suppose that's a silver lining if you're as ugly as I am.

I fell for my best friend because she obviously seemed to care about me and gave me a lot of attention. People don't have to show romantic interest for me to get crushes on them. But they have to convince my brain they actually like me and are interested in me in some way. Otherwise I never think about them. The idea of pining away for someone who pays no attention to you has always seemed very strange to me.

Is it just me or is it getting crazier out there.
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Who hasn't? It's just life. Some people are more rejected than others but that's also just life. People are not obligated to not reject us and we have to learn to handle it.
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I used to have regular crushes until ~ 2011. I met someone online and I really liked them. She rejected me completely though. I don't think I've ever had a true crush since. I think I had a couple (more like 5-6 months) where I felt really really bad. She ended up blocking me. I honestly don't think I've been capable of crushing on anyone since then. I just used up my ability to be that vulnerable.

I was rejected a few times before that though, they were even more cringe and awkward and cringe, but that was the one was different for some reason.

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Rejection...

Sounds like the story of my life.
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post #9 of 26 (permalink) Old 10-06-2020, 01:06 AM
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Who hasn't? It's just life. Some people are more rejected than others but that's also just life. People are not obligated to not reject us and we have to learn to handle it.
Tell that to the snowflake generation.
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Yep but instead of outright rejecting me, they pretended that they might be somewhat interested for their own amusement for about a year until they realised it'd gone too far and then rejected me properly.

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Not really? I've been way too cautious for most of my life and confessed to a crush once (it was a success).

In terms of friendships, I've had many indirect rejections (people not having time for me, people who just wanted me as a sounding board, etc.). I've learned to shrug and move on but sometimes it still hurts. There is this one broken friendship from like a decade ago that I'm probably never going to get over.

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Not really. I never get to the point where asking a girl out wouldn't come across as creepy

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Yep. More than once. I'm still not over my last one.
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post #14 of 26 (permalink) Old 10-14-2020, 02:15 AM
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Mostly when I confess attraction to someone they kind of ignore/dismiss it or say thanks and that's the end of that. So I guess yes but more explicit rejection doesn't really happen unless it has to I guess like you ask them out somewhere or whatever.

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Yeah the few times Ive mustered the courage to make the first move I was shot down.
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Explicitly no, at least that I remember, in a general sense mostly my fault probably, I eventually kinda just drift away or engage hermit/loner mode & disappear, maintaining a sociable thing or feeling obligated to maintain something wipes me out & mildly freaks me out.

I've never asked anyone on a date so that doesn't factor in, can't be rejected if you never ask <a href="http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/images/smilies/lol.gif" border="0" alt="" title="" >:-)</a>






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post #17 of 26 (permalink) Old 10-18-2020, 11:57 AM
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I would say yeah. There are times when I try to interact more with people I think are cool, but they will get all weird and distant as if to reinforce that they don’t want much to do with me after all.
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post #18 of 26 (permalink) Old 10-18-2020, 01:27 PM
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Yes - but I rarely make the first move so as not to have to feel rejection. Usually though the rejection will come anyway, later on when I'm more emotionally attached. Which is why during the last two opportunities I had for a relationship I bailed right away to make sure I didn't get rejected or hurt. Plus I knew we weren't compatible anyway. Also I'm too weird and like to be alone too much to be in one anyway really.

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post #19 of 26 (permalink) Old 10-18-2020, 01:32 PM
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I eventually kinda just drift away or engage hermit/loner mode & disappear, maintaining a sociable thing or feeling obligated to maintain something wipes me out & mildly freaks me out.
This is totally me, more so with friends than GFs though.

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post #20 of 26 (permalink) Old 10-18-2020, 01:36 PM
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Peihan totally rejected me lol (I asked her out). some gfs broke up with me. a couple others I asked out said no. an ex flatmate didnt want to be friends anymore. ouch. mostly people pre-reject me because I'm not very interesting.

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