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Do You Have a Car License?


Do you have a driver's license? I'm in my late 30s, do not have one and have never actually tried driving. It would give me a panic attack when parking with all the people staring at me. Anybody feel the same?
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I guess I'm in a similar situation. Although, I also feel like I could accomplish it if I truly wanted to. Problem is I don't want to.

I don't want another major expense in life, given I've made it this far without a vehicle. The thought of having something else to constantly upkeep and spend hundreds or thousands of dollars on mentally exhausts me.

Some people are only supposed to be passengers, maybe.
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Yes but I hate driving. Unfortunately, where I live, you need a car to get around.

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Yeah I got my driver's license last year. I was nervous about getting it and driving but now I like being able to go somewhere without relying on somebody to drive me.
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Yes. I got it when I was 20. Haven't owned or touched a car in 5 years though.

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Yes, and I have driven almost 500,000 miles in the almost 27 years since.

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all learnt. only 5 years of this fresh 2018 licence. as all my recovery(Expert) being unemployment, no partner... all improvement physical & medical proving worth health
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No and I don't think I could afford a car unless I saved on rent by living with roommates. Cars seem really pricey. I don't like the unknown part. Never know when the car will break down or when you will get into an accident.
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Yes, but I've never really made use of it after passing my test because I've never driven without someone else in the car to guide me yet. I'm still kind of scared to drive by myself, and now my mother is too since she got in an accident recently. My family isn't letting me drive theirs so I'm stuck without a car too. The only solution is saving for one, since it's very depressing being trapped in these suburbs without one.



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It's kind of weird when I actually think about it: driving is one of the few things that doesn't really give me anxiety. I don't care about other people while I'm driving as long as they're not in my car, and thankfully I don't drive with others often. I actually rather like driving alone, as long as there's not too much traffic. It's relaxing.

That said, people who go way too fast are a pet peeve of mine. Ever since I got a ticket for speeding a few years ago, when I didn't realize how fast I was going down a hill in a residential area, I've been paranoid about my speed. Not necessarily because of the law itself but because I can't stand wasting that much money. I'm no slowpoke, but I won't go more than a few MPH over the speed limit -- yet I'm constantly getting passed by people who go way too fast. Like, I get that everyone is pressed for time or just wants to get where they're going ASAP, but that's no excuse for breaking the law. At least they'll be getting the expensive tickets -- not me!

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I got a regular old full license. How it works round here, you usually have to take a written test, then an actual driving test, then another one. I passed the written test, then the working one, then the next, all on the first try, I guess I'm just good or maybe too absorbed. My sister failed each of the first two at least five times each. I'm actually so damn old I can be a test driver for kids 16 and up. After 25 I can drive with any random folks and make sure they are on the right track without any making sure. I'm an everyday driver and it seems strange for me for folks to be regulating it or worrying about it. You about got to do it, cause public transit is pretty well nonexistent here. My niece is hitting driving age right about now and I will probably have to give her lessons. Not hard to drive, also not hard to drive well. It's quite easy to follow the rules and it works, what do you know.
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Yes, got my regular driver's license at 16 and my Class A commercial driver's license at 33.
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Yes got it at 21 but still need a lot of work driving. Don't really have a car to help me practice more though. Been over a year since I've been practicing at all. Not sure if I need therapy to help with my driving anxiety or what as well . Biggest issue though because rides are so expensive.

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Yeah I got my driver's license last year. I was nervous about getting it and driving but now I like being able to go somewhere without relying on somebody to drive me.
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I've had a DL for 40 years now, got it at 16. I failed the driving test the first time due to anxiety but took it again a couple weeks later and passed. Took me a while to get comfortable driving, a lot depends on whether you are comfortable in the car you are driving. I got comfortable driving my parent's ford Fairmont, an easy car to drive. Since I live out in the country I'd be really stuck if I couldn't drive. Driving around here is pretty easy, not that much traffic in most places. I do make quite a few trips into NJ every year but it's northern NJ so it's a pretty pleasant drive. Due to my fear of heights I do make sure I avoid roads that cling to the side of a cliff and some crazy bridges.lol
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Yes, passed after 4 attempts. I like driving actually but I think you have to force yourself to drive everyday after you get your licence until the anxiety goes away.

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Yes, passed after 4 attempts. I like driving actually but I think you have to force yourself to drive everyday after you get your licence until the anxiety goes away.
Idk one guy tried that and boom he was so nervous he killed someone and got manslaughter charges.

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Perhaps force was the wrong word. If you are unsafe then that's a whole different thing. I just find it automatic driving now because I drive around the same streets all the time. After 7 years of driving everyday very little makes me anxious about it. New areas are a bit different but I just avoid them at peak times if possible, I also still take trains/buses if going to busy city centres.

Weirdly I see the most awful driving on Sunday and bank holidays, people just seem to forget to look before pulling out of junctions on quiet days.

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does the car ease any SA?

i love any machine as a friend. it does what i want.
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