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post #1 of 8 (permalink) Old 12-02-2020, 11:54 PM Thread Starter
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No dignity for old people in this society. Too tired to articulate anything except my fear of fourth decade and beyond. If I did so little and made myself so unhappy with all the advantages of youth, what chance do I have going forward? Will a computer hooked up to the internet be enough to numb me through the coming decades of loss, loneliness and decay?
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The young worship youth, but the advantage of being older is you don't have to care about what kids think because you have more experience and know better.

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Well, I'll tell you what. The worst consequences of "decay" tend to happen if you are sedentary. If you fear the health consequences of getting old, the best thing you can do for yourself is to find a way to stay active, even if it means just going for a long walk by yourself every day. People who do not stay reasonably active as they age tend to have serious health problems much sooner. Also helps to find a passion. Anything will do as long as you enjoy it.

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The young worship youth, but the advantage of being older is you don't have to care about what kids think because you have more experience and know better.
It seems to me like the whole society is built around youth worship to a sick degree. There are few things sadder than old people pretending desperately that they are young and needing everyone to lie to them about it too. But it's hard to blame them when there's so little respect for age now that we literally lock old people into institutions so that we don't have to see them, just like we do criminals, homeless and drug addicts.

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Well, I'll tell you what. The worst consequences of "decay" tend to happen if you are sedentary. If you fear the health consequences of getting old, the best thing you can do for yourself is to find a way to stay active, even if it means just going for a long walk by yourself every day. People who do not stay reasonably active as they age tend to have serious health problems much sooner. Also helps to find a passion. Anything will do as long as you enjoy it.
I do exercise regularly though finding a passion is a much taller order. The most enjoyment I get is from the anticipation of going on a weekend computer binge of games and porn, which ends up being enjoyable for exactly one day usually. They are empty replacements for the actual experiences of competency and intimacy I might feel passionate about if I still felt they were remotely possible. I guess hope is one of those things that tend to die with youth as well, at least for those of us without kids or involvement in anything.
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The young worship youth, but the advantage of being older is you don't have to care about what kids think because you have more experience and know better.
Yeah, this. The older I get, the less I care what anybody else thinks. Another advantage is that the things that seemed important fifteen or twenty years ago seem so trite now, and I'm finding my happiness in much more meaningful (albeit smaller) places. It's far easier to see the forest for the trees these days. (Or at least more of the forest.) In a lot of ways I don't think it's fair to compare the way I viewed getting older back then to how I view it now because it's two very different perspectives. So who knows how I'll feel in another twenty years? I understand the frustration with our society's obsession with youth, but I think you're doing yourself a disservice to have already decided that there's nothing in store for you but misery.

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post #6 of 8 (permalink) Old 12-07-2020, 02:06 PM
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You know what really makes me sad ? When I hear people talk about raising a child like its a burden. When I hear people say things like "getting married will slow down my goals" "a child is too expensive"...."I want to enjoy myself more"

I mean who are we kidding here ? Has life got so comfortable and superficial that we have forgotten our own mortality ?

The way I hear people talk about having children and marriage these days like its some form of slavery makes me sad.

I wonder what all these people will think when they are alone on their death bed with all their riches, but no family to share it with mm.

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I am older now, and I don't believe you care less what people think as you get older, that is a cliche a lot of people use. If someone physically or verbally attacks you, because you are older, it is supposed to sting less? i don't buy that for a second. If someone targets you at age 20 or tries to harm you or your family, why would that hurt any less at age 60? I just think personally, the only way i really care less what people think is just me having a generally passive "whatever" kind of apathetic attitude about life as I get older.

Some old people deserve respect, and some are jerks, it all depends on the person. If a Nazi is 80 years old, should we all respect them and be cordial because old people deserve respect? If an 80 year old is a jerk, should we feel obligated to show them respect?

One thing about old people that Chris Rock did a bit about is "You don't want to be the old guy at the club. He isn't really old, just too old to be at a club." So if you see guys in their 50's or 60's well past a mid-life crisis and they are at a hip nightclub hitting on 20-somethings, that looks totally out of place. Not wrong exactly but odd.

I think me as a guy, i unfortunately do look at marriage and children as a financial weight that i could not handle. I also am sad about the fact i probably will never get married and have kids, but in logical terms I do see money as a huge factor. I had chances as some women were crazy about me in the past, I simply felt that they wanted to suffocate me and spend every minute with me, so i ended those flings. The way i see it, I would rather be alone and go to sports games or movies and relax in peace rather than talk for 12 hours a day and sit in a room with someone on top of me without room to even breathe.

Women with barely any money i think still will want children because it is just a biological need so they feel complete. Men even with money, often will make a logical decision to not get married for financial reasons, which is sad on some level and smart in a way also.
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Yeah but you have to remember, the youth of today will inherit the planet older generations destroyed, they're gonna have their own battles, let them have their moment.






And all our yesterdays have lighted fools the way to dusty death
Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow,
A poor player that strut's and fret's his hour upon the stage and is heard no more,
It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.
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