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1. Leaving school too young - should have tried to stay.
2. Not buying a house or property in my name.
3. Blowing my inheritance like all the other money I ever had.
4. Just generally being terrible with money.
5. Stopping that medication that time and getting very manic - then going off and not telling my wife what I was doing.
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Just about all of them involves mostly with "listening to my heart and they typical motivational thoughts, instead of listening to logic and the safe/cowardly route of thinking". Because of that, I am now mostly stuck with adhering strictly to a very safe and conservative way of thinking and making my decisions. Kind of similar to Ben Stiller's character in the movie Along Came Polly.

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Oh, this is about bad decisions we've made. Well, that's harder.

Um, I could say I regret not coming out when I was a teenager. But I probably would have been murdered. And I only wish that had happened about half of the time, so I'm kind of ambivalent about that.

Haven't really made a lot of other decisions that I regret. I've always tried to follow my heart to the extent I felt safe to do so. Living that way has destroyed my life, from a cultural perspective, because I should have tried to be as normal and safe as possible, but I don't really regret it. I wouldn't have been any happier (or even capable) of living more practically than I have.

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1. Experimenting with drugs as a teenager leading to later addiction
2. Dropping out of school at 17
3. Not buying bitcoin when I first heard about it
4. Not spending more time with my dad while he was alive
5. I was awful to an ex of mine during some of my heavy drug use years and she didn't deserve it
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I should probably regret what I studied at uni, but I wanted to study it I just wanted to study a bunch of other things too and you can't do everything.

Other than that I have no reason to live so continuing to live is a dumb choice I'm making atm. There isn't a lot of stuff that I have any control over.

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I don't think I actually think in terms of regrets when it comes to things I've done - we do what we did at the time for a range of reasons and there's very little point in regretting that.

I tend to look at life and wish I'd actually just been more capable of doing things differently. But that's not regret - how can you regret you weren't stronger or had less anxiety?

A lot of the choices I made were based on my inability to be any other way. Whether that was caused by anxiety, avoidance or in more recent years - mania.
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Doing drugs when young
Not taking sports seriously or trying hard when I was on a team
Wasting time on certain people and being too nice to them
Being a jerk to people that didn't deserve it
Avoiding girls


also: not getting treatment earlier

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1) Never talking about what was going on at home to anyone (not even when it ended in hospital for me)
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3) Not trying make friends in university and getting a girlfriend.
4) Going to university and losing so much time studying for nothing basically (I don't spend most of the money I make + I somehow don't like this job)
5) Staying at my current work place because I am to lazy to look for better.

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5) A genuine offer from the bottom of my heart not being taken seriously

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not choosing my own college path.
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Not dating more in high school
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Not going further with a girl I made out with when I was ten
I also regret every other time where I could have gotten a girlfriend or sex but chose not to because I was scared and nervous like a little *****.



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Taking for granted that the best things in my life would last. I can probably stop there.
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1.Not seeking real help for my SAD and other issues that I struggled with (and still struggle with) when I was younger.
2.Turning to drugs (mostly powder cocaine) to try and cope with my issues instead of seeking proper help. Which in the long run made my issues even worse.
3.Not standing up for myself from verbally abusive family members even though I knew they were full of sh!t.
4.Dropping out of high school cause I was too weak to deal with other people. Too many people around so couldn't focus on anything.
5.Pushing people away. Instead of trying to make an effort to stay in touch with people/friends that I grew up with,I just stopped trying and mostly isolated myself. I guess I'm lucky enough to still have some people around that care about me.
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Probably that time I blocked the shot/puck with my groin. It wasn't supposed to be my groin blocking it.

I only mention one as I don't remember the others too much after the groin shot. Actually, I don't remember much of anything after that.

Forgot to mention this wasn't a serious game. I must have been thinking with my nads?

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I usually go with the gut feeling, so difficult to regret anything, except maybe those times when I didn't go with the gut feeling... Sure some alternative decisions would have been objectively better, but they would have felt wrong and they still do and I would choose to do the same again if I had the chance.

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Oddly enough, every regret I've ever had could have been prevented by abortion.

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Oddly enough, every regret I've ever had could have been prevented by abortion.
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