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You ever feel like you want retribution on people who hurt you?

I suddenly start thinking about this guy who i haven't seen for years.

I thought he was my friend, but I later realised he wasn't.

He scammed me out of some money (only £10 but that's beside the point), made several insulting comments about me and only was 'friends' with me because I had a decent job and money (he had nothing).

I am now thinking about it all and it's making me angry and frustrated. I feel like I want some form of revenge on him. I literally want to see him right now have him give me any reason to punch him in the face. But I realise that's not a very normal way of handling these feelings
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No. I don't get vengeful like that. I tend to be extremely apathetic about people who've wronged me. But I think I'm the odd one, not you.

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Yes, I have feelings like that... Want to see quite a few people suffering really bad, even worse than they made me suffer...

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Oh my god, all the time. Sometimes it's all I can think about. I used think like that a lot. But now it's just every now and again. Then again. I seem to have always been like that. I seem to feel things more intensely then others. Especially anger. I seem to get irritable a lot more then others. And when I am angry, the only thing that can calm me down seems to be time.
I have learnt to simply shut myself off from people when I get that angry. And just tell them to leave me alone.
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post #5 of 24 (permalink) Old 12-10-2019, 03:32 AM
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Yes. Due to countless times of personally witnessing reversed karma. Bad things happening to good people, and incessant good things happening to bad horrible people. Worse is with the latter, the bad horrible people will just be further reinforced to do more bad things with constant good things happening for them, thus gradually spreading their bad influence on others, making others bad people as well. And the world gradually becomes a worse and worse place thanks to this.

Enjoy any good things, even the little and menial ones, as you will never know what impending distresses could descend upon you in a moment.

If I fail to adapt to the fault of others, it is my fault.
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post #6 of 24 (permalink) Old 12-10-2019, 05:53 AM
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The best revenge is living well

And I always thought this would be
the land of milk and honey
Oh but I came to find out that it's
all hate and money
And there's a canopy of greed holding me down.
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Not really, it won't matter if you rationalise that the world's a stage & we're all just playing a part, somebody has to be the lemon, you got rid of him for £10, that was cheap.

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Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow,
A poor player that strut's and fret's his hour upon the stage and is heard no more,
It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.
- Macbeth
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post #8 of 24 (permalink) Old 12-10-2019, 08:33 AM
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Won't do any good since people are always going to want to hurt me. I would just like to figure out how to be self sufficient and successful at doing so, so I can get the hell away from people.
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post #9 of 24 (permalink) Old 12-10-2019, 09:01 AM
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No. I honestly don't think about them too much anymore.

I'm not a happy person by any means and still think about what others have done to me but I don't often think about retribution.

We haven't lived in anything remotely close to "real" since the turn of the century.
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post #10 of 24 (permalink) Old 12-10-2019, 01:38 PM
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I did a lot when I was younger, but let go of thoughts like that years ago. Dwelling on negativity only brings more negativity.
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post #11 of 24 (permalink) Old 12-10-2019, 01:59 PM
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yes kinda , i feel to.

for example, the only love i truly had was a woman online from another country. she claimed she loved me. I felt for it. then she ditched me , and she never ever contacted me again.

i felt sad about it for a long time. I thought if she trully loved me like she said, why dont she talk to me now ?

i trully felt rejected by this . and i never had a proper ending to that case.
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post #12 of 24 (permalink) Old 12-10-2019, 03:55 PM
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I absolutely don't.

I have no vengeance in me or ill will towards people. Even if..

I reserve it only for myself. I alone bear responsibility for anything.

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post #13 of 24 (permalink) Old 12-10-2019, 10:00 PM
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Oh yes. Many people who wronged me in my earlier days. Revenge would be so nice.
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post #14 of 24 (permalink) Old 12-10-2019, 10:52 PM
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post #15 of 24 (permalink) Old 12-11-2019, 04:21 AM
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Unless it's something really, really bad I just let it go. Every time I've ever held a grudge it just caused me to subject myself to anger and frustration and all sorts of toxic emotions that made me feel bad, and there's no need for it. I've learned to just let things go. It's the only way to be at peace with it.
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Not really. If someone's done me wrong then I don't want to see them ever again in my life.

A lot of bad stuff will happen to you and we all have to pretty much deal with it.

I often read online stories about people or family members who've done them wrong and in the end, they can't even do much of anything. The person they trusted betrayed them and they can't do anything about it.

Used or be used.

She was very beautiful. Kind, but sad.
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post #17 of 24 (permalink) Old 12-11-2019, 03:27 PM
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I was revenge oriented when younger and did act on those emotions. Now I regret that thinking and try to be forgiving.

ďAs I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.Ē

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post #18 of 24 (permalink) Old 12-11-2019, 08:02 PM
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Yes and no. Some times I feel like they're not worth my time/they didn't know any better so god bless them. Other times I want to watch them burn. I have mood swings.
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post #19 of 24 (permalink) Old 12-11-2019, 08:45 PM
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All the time. I think a lot of that anger contributes to my current sadness. But lately I've just been pushing it away, for better or for worse. There was this one horrible woman who kicked me out of a living situation. That's the only person that I feel I'd actively want revenge against but I don't think she's worth it and would hope that karma deals her a nasty one for all her nastiness.
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